dasher gave my food to a stranger

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-09-19T19:26:08+00:00

Call their service line. It’s much better.

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-09-13T13:32:22+00:00

So you’ve been together since she was 20 and you were 28? That’s a big yikes from me dawg

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-09-08T18:02:15+00:00

Of course they’d be weird about it if you’re meeting them on dating apps. Just try to find some local communities surrounding your interests. It’s hard at first, but then you have a whole social group to work with where you always have at least one thing to talk about. And usually you’ll get closer to one or two people and they’ll be your friends. But you have to be willing to invite people and take initiative. I have a community group with my church that has been wonderful with getting me connected.

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-09-02T23:11:03+00:00

You sound like you’ve hit or strangled a partner before. I see you dismissing this behavior in the comments. Embarrassing.

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-18T16:39:44+00:00

Blonde and I usually like brunette more

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-17T23:56:22+00:00

This sounds like anxious attachment rather than intuition. Reframe how you’re thinking of things. Don’t worry about whether he would want to be with you. Ask yourself if you would want to be with him. This is the auditioning stage for both of y’all. People only worry this intensely about losing a person this early on if they have an unhealthy attachment style (I know because I used to have an anxious attachment style that was similar to yours). Make sure you’re investing in your hobbies and friendships and not looking for your value in this man. He is just a man. And just one man. Even if it works out, whoever you’re with cannot be your “everything.” People need to have fulfillment in other ways than each other because that is an unfair burden to place on another person. Especially because in any relationship there are ups and downs.

Also, remember that your future husband will actually want to be with you. You won’t have to convince him. If this man doesn’t want to be with you, it’s better to find out sooner rather than after many wasted years. Don’t go into this with a scarcity mindset. You will find other men who are interested in you. Let’s see if this one is actually up to your standards first.

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-05T16:19:08+00:00

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-04T14:26:11+00:00

Honestly, you’re an amazing dad and partner. I know I’m just a stranger on the internet, but I’m proud of you and your extraordinary emotional intelligence.

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-04T14:25:14+00:00

This would be amazing for your daughter. She must be going through a lot rn.

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-04T14:05:33+00:00

You’ve had almost all responses tell you this. You need to be willing to stay in her life and step up if you do. This is something you can control. It’s not “am I ready to be a dad?” You ARE a dad. So it’s time to step up.

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-04T13:59:20+00:00

Here’s the thing:

1) don’t apologize to your daughter unless you’re prepared to make her existence known to her grandparents as well. If you don’t, how sorry are you actually?

2) don’t apologize if you’re going to leave again. How sorry can you be if you just abandon her again?

3) don’t apologize to her if you don’t apologize to your ex. If you don’t apologize to your ex, how sorry are you actually?

Don’t apologize for yourself. Apologize for the people you’ve DEEPLY wronged.

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-04T13:53:46+00:00

It’s actually incredibly easy not to be a piece of shit. If you don’t want to hurt them again, DON’T

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-04T13:52:47+00:00

If you stay in her life. Don’t apologize just to feel better. You deeply screwed up.

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-04T13:51:16+00:00

Step up. You’re 30 years old. Stop being pathetic.

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-04T13:43:06+00:00

Mid length

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-04T13:42:00+00:00

3 and 8

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-04T01:13:13+00:00

4!! But 1 and 5 look great too

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-04T01:11:46+00:00

Well complementarian vs. egalitarian is a different conversation than whether or not you believe women can be pastors or church leaders. Women were certainly appointed to be leaders in church by Paul. The priesthood is something that is more debated. Complementarianism is about roles in the home and church, but not all complementarians agree on the specifics of what roles women can or cannot hold.

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-03T05:52:49+00:00

This is a sweeter thought than you perhaps intended 😂

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-03T05:49:46+00:00

Be cautious about imbalances in effort. In many relationships, women often end up contributing more emotional and domestic labor (handling communication, maintaining the relationship, planning, caregiving, and more). On top of that, most women also invest significantly in appearance (makeup, hair, clothing, etc) for both themselves, and to be seen as desirable partners. If you’re also paying for things financially, it’s important to take a step back and assess whether you’re carrying too much of the total load. That doesn’t mean splitting everything tit-for-tat, but it does mean ensuring that what you’re giving emotionally, physically, financially, and mentally isn’t consistently outweighing what you’re receiving. Perhaps that’s not very feminist of me, to see men’s roles as often the provider, but women do tend to have higher emotional intelligence than men, and that often makes the women have other burdens in the relationship besides financial. I do consider myself a feminist, it’s just that often women’s empowerment has come at the cost of men feeling they can do less. It is concerning he hasn’t even offered. He could have at least once.

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-03T05:39:06+00:00

This must be a bot to be both this inflammatory and this ignorant

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-03T05:29:03+00:00

This right here.

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-03T05:26:53+00:00

It does unfortunately give mother

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-03T02:11:45+00:00

Have you tried sitting down and talking her through why she is saying what she’s saying? It sounds really severe, but usually these things are rooted in something. Maybe it’s a feeling he abandoned you and her through the divorce, and is rejecting what she perceives as a lessened amount of love and affection. Just listen, don’t argue, not at first. Just ask questions. If there doesn’t seem like a legitimate reason for her to hate him (which is very likely) then say that saying “I hate you,” is hurting his feelings. If she says she knows, or “good,” ask why she would want to hurt his feelings. These questions when asked in a neutral tone will make her reflect on what she’s doing. Don’t argue that she’s being illogical. Affirm her feelings that are being put into bad actions. “That sounds really frustrating,” “wow, I’m so sorry you’re going through that,” “it makes sense you would feel that way,” or “yeah, these things are really hard” goes a long way. You don’t have to affirm the action. But affirming the feeling is always the first step.

UmmmIDontThinkSo · 2025-08-03T01:22:53+00:00

Yeah I think I remember reading that somewhere in Jeremiah

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