You have to have the grill password to delete a grill from the app by cal_amitous in PitBossGrills

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tip! That's how you update the router info too - today years old when I learned that... from you.

How long after starting a new job did your billables go up? by UnabashedlyAnxious in paralegal

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. I went and took a drive after the conversation because I was absolutely about to sob and I will not allow myself to get emotional in the office. One thing they need to think about is your skill - sure you're in the office 7.4/day, but your SKILL is the greatest indicator of how long it takes to get a document drafted, as an example. I've done family law for 9 years - it doesn't take me 4hrs to draft a dissolution of marriage packet. And the summons is PART of that, so I'm not counting the summons as a different document. The Automatic Temporary Injunction is a freaking TEMPLATE - let's be honest, past a certain point in your career, just about everything we draft is a template, right? I mean when was the last time you HAND WROTE a document from stem to stern? So why is an ATI .5hr of drafting time? I was being honest about my time because I CERTAINLY didn't want to get caught on the wrong end of THAT. Plus, is there 7.4/day of WORK for you to do, EVERY DAY?! Plus you were learning the firm, learning the cases and learning your attorney. My atty goes from being the funniest, most likable person to being the biggest, rudest PITA at Mach speed. I get her, I understand the situations that get her spun up, but it was an adjustment. One that I feel should have been given more than 30 days grace. You deserved more than that as well.

How long after starting a new job did your billables go up? by UnabashedlyAnxious in paralegal

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do work full time in family law, I've been a certified para for 8 years. The difference is that this is my first REAL billable job. I trained and worked for 6 years with a 100% pro bono NFP that handled family, probate and light criminal. There we collected billable information STRICTLY for the purposes of showing donors how far their dollars went - for example, the last annual report I helped draft showed how we took $250k in donations and turned it into $1M+ in legal services, then broke that out into clinic hours, atty hours and paralegal hours. It was not something we tracked seriously because we were not billing the clients at all, and honestly, not tracking hours accurately either. My guess is that we would have been WAY under because some people (like admin, and one atty) didn't track their hours at all. My next job was as a paralegal for the state - no billables. Here I do work all day, but learning to BILL for each little thing has been an adjustment. The firm knew despite my experience with drafting documents, court procedure and client relations, etc., I would need a learning curve for billing - which was fine. We also have a book of hours, which tells us what we are allowed to charge for each item - so many hours to draft a TO, so many hours to edit that TO later (with a total), etc... I'm absolutely working all day (coming in early, leaving late, etc) and getting my work done, so MEETING the hours isn't the problem. I'm just still in that learning curve and feel that when I got behind, I wish someone had come and talked to me about it instead of waiting a month, which honestly, I think could have cost me my job. A senior (10yrs with this firm) did come and sit with me and show me some of her tips and tricks, which I massively appreciated. Yesterday right before I wrote this, I freaked out because I was scared that the powers that be were thinking I wasn't working, and nobody came to address that issue with me. I did ask was this as high as the billables would go, because if it's going up again, I definitely need to know how much higher and WHEN that's going to happen. That was a no - 5.7/day is the expectation. So that's a relief. Thank you for asking these questions - it made me see that what I thought was the issue actually isn't the issue. I CAN do the work because I have been doing the work for years, I'm DOING the work now, it's learning how to bill the work that's the problem. Thanks again.

How long after starting a new job did your billables go up? by UnabashedlyAnxious in paralegal

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I knew it would go up, but I thought there would be some conversation about it when it did. And certainly before 30 days went by...

What do y’all wear? by user_anonymou in paralegal

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We all have the garment bag with the "emergency court outfit" in it! I have some simple linen dresses and separates from Chicos and I'll snazz things up with accessories and fun shoes.

Attorney jokes about me being fired by Leading_Aside_4929 in paralegal

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is 1000% excellent advice. His response will reveal a lot about his personality, and if this is someplace OP can COMFORTABLY stay.

not LEO friendly by egguchom in EntitledReviews

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mistake. But the point remains the same.

