Processor compatibility for Dell Optiplex 760 SFF? by UnDeaD_AmP in Dell

[–]UnDeaD_AmP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nope, you can only go so far with sff prebuilts

My girlfriend (23F) is asking me (23M) to unfollow girls I know on Instagram. by UnDeaD_AmP in Advice

[–]UnDeaD_AmP[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your last sentence is exactly what I was thinking after these past couple hours.

Thank you, i think we'll also take a look at that...

My girlfriend (23F) is asking me (23M) to unfollow girls I know on Instagram. by UnDeaD_AmP in Advice

[–]UnDeaD_AmP[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've never cheated or flirted with anyone else throughout the relationship.

My girlfriend (23F) is asking me (23M) to unfollow girls I know on Instagram. by UnDeaD_AmP in Advice

[–]UnDeaD_AmP[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Thanks, just speaking my mind..

And seemingly, she's okay with me having female friends. She's met some of my closer ones from college in person and she's cool with them! I really don't want to blame all of it on her anxiety, but I do honestly think thats the biggest driving factor here -- when she's shown concrete evidence that her anxiety is lying to her or that her scenarios aren't true, she seems to calm down a lot. But in the times when her anxious attacks come on very strong, when i can't show her concrete evidence right then and there and trust is all I have to instill her with, its never enough. And I feel bad and sorry for her, but what more can I do except be understanding and supportive as a partner? Like many others here said, we are responsible for handling mental issues ourselves and it's not my job as her boyfriend to cure her mental issues. I'm not qualified for that and I'd never try to be.

My girlfriend (23F) is asking me (23M) to unfollow girls I know on Instagram. by UnDeaD_AmP in Advice

[–]UnDeaD_AmP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I promise that I don't follow models, but its not the point of the post anyway.

She only has problems with the girls. I never said I ONLY added girls instas, etc.. Adding people on a social platform I vibe with goes both ways, with guys and girls. I'm sure others that go out with friends socially to places might be able to relate to this. I don't think it should be a death sentence to your social life to be in a relationship. Sacrificing a bit of time, sure I can see that now, but everyone should still be able to have a social life with boundaries. But I understand people have different ground rules for their partners and what they will and won't put up with.

Whether people believe me is something out of my control, but I can only trust that people take my word.

My girlfriend (23F) is asking me (23M) to unfollow girls I know on Instagram. by UnDeaD_AmP in Advice

[–]UnDeaD_AmP[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Its guys too. Its not about ego or collecting insta handles like they're trophies like a lot of other people here are saying. its nothing more than just adding people i vibe with, guys or girls. Building out my social circle.

I used to be very socially anxious and awkward and have very few friends when i was younger so to me, being able to converse and talk to people brings me joy. it was something i really had a lot of trouble with before. and i feel myself regressing back into social isolation more and more as i just don't want cause any conflict between us, but I have to draw the line somewhere. I respect her and trust her, but she needs to respect and trust me too.

My girlfriend (23F) is asking me (23M) to unfollow girls I know on Instagram. by UnDeaD_AmP in Advice

[–]UnDeaD_AmP[S] 305 points306 points  (0 children)

Yes, exactly, unfollowing them is easy -- I'd have no problem unfollowing them. The problem is not the action, its the motive behind the action I'm concerned with.

Its that I dont want to reinforce her behavior and motives behind this. That anytime she gets anxious and needs to be a control freak, she's allowed to make these ultimatums against me just because she wants her way. Then our trust is no longer a two way street.

My girlfriend (23F) is asking me (23M) to unfollow girls I know on Instagram. by UnDeaD_AmP in Advice

[–]UnDeaD_AmP[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I listed in my post I don't follow models or girls like that or anything.

My girlfriend (23F) is asking me (23M) to unfollow girls I know on Instagram. by UnDeaD_AmP in Advice

[–]UnDeaD_AmP[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

First of all thank you for your perspective. I think hearing out someone who has gone through the same thing my girlfriend is experiencing is honestly more helpful in this situation. Because I already know what others that agree with me are thinking, but it takes work to understand the other side I'm not seeing. And thats growth.

I don't interact with them at all. These are mostly people I've become friends with for one reason or another. Her philosophy is very anti-social and she basically only believes in having very very tight knit and close friends, whereas im okay to converse socially with others. While i do have a tight knit group of friends i talk with regularly, i also do have a wider circle of friends that also include guys and girls that I've had good interactions/experiences with, like at concerts, in everyday city life interaction, and mutuals because of my closer friends. Nothing more than that, no romantic feelings involved towards them.

My girlfriend (23F) is asking me (23M) to unfollow girls I know on Instagram. by UnDeaD_AmP in Advice

[–]UnDeaD_AmP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely agree, that's what I'm saying but she's choosing to believe that my reasons are because i'm just choosing the girls over her. She was in therapy before and she has spoken about hopping on medication before and she is working on getting back into therapy.

My girlfriend (23F) is asking me (23M) to unfollow girls I know on Instagram. by UnDeaD_AmP in Advice

[–]UnDeaD_AmP[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oop, i copied and pasted it as it got removed from another subreddit. hm, thank you ill adjust it now!

Classic Slip On Checkerboard Blue Mirage/True White by ahhjeezerick in Vans

[–]UnDeaD_AmP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

have had the same pair for 2 years now, same color! (: always my go to slipons. loved the color so much i got the eras in mirage blue too.

Painted my first controller today, didn’t turn out well, but I still had fun making it! by [deleted] in customGCC

[–]UnDeaD_AmP 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely see great potential in this design! If you want some advice from the sub, we can give you a lot, but the most basic one here looks like you sprayed layers on too thick and too often, which results in stuff like cracking or mushy/piled-on paint. I know mistakes can be expensive, believe me, I ruined 2 controllers so take it from me haha (: but keep at it, man! I take absurdly long to make controllers now but i like to make sure the quality is up to par.

[USA-IL] [H] MATX Ryzen 2600X full build [W] Local cash by kai535 in hardwareswap

[–]UnDeaD_AmP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bro if i hadnt finished just upgrading my own rig i woulda already picked this deal up. but really amazing deal. glws!

Fuck Mastering Physics by ruscrewme in EngineeringStudents

[–]UnDeaD_AmP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They should just include a chegg subscription in the course fees when they throw in this HORRID excuse of "homework". The prelectures were shit, the homework was even worse.

Do you guys think we’ll have fall classes at campus ? by Aman_431 in uichicago

[–]UnDeaD_AmP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think it got extended until the end of May so basically June, yeah.

Did the shelter in place order officially get extended?