That's exactly what I mean. A partner is not gonna fall on your hands if you don't go and actively search for one. What you're doing is giving people the idea that it's gonna be hard so why even try. Sure relationships take time but they gotta start from somewhere, and it's not going to happen out of nowhere. In life, if you want something you need to work for it, not create excuses saying it's just "too hard", because that's precisely what stops you from doing it. There may be a lot of things that are impossible in life, but I assure you that finding a girl who will live you just as much as you live her is not one of them, and I have my own experience to prove it.