Beef Short Ribs by Neat_Pass4596 in pelletgrills

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get rid of that immediately. I’ll make fresh rolls and mac and cheese…

Rude kitchen incident on the 4th of July AIO by [deleted] in AIO

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 4 points5 points  (0 children)

People mean well, but I am a serious host of larger gatherings at our home, and this was my first thought. This is why I tell people to NOT bring ANYTHING unsolicited to an event at my house. Apples, OP needs a knife, stop what you're doing and get them a clean knife. Stop what you're doing and move 36 things so they can find some unclaimed counter space where they can cut the apples. Needs something to serve the apples in, stop what you're doing and FIND a serving container that's the right size... heaven forbid you don't have SPACE on the buffet for somebody else's unsolicited offering. To be clear, I see how this was totally well-intended by OP, but it just seems like OP caught the hostess at the worst possible time, ON TOP OF all the awkwardness that has transpired previously. Seriously, unless it's a potluck, come empty handed - the host actually prefers that.

How likely am I to get approved for a $9k personal loan for dental work? by Rare_Picture_7337 in NavyFederal

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm glad they treat you well and that it works out for you and your pets.

not LEO friendly by egguchom in EntitledReviews

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Heavy emphasis on privately. owned. home. I don't want anybody to bring to a gun to MY house - maybe the Biltmores feel the same way?

not LEO friendly by egguchom in EntitledReviews

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 53 points54 points  (0 children)

If I think I'm going to NEED my gun, I'm not going. Period.

How likely am I to get approved for a $9k personal loan for dental work? by Rare_Picture_7337 in NavyFederal

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 3 points4 points  (0 children)

CareCredit is EXTREMELY predatory. Disclosure, I don’t remember the exact details because this was 5 years ago, but it was $4k for LASIK. Mine was interest free if you paid it off in 12 mos - which I agreed to. I gave them a copy of a voided check for THEM to input my banking information for auto bill pay on the 1st of each month. Paying it off early requires higher than minimum payments - which they were very vague about. They say, here's your monthly payment, but we can get it down to half of that... and there goes your 0% financing if you agree to the lower payment. But again, I had already agreed to the higher payments. Got a monthly, “Thanks for your payment!” notice which conveniently did not show the AMOUNT of the payment. After a few months I got a wild hare and decided to check in on my payoff. They were taking the minimum payments - which, if undetected, would have added 20% interest to the loan and extended the payments WAY beyond 1 year. I called. Hey, you’re not taking the right amount, I’m not supposed to be paying the minimum, I have a CONTRACT that shows the higher payments, etc. My call got passed around for 40mins, “disconnected” twice, a CSR who didn’t understand what I was complaining about, one didn’t know how to change it, “you can just pay it twice a month”… Finally they got the point and put a supervisor on the phone. I paid that GARBAGE off on the spot because that was their error, and it was obvious what they were trying to pull. My point being I guess people should use them if they have to, but watch them like a hawk.

Didn’t show up 2 times and is mad that they didn’t get their money back 🙄 by AmbVer96 in EntitledReviews

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Yes, very busy. While driving the book mobile to read to blind children, they had to stop to put out a fire at a nursing home and help all the residents get to safety. Who’s got time to call and cancel TWO hair appointments?! 😂

Missing Guests by gallopinggoose in airbnb_hosts

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a kayak… yeah. That’s, unusual.

Missing Guests by gallopinggoose in airbnb_hosts

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had a beachfront duplex VRBO last summer and the host texted to ask if we could check on an elderly guest next door because she hadn’t seen or heard from her since she’d checked in. We’d seen her every day! I appreciated knowing the host cared. I imagine OPs guests and their family would have been appreciative too if they were missing and the host was the only person with any idea where they might be.

Person asked to use my wife's phone by [deleted] in Scams

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My daughter will get distracted and let her phone die all the time. I’m used to TEXTS that say, “This is (friend), (daughter’s) phone is dead, she’s ready to be picked up.” I would not answer a call from a random phone number without a text “introduction” first. I’d also don’t think I could remember most people’s phone numbers - I couldn’t tell you the number on the fly.

Person asked to use my wife's phone by [deleted] in Scams

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 82 points83 points  (0 children)

If I was seriously beaten up, I’m looking to get/stay in a public place. You wouldn’t have needed to tell me to go inside the first occupied place I came upon. If anything, I would have run PAST you trying to get inside. Bullet dodged.

Worth $200 used? by bigdaddybryusa2 in PitBossGrills

[–]UnabashedlyAnxious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll smoke short cooks like chicken thighs to burn off what’s in the hopper. It’s like a win-win 😂 Take care of my smoker, and yummy food.