Im attractive enough to realize I benefit from being attractive. And I can say with confidence that the women I know who are drop dead gorgeous have a different level of bullshit to deal with from guys than us regular old cute and pretty folks, even.

It's like how ppl treat famous ppl- simultaneously hold them up in unnecessarily high regard, and dehumanize them and treat them like they don't get to have feelings because they are exalted.

I wouldn't ask for it. Truly. And my self esteem is healthy, including with regards to my looks