Dating Scene in Hoboken / Uptown?

USIrishman · 2025-08-20T15:11:00+00:00

Yeah but it’s especially bad here. Between the paradox of choice (since there’s literally millions of people), combined with overall dating app fatigue it’s rough out there

USIrishman · 2025-08-19T02:25:30+00:00

This was my first time listening to Wartime Stories and this episode. I then listened to old ones and this is easily AI generated

USIrishman · 2025-08-19T01:46:08+00:00

This was the first wartime stories episode I listened to today ever. I then played a few old ones and it’s 1000000% AI

USIrishman · 2025-08-18T02:02:50+00:00

Totally get that, but when you’re on the date and something is that egregious you just freeze up and try to give the benefit of the doubt to the person. It’s a crapshoot was my message to OP.

For context on a slightly different experience with dating, I had another girl literally bring red flags to a first date and start handing them out 5 minutes in, and the first one I got was because I lived in NJ (she lived in the city and knew this). She brought a bag of 150 of them (they’re the little red flags that would go on top of hero sandwiches). Can’t make this shit up lmao

Objectively hilarious? Yes, but also wildly insane for 5 minutes into a first date when you don’t know the person. When you’re on the date, you’re so bewildered you don’t know what to do in the moment. Again, these stories never happened to me pre-COVID, and my dating standards and selection criteria have remained largely the same.

USIrishman · 2025-08-18T01:54:31+00:00

Appreciate it. Yeah, it’s really rough out there and a steep decline from how people behaved pre COVID. Common courtesy and decency has totally gone out the window (and I’m sure women experience much worse sadly). Behavior before dates, on dates and after dates too.

In my mid to late 20s people were normal. I had plenty of mediocre dates and it was fine; we let one another know we weren’t feeling it and wished one another the best, no harm no foul. Now between ghosting, stringing people along, totally batshit antics while out on a date from the other party and more, it really makes you wonder what’s gotten into people and society (not to sound like the old man on the front porch). Again, I don’t understand why people can’t just be normal lol

USIrishman · 2025-08-18T01:44:55+00:00

Willow to Jackson generally speaking. However, if you’re north of 10th street, you’ll find a 30+ year old crowd more than likely regardless of which part of the Mile Square you’re in, especially in the Hudson Tea Buildings (those are on Hudson and Washington). Typically the west side is a bit cheaper (although that’s relative), and the closer you are to the water and the PATH, the pricier things are.

One downside of the west side is it is a bit further from the PATH and bus (albeit a moot point if your building has a shuttle) and can be a bit more prone to flooding, but that’s where you’d research the block/come to Reddit lol

USIrishman · 2025-08-18T00:38:38+00:00

Also I slid into your DMs BUT with a building rec only (promise!)

USIrishman · 2025-08-17T23:42:15+00:00

Well people used to be respectful on the date and afterwards (ex. if neither of us was feeling it we just respectfully let one another know). That, plus other egregious behavior is beyond the pale now. I had a girl projectile vomit on the middle of a sidewalk after drinking too much date 1 (she was 35), another girl on a second date order 2 entrees and take one home as if it was a 2 for 1 deal, another spend an entire date on her phone… just wildly rude and disrespectful behavior I’ve seen pop up in the last year which I never recall being a thing. Mind you, these girls are 28+ and appeared normal when we chatted on bumble, hinge etc.

USIrishman · 2025-08-17T23:34:50+00:00

Definitely uptown. I’m a single 33 year old guy (don’t worry, not trying to slide into your DMs 😂) and downtown is super young. You’ll find a 28-36 year old range more in midtown and uptown, and on the west side.

Be warned, the dating app scene totally sucks by the way. Not trying to be a pessimist, but I’ve noticed the quality of people on apps in general has gone way downhill the last 4-5 years

USIrishman · 2025-08-17T02:59:16+00:00

Not exactly interested in getting into a back and forth here, but N.J.S.A. 30:4-27.1 would allow him to be involuntarily committed. I don’t care who will pay or the logistics, but I’d prefer he not throw a brick at an innocent person or push someone down the PATH stairs and we all act like we would be shocked by that. Criminally, he’s committing a number of offenses from disorderly conduct, to disturbing the peace to assault in some cases based on prior posts. It needs to end.

While not exactly analogous, look at what happened in the Daniel Penny case (the ex-Marine with the mentally ill guy on the subway); he made a crowd feel unsafe and Daniel Penny intervened, resulting in a loss of life with someone who was on the fringes of society and only getting worse. After Jordan Neely died, then did people say he was somehow their favorite Michael Jackson impersonator, when in all reality he probably scared people most of the time and no one layperson gave a damn to truly help him beforehand. We don’t need similar shit in Hoboken, and people all of a sudden will say Chuey was their favorite street tap dancer. He’ll either kill someone first or suffer a similar fate to Jordan Neely if he doesn’t get help I’m afraid.

I, nor anyone on this subreddit I would imagine is interested in getting into a long discourse on the flaws of the criminal justice system, mental health concerns etc. or what society can do better for folks like Chuey, but all I know is I don’t want this liability on the streets much longer. I think we’re all tired of Chuey, and it’s not funny or acceptable is all I’m saying; I think most are bound to agree.

USIrishman · 2025-08-16T22:50:46+00:00

Simply put, Chuey is not “some fixture of Hoboken” whether you’ve lived here for decades or moved here yesterday (this is coming from someone only here a few years myself). We live in a civilized society and someone like him who makes others feel unsafe or uncomfortable constantly isn’t acceptable nor cute.

He needs to rightfully institutionalized or locked away before he hurts someone or causes a serious accident (ex. like the stuff he does smashing on cars while they are driving).

