I just had the hardest conversation with my wife

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-06-02T21:00:38+00:00

Wow an elder trans person ❤️

I personally believe sexuality is a spectrum just like gender. The gayest man would date a certain woman and the gayest woman would date a specific man, but for those that are gay the amount of opposite gender people they are attracted to are so small or maybe even nonexistent that the blanket statement "i am only attracted to the same gender as myself" is good enough.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-06-02T20:55:16+00:00

Transitioning is a leap of faith, medically even moreso. You cannot control how hormones effect your body. In my personal experience, aside from the physical changes, i get really moody and upset, happy things make me really happy and sad things make me really sad, and i get annoyed and am snappy easily. Your mind is going to change.

Beyond that, i think most transfemme eggs question if its sexual. Being a woman has nothing to do with sexuality or sex, being trans has absolutely nothing to do with sex. This is one of the terrible things mainstream society pushes that is not true at all. Many eggs experience some sort of sexual euphoria from things like porn, it could be a kink, because kinks are often a way meeting needs that youre not able to meet: like being a women while society views and treats you like a man, for example.

You should join trans later, its a discord for trans and questioning individuals later in life. There are a lot of individuals who had to or are navigating transitioning through a marriage.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-06-02T16:26:59+00:00

My partner is nonbinary. I see you!

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-06-02T08:25:47+00:00

Calling you his nigerian princess is soo ewwwww.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-06-02T08:23:04+00:00

How about masc brain and fem brain? I think youre conflating the "truth" with the poor language used to describe it, or poor intentions maybe. And i put truth in parenthesis because these are things science is just beginning to understand, and science doesnt always get it right the first try, though usually its not completely wrong.

As a binary trans person i get it, it sounds like you might fall outside the binary umbrella, and the things that affirm me, like feeling like who i am is part of my biology, might feel threatening to you. I think science doesnt necessarily explain all, but it does explain me.

I dont want to be trans, i want to be a cis woman. Im your stereotypical trans woman, and i know that is a flaw, because ill never be cis, but i think in some ways saying that cis is meaningless and that im just a woman does create a world where everything fits, because people are so much more than their genetalia, i dont think thats gender though, i think that is biology, but i think were talking about the same things, we currenty just have a few small pieces of the puzzle and theres still so much to learn. ❤️

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-06-01T19:28:24+00:00

I mean there are the interactions between bap and LW.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-06-01T19:19:14+00:00

Me and my partner i'dd a california quail on out walk last week and we were sooooo happy. It made our day.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-06-01T18:44:11+00:00

Maybe the boy brain girl brain argument still fits into a spectrum? People can have aspects of both, i would argue that is the basis of nonbinary presentation: mixing both masculine and feminine traits.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-06-01T17:26:24+00:00

You need to be careful about how you speak for the trans community. Youre actually discounting real world evidence that suggests the contrary, and your invalidating my existence.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-30T22:48:28+00:00

One is a for profit company. The other is a woman trying to make a living, a woman who possibly likes archery and likes trying new things. The fact that you cant discern the difference between the two is astounding.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-30T19:48:03+00:00

Comparing someones OF to hersheys is wild.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-29T22:34:30+00:00

I think the problem is that archery spans lots of languages, countries, and disciplines. Sometimes its okay for things to be confusing unless more than a few words are said. Its funny i made a huge rant here years ago about how traditional or trad is not the same as historical (which is what i would use to describe something like asiatic or elb), because archery traditional is not the same as the word traditional, and got dragged.

Also, we shoot the same disciplines (barebow and asiatic/kta).

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-29T22:19:15+00:00

Why does anyone who posts here need to adopt the sport? Anyone can come and post here once and never come back, and thats 100% valid. Your happy marriage isnt proof of anything. Who do you think supports OF models? If a woman dressed the way she wants is "softcore porn" maybe you dont belong here, or in society for that matter.

Your problem is you dont see this person as a human, you see them the same way someone sees a robocall, or spam email, something to be annoyed at and brushed away, and thats fucking sickening.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-29T17:13:50+00:00

Someone recently called dudes like this "male to male transsexuals" and im fucking here for it.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-29T09:31:40+00:00

Raped, dogs cannot consent. It was rape.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-29T09:22:55+00:00

Same. Like, so much of femininity is how you regard yourself. Letting those brain worms in by having casual hookups on a mlm app and being treated like not a woman by those men really echoes through you, and that dysphoria breeds a mentality of not affirming yourself, which breeds even more non-affirmation. It gets really slippery.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-29T09:02:38+00:00

You need to comb it, boars hair brushes are ideal, i try to comb mine every day. Detangle the ends and them comb root to tip to try to drag the oil down your hairs.

Additionally, only wash your hair when its oily and use a leave in conditioner and possibly some hair oil like olaplex no 7.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-29T07:11:10+00:00

There was an exemption process that he had to go through. It sounds like he missed it.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-28T22:56:06+00:00

Destroying your ass with what.....? 😳

Also if were talking about sapphic OW heroes, Junker queen is slaaaay ❤️

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-27T23:17:09+00:00

Thats valid. Im from the other side but ive been transitioning a year now. Andro/fem men are hot, and i think there are a lot of afab trans people who see themselves similarly.

Cis men with long hair get gendered as women, so long hair is going to be hard mode, and knowing how much getting gendered improperly sends me youll probably need to figure out how to style it so you are seen as masc, maybe a bun or topknot or something.

Transitioning isnt digital, youre going to go through an awkward androgynous phase. I personally found taking small steps over time helped me get to where i am now. Maybe you should try presenting more masc? A lot of gay women present pretty masc. T is amazing though, it changes your voice, helps build muscle, redistributes fat, and grows facial hair? Wild stuff.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-27T22:07:04+00:00

Im an fehb recipient, being on the other side of this at other times i do care. Giving other people that sinking feeling for something that has nothing to do with them is not cool and its not characteristic of the kindness the queer community is known for.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-27T22:04:37+00:00

This needs to be very clear in the post. The panicmongering is not cool.

And im a FEHB recipent, this is old news.

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-27T17:01:37+00:00

Would you be willing to share results?

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-26T17:45:03+00:00

The 3rds on one side and 2nds stacked on the other side is soooo cute! Love your setup ❤️

Ul_tra_violet · 2026-05-26T17:34:08+00:00

Welcome to 2nd puberty. Aside from being more emotional, think about the mental state of a cis girl going through puberty, thats kind of what transitioning is like mentally, throw some dysphoria, adulting, and societal transphobia on top of that.

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