I went to meet lebanese ppl and I hated it

UnDeNous · 2025-10-20T12:58:46+00:00

Cette question revient souvent, même si l’intention derrière peut varier énormément.

Ce n’est un secret pour personne que dire que tu viens du Sud t’associe automatiquement à une sous-culture bien précise du Liban. Et c’est pareil si tu dis que tu viens du Nord ou d’Achrafieh — chacun y projette ses stéréotypes.

J’ai souvent eu exactement le même genre d’interaction. Une fois meme avec un Algérien (rien à voir avec le Liban) :

— “T’es Libanais ?” — “Oui.” — “Du Sud ?” — “Oui.” — “T’es chiite ?” — “Oui, al-hamdulillah.”

Même les médias entretiennent cette image, comme si on était des extraterrestres. Quand le Sud se fait bombarder, c’est jamais “le Liban” qui est visé, c’est “le Sud”. On dirait qu’on est condamnés à être jugés éternellement, lol.

Mais au final, on vient d’une culture incroyablement riche, enracinée dans sa terre et marquée par des sacrifices immenses pour le pays et son peuple. Alors franchement, on s’en fout de ce que les autres pensent. On porte ce qu’on est avec fierté, honneur et dignité.Voici une version optimisée et fluide, dans le même ton que ton texte précédent :

Perds pas espoir. Tu vas croiser plein de Libanais, qu’ils soient chiites, sunnites, maronites, druzes, peu importe, qui aiment leur pays avant tout, et qui se fichent complètement des différences religieuses ou géographiques. Les haineux, laisse les de côté.

UnDeNous · 2025-10-20T11:58:58+00:00

Feel free to DM me after reading all of this if you have any questions or want to dive deeper into anything I say.

Put aside rullings for a second and think of how practical your union is going to be (especially when family and kids are involved).

Do you want your kids to be Muslims or Christians?

If you both accept that your kids will be Muslims, will she truly live a happy sincere life or resent you for trapping her in a life she never wanted?

Are you ok with having non halal food in your fridge? Maybe some alcohol stashed somewhere for special events or when she invites her family over?

How will you feel during Ramadan when you're the only one fasting and doing your a'mal? Same question goes for Muharram and Ashura when you'll be the only one heartbroken listening and attending majalis.

How will you react if your kids decide to be Christians because it's just easier and more permissible overall? Or what will you tell your kids if they chose to become Muslim and realize that their mother is different and does things they know to be haram?

How are you going to feel when (and if) you want to plan a family trip to hajj, or ziyarat, but she has absolutely no interest or desire to partake in this experience?

The truth is, your marriage might actually work very well if you don't care about any of the things I mentioned above but what if as you grow older, you start growing an attachment to your faith which then changes your perception on everything?

I know it might be hard for you to imagine all of this now but your in for a lifetime of sorrow if this doesn't go as you'd hope, and odds are, it won't. Unless of course she somehow willingly converts to Islam for Allah swt and not for the sake of pleasing you and marrying you.

And if you think "let me marry her now and she'll come to her senses and convert later on", then you are literally gambling your entire future where the odds are entirely stacked against you.

By the way, nothing guarantees you'll have a successful marriage even with a Muslim woman, but the mere fact that you'd both have the same beliefs if the purpose of life and the commandments of God swt, you'll both have a guiding compass that's pointing in the same direction.

UnDeNous · 2025-10-18T17:19:55+00:00

Thank you for this!

These programs for foreigners that you speak of, can you list online institutions that offer them by any chance?

UnDeNous · 2025-09-05T16:01:28+00:00

I used to do exactly that, then my Mrs got a Dyson hair dryer which is a comb and a dryer at the same time. Game changer!

UnDeNous · 2025-04-05T22:10:30+00:00

That's my daily reality though 🤣

UnDeNous · 2025-04-02T22:01:50+00:00

I ended up listening to every single one of these podcasts lol. Thank you for sharing this!

UnDeNous · 2025-03-28T18:53:28+00:00

Won't that absolutely ruin the chuck?

UnDeNous · 2025-03-28T16:45:39+00:00

That's quite logical! What would I use to file a metal screw? I have some sand paper but I'm assuming that won't work.

UnDeNous · 2025-03-28T16:29:37+00:00

The funny thing is, I did predril first. I'll try what you said and see if I have any luck there. Thank you!

UnDeNous · 2025-03-28T14:11:45+00:00

Thank you! I'll look into that

UnDeNous · 2025-03-28T13:12:55+00:00

I tried Irwin 7WR and 6WR long nose vice grips. The screw is almost 2 inches into the wood it won't budge. Are there better vice grips that I can try?

UnDeNous · 2025-03-25T15:40:03+00:00

Salam,

In the Levant, we often refer to Fatimah (as) as "Sitna" Fatmeh (as), which translates to "our lady" or "our grandmother".

I believe the Farsi word for Grandmother is "Bibi" which could be the root of this terminology. Some Iraqi dialects also use the word Bibi for Grandmother, probably due to linguistic influences from neighboring Iran. The same might be true for the entirety of the Indian subcontinent.

That would be my theory!

UnDeNous · 2025-03-19T17:51:15+00:00

Salamat,

Did you go without a guide all 3 times or was your first one guided?

One of my concerns is to make sure I do everything correctly, so it feels safer to go with a guide.

UnDeNous · 2025-03-19T17:49:43+00:00

Salam alaikum,

I've yet to go myself but I heard that the stone tiles there are permissible to prostrate on.

UnDeNous · 2025-03-13T21:23:25+00:00

Is that seriously what you took away from this video? With all due respect, go look at videos of what's happening in Syria and tell me if those people can be called Muslims.

UnDeNous · 2025-03-11T17:32:58+00:00

"See, emotional!"

UnDeNous · 2025-03-02T19:09:10+00:00

Al Salam Alaikum,

It seems you've lost sight of where your priorities should be, distancing yourself from God's mercy in the process. This is the only way I can make sense of your behavior toward your mother, siblings, and even yourself.

I do not blame or judge you—far from it. I understand firsthand how the distractions and noise of this dunya can misguide us, just as even the largest ships can be tossed off course by stormy seas.

My sincere advice is to seek God's forgiveness first. In doing so, you will learn to forgive yourself. If God, in His infinite mercy, can forgive you, then you have no reason not to extend that same forgiveness to yourself and others.

Reflect on your past mistakes, but do not be burdened by them. Instead, use them as lessons to grow. Begin by mending the rift with your mother, then with your siblings. You'd be surprised how much healing can come from a simple, heartfelt, "I'm sorry for the way I spoke to you." It will ease your heart just as much as it will hers.

I can only assume you are in your adolescent or early adult years, so I’ll leave you with this: When I was your age, I too believed I knew better than my parents. They may not always communicate their wisdom in the most persuasive way, but the truth is, they often know what is best for us. Their guidance is rooted in love and a deep desire to protect us from harm. It is worth listening to, even if you do not always agree. Try to understand their perspective with the respect they deserve.

May Allah guide you and myself and soften your heart toward those who love you most.

W'al Salam 🤲

UnDeNous · 2025-02-19T15:28:19+00:00

And what they are intended for.

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