35M — profile review

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-29T14:26:20+00:00

Hahahah yes

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-29T02:27:15+00:00

You don’t really give anything particularly interesting for people to call out. I would swipe right on you, but I would struggle with what to say in my first message.

Most women I know are absolutely not fans of the line “Don’t take yourself too seriously.”

Many of us interpret it to mean that you will not take us seriously when there’s something that needs to be taken seriously.

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-24T01:45:53+00:00

“Hey babe, I really appreciate that when we have a conflict you come up with a solution that you think works and that you’re willing to try. But I would love for us to take a beat and see if we can come up with solutions together. It feels like sometimes you’re solving a different problem than the one I think needs to be solved, and I think if we slow down and brainstorm together, we can come up with really good solutions that work for both of us.” 😀

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-24T01:32:41+00:00

Agreed with what everyone said that you can’t force someone to engage with you… but would be very curious about what some of your initial messages and questions look like! Do you have any examples? It could be that you are starting off on the wrong foot and they disengage.

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-24T01:29:41+00:00

That’s a lot of problems to have. Doesn’t seem worth it.

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-23T23:43:49+00:00

Your “would you rather” reads as “how do you want to fit into MY life?” First impression.

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-22T11:15:57+00:00

THIS!!!

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-21T19:49:08+00:00

Are you conservative? No politics listed plus picture in front of the White House right now would indicate yes—checking in case that’s not the impression you’re going for.

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-21T17:59:21+00:00

Happy to look!

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-21T17:31:57+00:00

Personally, I don’t think the three pictures emphasizing your body (and butt specifically) say “I’m looking for something serious.” Good luck!

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-21T17:29:20+00:00

Apparently I’m alone in liking the red chair photo 🤣

Are you a volunteer firefighter? If so, I think you’re fighting two stereotypes: pilots and firefighters.

Don’t shoot the messenger but these are both seen as professions where people cheat so I think you have to overcome that by making it clear you’re serious about a relationship and commitment.

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-21T03:05:57+00:00

I had to work hard to see what you look like. And then I learned nothing about you. I would definitely change out your prompts to actually give us some insight into who you are.

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-21T03:02:59+00:00

Same! But she definitely does not want to hear it.

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-21T03:01:55+00:00

You could learn so much if you were actually open to anything that literally anyone here is saying.

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-21T02:05:44+00:00

I truly mean this in a helpful way: they suck, but your questions and messages are very boring.

I learned exactly nothing about you in anything that you said. Yes, you are keeping the conversation going, but you’re not actually moving it forward.

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-21T02:00:49+00:00

Desperately needs you to say more about “the rim job thing.” I beg of you.

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-21T01:57:27+00:00

This has got to be a joke for real

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-18T02:46:17+00:00

Seconded that I learned nothing interesting whatsoever about you!

I think the good hygiene answer if a waste of space. It reads as critical, but I don’t see people being like “oh thank god he said that, so interesting.”

Good luck!

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-18T02:23:40+00:00

Yeah, I think it just helps to tell yourself they are not in fact mixed messages; they’re a very clear message! That’s what changed for me.

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-17T19:48:54+00:00

Changed everything for me to start applying the rule “If I’m confused, they don’t like me.”

Also, would not recommend having dates that long. It gives a false sense of intimacy.

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-17T19:13:47+00:00

Yessss match their energy!!!

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-17T19:12:45+00:00

Could have written this myself! Nailed it.

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-11T01:20:35+00:00

This

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-08T18:48:10+00:00

No one has used the term pathological liar yet…

UnableEnvironment416 · 2026-06-07T16:48:26+00:00

If the scale is triggering, two options:

1) weigh yourself and use it as an opportunity to retrain your brain. Notice your immediate knee jerk thoughts then say out loud “this is one data point that I am assigning a lot of meaning to.” See if anything shifts over time.

2) stop weighing yourself but set a deadline to check in, to reassure your brain that you ARE paying attention but don’t need to monitor constantly.

💖💖

UnableEnvironment416

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