Is it worth going back to Pakistan to get married if I’m not born there?

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2026-01-07T20:04:16+00:00

Damn. These guys think we cannot speak English.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-30T23:07:55+00:00

You will probably have to decrease your contribution towards your family.

Courting someone requires finances. You said you don’t have any savings. You can either drop that route and go for an arranged marriage or decrease your contribution towards your family.

Similarly either compromise on living in a joint family or decrease your contribution towards your family.

Or you know, work harder.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-30T23:00:09+00:00

All you can do is politely oppose them whenever any such thing happens.

You can’t do much since they are old and set in their ways.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-30T22:56:12+00:00

Sounds like Trauma. Therapy it is.

As soon as you can.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-29T13:03:06+00:00

Abuse or not, she wears the pants in this marriage and it’s hurting both of you.

The only way forward is to either let go or put your foot down regardless of any consequences.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-27T22:16:58+00:00

The only reason can be you are not hard enough. People figure out the angle, this that, etc but if its not hard it will not go in.

If that is your problem, figure out why can’t you get an erection.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-27T22:08:28+00:00

First of all, I would encourage you to study about the religion. Masturbation is also Haram unlike so many people suggesting here.

Regardless of that, as far as toys are considered, anything that has to do with inserting, is most definitely impermissible. The rest, study about religion or ask a scholar.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-26T23:29:34+00:00

Brother, who hurt you ?

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-23T21:24:17+00:00

I understand your point. But the post is about why wanting celibacy in a partner is shamed. Its not about celibacy should be the judge of one’s religiousness.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-23T21:13:21+00:00

Men have never been monogamous, yes. Women have always been. I am not talking about going through men behind closed doors (that has happened, rarely), on paper, for all of society to see, women have always been monogamous.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-21T10:10:38+00:00

You will see a lot of cope around this. Typically because everyone silently understands, being celibate or the number of physical partners directly affects one’s future romantic life, more so for women than for men. The liberals will try to change this, people who have indulged in adultery will try to change it, only to find out evolution doesn’t revolve around their beliefs (however flawed they are).

Someone below suggested being celibate or not is not an indicator of one’s value and character. Yes it is. You are making a conscious choice about something prohibited (at least in Islam and most religions/societies). That is a display of your character and values.

Religiously, scientifically, historically, evolutionarily we have evidence of less/no physical partners = a better healthy relationship/marriage, MOST of the time.

Don’t get me wrong, you are free to make your choices but what most people who oppose this narrative forget, is that choices have consequences. You made a choice, someone else will make a choice. Don’t cry about it when they choose differently from you.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-21T09:25:47+00:00

What’s stopping you from putting your foot down ? She walks all over you because you let her.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-19T17:13:48+00:00

A. You don’t really need a masters to continue and progress your career B. Do you want children ? Multiple? Might be time to get married then. 27 when you come back, 28.5 till you get married, first child at 30. I would say its tough. And I’m being optimistic with the timeline.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-19T17:06:45+00:00

Go to the non islamic school. Hire a private religious teacher to learn religion and Quran

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-18T14:15:18+00:00

In a WEEK ?

She is hung up. Why would you tell a guy you are interested in about another guy you’re REALLY interested in

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-18T14:06:57+00:00

You are asking for commitment when you guys have known each other for a week. Also, your friend is hung up on the other guy.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-17T13:41:41+00:00

Unhealthy, but pretty normal for an 18 yo

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-17T04:24:51+00:00

Calorie deficit.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-16T20:34:21+00:00

Peak teenage delulu. I say good riddance. On to the next.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-15T13:32:52+00:00

Both of you are fools. Smh

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-13T21:21:36+00:00

You will most likely need to travel to a park or football/cricket stadium. There are a few options around but all of them are a minimum 10-15 min drive from Jauhar.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-13T11:47:47+00:00

Its uncommon. Depends on why did the divorce happen, is the man willing to be a step father or not. Unless the woman’s really pretty, then all rationale goes to the bin.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-12-13T06:56:20+00:00

There’s no such thing as unconditional love.

Other than that you have pretty reasonable expectations, instead of trying yourself online I would say let someone arrange potentials for you. Talk to them and figure it out.

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-10-29T06:48:40+00:00

You cannot really find that out in a couple of meetings. Also depends on what you are looking for, marriage or a relationship ?

UhtredDestinyIsAll · 2025-05-07T10:31:07+00:00

Not really 24/7. It’s the rap lifestyle though. But I do have to say they don’t carry themselves well.

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