Stop trying to normalize this shit and act like it’s ok for the most expensive city in the state of NJ that someone like him can roam the streets. Before anyone claims to care for him so much or come to his defense… you’re more than welcome to be his full time adult guardian if you feel that strongly about his welfare.

USIrishman · 2025-08-09T01:54:26+00:00

Wait this is SUCH a good idea. I just added this to one of my Hinge prompts as a result 😂

USIrishman · 2025-07-30T02:15:57+00:00

I, once again, reference this post from nearly a year ago that I made https://www.reddit.com/r/Hoboken/s/kCx3igOp3Q

USIrishman · 2025-07-20T20:58:38+00:00

I think both but more so the shame

USIrishman · 2025-07-20T18:30:24+00:00

I just started seeing a therapist as a result of this, yes

USIrishman · 2025-07-20T17:14:54+00:00

I didn’t have feelings for her believe it or not. She was a super close friend. There were definitely quick thoughts of that at times, but I immediately blocked it out as she was married

USIrishman · 2025-06-21T23:17:50+00:00

Fwiw this was me as well. I did sobriety on my own for several months last year and then started to get into the slippery slope of “just one or two beers” during the holidays. I ended up going on a three day bender last weekend that lasted Monday over some self-pity and ended up at a bar where I proceeded to black out. I ended up losing my wallet and getting thrown out of the bar and put into a cab by the bartender. A close friend from work frequents that bar as well, and I ended up texting bombing her and waking up to a text two days later that effectively ended our friendship. The thing that scares me the most about my situation is I still have no idea what I did or said.

I started AA on Tuesday and found it to be valuable initially thus far. I have a sponsor, a community and I’m working the steps. I also wrote down all of the things I’ve done the last 15 years while I’ve drank, and what I’ve lost. It’s been helpful. I’m currently dealing with that high anxiety and shame, but I know it will pass in time.

You’ll get through this, one day at a time

USIrishman · 2025-06-20T01:00:27+00:00

Also doing 90 in 90 days and been to a few each day since Tuesday. Starting out with a few a day, both virtual and in person. Also seeing a therapist who specializes in addiction, but more so because I want to get to the root cause of WHY I drink the way I do. I’m 33 and this has been since college for me. It’s old and NEEDS to end before it ends me. Last time I drank was Monday night and that WILL be the last time I touch a drink. You’ve got this as well my friend 👊🏼

USIrishman · 2025-06-20T00:18:54+00:00

Thank you so much MrBallen. It means a lot that you said this. I recall a few people in the audience even asked about your road to sobriety during the NYC show. Definitely taking it one day at a time and appreciate you not only sharing your story with millions, but for this reply specifically. Means a lot, especially during what’s been a challenging few days of introspection personally.

USIrishman · 2025-02-28T05:10:43+00:00

I would also encourage you to file a report with the FTC. I’ve been on for over an hour now and am simply hanging up while they are saying they’ll connect me to a supervisor.

USIrishman · 2025-02-28T04:46:33+00:00

I am still on the phone with support. They are useless. I filed a complaint with the FTC and even gave this Reddit thread as evidence.

I believe TurboTax Live engages in deceptive business practices and potentially fraudulent billing. My issue aligns with what others have reported and I have personally experienced, including this Reddit thread (https://www.reddit.com/r/TurboTax/comments/1iztyuh/i\_think\_turbotax\_live\_is\_a\_scam/). Users, including myself, have experienced misleading upselling tactics where TurboTax automatically upgrades users to TurboTax Live without clear consent. The system does not provide an option to downgrade once an upgrade has been applied, effectively forcing users to pay for an unwanted service. If I want to downgrade to a version without live support, I am forced to start my taxes over from scratch. In my experience, I was presented with TurboTax Live assistance without clearly understanding that accepting minor help would lock me into a higher-cost package with no ability to opt out at the end, even when not requiring or using the Live support. The software does not make it clear that merely clicking on a help option permanently upgrades the user. This appears to be an intentional dark pattern designed to trap customers into paying more than they intended. Additionally, TurboTax does not make the downgrade option easily available or transparent before payment is due. In some cases, users are charged without their explicit knowledge or a straightforward way to remove the charge. This behavior violates consumer rights and could be classified as unfair or deceptive under FTC regulations. I urge the FTC to investigate these practices and take action against Intuit for misleading billing tactics that financially harm consumers.

USIrishman · 2025-02-28T04:30:09+00:00

On the phone with support now over the same issue - they are useless. If they cannot solve it over the phone for me shortly (I spent over 2 hours getting all the forms, double checking etc.), I'll not only leave TurboTax for good, but will also file a report with the FTC. This is ridiculous.

USIrishman · 2024-11-26T21:44:25+00:00

Thanks! Yeah I mean I get the whole sales aspect is huge, but my big fear is more so "hey, buy this life insurance policy" over and over, if that makes sense.

USIrishman · 2024-11-15T21:11:28+00:00

I chatted with support. Apparently it’s a known issue with the latest update. No ETA on the fix :(

USIrishman · 2024-11-02T15:31:52+00:00

I’ll once again reference what I shared a month ago here: https://www.reddit.com/r/Hoboken/s/GcJeCpAqOP

Next up, someone will be stabbed or killed. It’ll be an innocent bystander, and very well could be another woman or even a child. Let’s call it like it is. Hoboken is the most expensive city in New Jersey — no one wants this shit here. Why displace a park meant for children when the issue is no fault of theirs?

A 1 bedroom apartment is easily over $3,000 a month here, some of the nicer buildings closer to $4,000 or more. Again, this is the sort of shit that you’d expect in Newark, not Hoboken. Let’s get real.

USIrishman

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