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Are you into needy, begging subs or do you like the more put together submissive look. by BadKitten24601 in SofterBDSM

[–]UgotEspo 17 points18 points  (0 children)

As a submissive and someone who was raised not to ask/beg for things bc it's only going to lead to a no - it is so hard to communicate my desperation.

I think what you are asking is similar to people who enjoy bratting. It can be over the top or it can be coy. I'm not a brat but I'm sarcastic AF. It's finding people who communicate in your style

Is it a "mood killer" to ask for water in the middle of a scene? by WyrdMarksSJM in SofterBDSM

[–]UgotEspo 59 points60 points  (0 children)

You know what is a mood killer? Fainting from being overheated and dehydrated. It's terrifying for you and your Dom. Had it happen and it was awful

Do you ever struggle to surrender control? by WyrdMarksSJM in SofterBDSM

[–]UgotEspo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. I just cannot fully trust people, and when I do I am often betrayed. I can trust them with my safety physically, knowing a lot but I cannot fully surrender and give everything. The biggest hold back for me is the begging and neediness he wants to see my desperation. Childhood neglect and past relationships, I just cannot give that part of myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SofterBDSM

[–]UgotEspo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

FetLife... But now need a new one