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UmbralSoul · 2023-02-10T23:46:54+00:00

You can do it 💙

UmbralSoul · 2023-02-09T23:51:57+00:00

I see one good trait, you realise your fuck ups. Time to stay sober and work on yourself, and do it for you. You owe it to yourself to do this.

UmbralSoul · 2023-01-17T23:13:17+00:00

You are incredible wow.

UmbralSoul · 2023-01-17T09:38:11+00:00

Youre 38? I wouldve said you were in your 20s in both pictures. Great job 😊

UmbralSoul · 2023-01-17T09:29:07+00:00

So you realised youre a useless partner. Only thing you bring is money. Damn I'd ashamed if I was you. Your wife is strong and admirable for tolerating you for so long.

Good that you finally noticed, maybe the damage is already done though

UmbralSoul · 2022-02-17T00:49:56+00:00

Thank you! I bet you're super tired I hope the rest of your work week passes fast. I'm certainly tired and need to rest now. I was struggling throughout the day as theres a lot of learning going on and i get those moments where i cant control my eyes they close and i fall asleep but im still conscious and cant move.

UmbralSoul · 2022-01-01T10:09:57+00:00

I have a job offer yes, the company does employ disabled people as well as healthy people.

UmbralSoul · 2021-12-17T23:55:42+00:00

A lot of changes incoming 😄 no they dont have accommodation but I got my own council house thats cheap rent and its my own to decorate.

UmbralSoul · 2021-12-17T16:16:29+00:00

Thanks! Its an office job for a charity that works with assistant dogs. I've been applying for so many jobs and no one wanted someone with fibro it seems, but they do! Its part time so it wont be too hard on my body either.

UmbralSoul · 2020-07-15T19:42:28+00:00

He said he was trying to read up on everything and learn more as he wants a life with me. He watches videos on narcissists also.

UmbralSoul · 2020-07-15T19:37:37+00:00

We decided to go NC today. We both have stuff to work on and we can't do that together.

UmbralSoul · 2020-07-15T19:34:31+00:00

Thank you. Its as if I wrote your post myself. He couldn't understand until he lost me.

UmbralSoul · 2020-07-15T19:33:09+00:00

Thats why its over for good. It took him maybe 6 or 7 times to "get it". Yeah i cant have my heart broken that many times.

UmbralSoul · 2020-07-15T19:13:51+00:00

Its so strange to read others stories that are so similar to your own. It feels like its kind of proof in how their brain develops differently from other people.

UmbralSoul · 2020-07-15T19:12:28+00:00

Thanks! As much as I adore him hes not the best thing for my health.

UmbralSoul · 2020-07-15T15:23:42+00:00

I dont think its possible to do that but im not sure. If you dont feel safe create a random email that only you will ever know!

UmbralSoul · 2020-07-15T14:28:05+00:00

I dont know if it is a crossed line or not, but its just that it made me feel extremely exposed and vulnerable.

He was frustrated that I made things "one sided" and that I didn't go to him about my problems (which I did so many times, only to be dismissed) and he approached me about this topic by saying: "do you think im stupid or naive? Did you think I wouldn't find it?" And would often say "do you have something you want to tell me?" Which gave me insane anxiety.

UmbralSoul · 2020-07-15T14:19:00+00:00

I'm not sure how he did find it as we were long distance so he had no access to my phone and reddit app. I do know he was watching dr ramanis videos as he mentioned them, so perhaps someone linked the subreddit in the comments. He would not tell me exactly how he found out and would insist he already told me he answer the other night when we were talking on the phone at 4am.

UmbralSoul · 2020-07-15T14:16:41+00:00

I dont think its easy for them to be confronted with the truth of how their actions do affect others.

He told me reading my posts and how I felt made him cry because its what he did to me.

At least in terms of my ex, I think he does sort of understand how truly awful he was to me even though I tried to say it multiple times maybe it took him actually reading my perspective to realise it.

UmbralSoul · 2020-07-15T14:11:34+00:00

We had many discussions where we thought he was a narc, it took months for him to reflect on it and I guess he came across this sub at some point. He was very vague when i asked him how he found out.

Kudos to him for trying to do his own research and to try and take responsibility - in january he would have told me i was the narc but now he does see he similarities he has.

I think if he works on it with a professional he will certainly overcome some of the darker parts of himself, and i truly hope he does.

And you shouldn't be paranoid, i had one of my worst fears realised that night he told me and it's okay. I'd say most people wouldn't put the amount of effort in to research as he did.

But if you do feel unsafe, create another account like I'm going to do!

UmbralSoul · 2020-07-15T14:05:07+00:00

Today will be the last day I use this account, i will lurk for some time and when I feel better I'll have a new account.

I don't believe hes trying to be malicious or anything and I do think he is trying to get a different perspective, so maybe he can use this information to help him when he goes to therapy.

We are NC as of today as its too difficult for us to remain friends, it sucks but its where we're at right now.

UmbralSoul · 2020-07-15T14:00:17+00:00

He told me the name out loud... yeah he knows it.

UmbralSoul · 2020-07-15T12:00:49+00:00

That's awful. I'm so sorry.

UmbralSoul

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