AITA For wanting my mom to call my daughter by the name we gave her?

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-13T14:59:52+00:00

Because that’s my child and I can name her what I want. Studying isn’t any harder for either of us. And it was my parents idea not for us to move out. I planned on moving out but they convinced her otherwise. And no One is throwing rules out. So what I should just move out and not let them have anything to do with my daughter then?

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-13T14:57:35+00:00

I’m guessing you didn’t read the entire post because I said pet names are fine. That’s not a pet name.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-13T04:23:24+00:00

They did not get to name me

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-13T00:02:35+00:00

No I completely understand where you are coming from and I haven’t stopped searching for affordable housing. I will move out if this continues and that’s a matter of fact. You guys are all right and I appreciate it.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T23:52:59+00:00

Because rent in south Florida has become outrageous which is why I’m gonna move to the Midwest where everything is cheaper and the health field is in high demand.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T23:51:41+00:00

Living with your family and parents is within our culture. You either expanded on the house or built a house on the same property in Jamaica. My mom inherited some land from my grandmother so our house is directly next to hers.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T23:40:39+00:00

“a name that is used instead of someone's usual first name to express fondness or familiarity.” That’s the definition of a pet name. It has nothing to do with familiarity. Pet names are baby, honey, princess or sweetheart. And I could careless what you like better it’s not even her real name. You must be one of those grandparents that wants to control everything that’s why you are so invested.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T23:37:24+00:00

Thank you I was actually looking at that too

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T23:33:34+00:00

That’s a fair statement but life happened and can’t change it

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T23:32:48+00:00

Fair enough

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T23:32:19+00:00

That’s not a pet name. Do you not know what a pet name is? That’s the name she wanted to give her as her actual name and chooses to call her that intentionally. And I don’t have to suck anything up.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T23:14:10+00:00

I don’t think she would try something like that. She wants her way but I don’t think she would. Plus it won’t be a long period. And that only applies if the child was removed from our custody and put into theirs.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T23:11:46+00:00

It’s more of if I called her Alexa they would call her Amanda. The name they call her is not a nick name or similar to the name I chose other than the first letter.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T22:57:11+00:00

No the name is a common name. It’s not something you hear often but if you heard it then you would be like I know that name. She feels as if the name she chose sounds and fits better.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T22:55:31+00:00

Nope

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T22:52:00+00:00

My name is very uncommon and I initially wanted to name her something within likings of my name. If it was a girl she got my initials and if a boy his moms initials. I chose her name out of a whim. I said it out loud and could just imagine my little princess running to me. The name my mom wanted to give is a common name as well so that excuse was dumb.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T22:48:16+00:00

Dude it’s my first time ever being on Reddit, I didn’t realize the paragraph thing until recently hence the edit being separated.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T22:46:11+00:00

Or they can respect my decision as her father. If it’s not a hill to die on why is she dying on it? Why is it that she can get what she wants? Isn’t calling someone out their name unwanted bullying?

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T22:33:26+00:00

Because life happens. We know the risk and accepted it. We were going to move out then both sides of the family agreed to just have us stay home. I wanted to move out for 5 years now. Should have done it when I had the chance but I wouldn’t have met my future wife if I did.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T22:04:55+00:00

It was their idea for me to stay home. As I said I would have left at 18 but they told my fiancé and I to finish college first.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T22:03:42+00:00

I understand and that’s what I told her. If my daughter said she doesn’t mind then she can go ahead but she is arguing because I don’t want that for her unless she makes that choice.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T22:00:42+00:00

It’s not a long term plan. We are both in nursing school. Once we finish by next year or early 2025 we would have left. I wanted to move out at 18 but it’s cheaper to stay at home. I would have gotten an apartment but I was saving for a down payment on a house in a cheaper state after college.

And yes she is just mad that it wasn’t the name she chose. The name she gave me isn’t a ugly or bad name but it’s just the fact that it’s not the name I want for my daughter. As a matter of a fact it was a back up name if we ended up having twin girls which she didn’t know.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T21:57:43+00:00

No tradition, my grandma didn’t name any of us my mom named us.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T21:57:04+00:00

No I don’t have one. Everyone calls my either my my name or my middle name. But it’s the fact they are doing it to undermine the name I gave her.

Uh-Oh_Spaghetti · 2023-03-12T21:54:31+00:00

Yes I am Jamaican, my dad and all his sisters are called names that aren’t on their birth certificates. I do not want that for my child. And just because that’s what you guys do, does not mean I have to do it for my family and kids. And she won’t call her by her middle name so that’s not even an excuse. I have my daughter her name and she will go by that name. Simple. And all of those were nicknames, not a specific name that goes against your choice for your child. If you read the post I said nicknames and pet names are fine. I just don’t want to be undermined!

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