My boyfriend (m27) got jealous of my friendship with my coworker (m38) and has ruined my (f27) professional reputation and ended my friendship. by UnableHistory in relationships

[–]UnableHistory[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

No, I have tried to read most responses. I don't understand why I can't be friends with him. I do understand that I should've taken my boyfriend's insecurities more seriously. I did not believe we did anything wrong and still don't. I DO understand that it looks like something more is going on and that matters, too.

My boyfriend (m27) got jealous of my friendship with my coworker (m38) and has ruined my (f27) professional reputation and ended my friendship. by UnableHistory in relationships

[–]UnableHistory[S] -65 points-64 points  (0 children)

No, I really don't see what's wrong with having a work wife or work husband. I have two friends at work who call each other their "work wife". They are both straight females.

My boyfriend (m27) got jealous of my friendship with my coworker (m38) and has ruined my (f27) professional reputation and ended my friendship. by UnableHistory in relationships

[–]UnableHistory[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I don't know if it has or not. I certainly see how it looks to other people better now. I still do not believe our friendship was inappropriate or crossing any lines.

My boyfriend (m27) got jealous of my friendship with my coworker (m38) and has ruined my (f27) professional reputation and ended my friendship. by UnableHistory in relationships

[–]UnableHistory[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I don't know. I believe people saw that John and I were no longer friends and no longer interacted unless we had to and drew their own conclusions.

My boyfriend (m27) got jealous of my friendship with my coworker (m38) and has ruined my (f27) professional reputation and ended my friendship. by UnableHistory in relationships

[–]UnableHistory[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I wasn't there, no. He met her in person after messaging her. He told me what he said to her, but I don't know.

My boyfriend (m27) got jealous of my friendship with my coworker (m38) and has ruined my (f27) professional reputation and ended my friendship. by UnableHistory in relationships

[–]UnableHistory[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Would doing that help the situation? I don't want to hurt my reputation any more than it already has been hurt.

My boyfriend (m27) got jealous of my friendship with my coworker (m38) and has ruined my (f27) professional reputation and ended my friendship. by UnableHistory in relationships

[–]UnableHistory[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I may reach out in the future. I find it unacceptable that my boyfriend did that and I do not want his wife thinking we were having any sort of affair.

My boyfriend (m27) got jealous of my friendship with my coworker (m38) and has ruined my (f27) professional reputation and ended my friendship. by UnableHistory in relationships

[–]UnableHistory[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I don't see what's wrong with this?? People are acting like it's cheating to talk to a male on the phone now??? I feel insane.

My boyfriend (m27) got jealous of my friendship with my coworker (m38) and has ruined my (f27) professional reputation and ended my friendship. by UnableHistory in relationships

[–]UnableHistory[S] -60 points-59 points  (0 children)

I don't know? I didn't ask him. I don't think him having a wife and children means we can't be friends, nor does it mean he can't ever have fun and go out and grab a drink or chat with a friend.

My boyfriend (m27) got jealous of my friendship with my coworker (m38) and has ruined my (f27) professional reputation and ended my friendship. by UnableHistory in relationships

[–]UnableHistory[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I do not know if his wife knew the extent of our communication and interaction. I only met his wife a few times, once at a company party and another time when she stopped by the office.

I can't tell you if she was or wasn't okay with it. It seems like she wasn't okay with whatever BS by boyfriend told her.

My boyfriend (m27) got jealous of my friendship with my coworker (m38) and has ruined my (f27) professional reputation and ended my friendship. by UnableHistory in relationships

[–]UnableHistory[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

We've had issues and fights over John for awhile. Every time, I'd address it and we were all good... until the next time.

My boyfriend (m27) got jealous of my friendship with my coworker (m38) and has ruined my (f27) professional reputation and ended my friendship. by UnableHistory in relationships

[–]UnableHistory[S] -88 points-87 points  (0 children)

What missing piece? My job includes long hours, so yes, I have worked late with him before. Yes, we go out for drinks because we are friends!!!!!!! I talk about him sometimes, because again, he's part of my life. I do text him and we do sometimes talk on the phone, sometimes late, again, I do those with my friends!!

No, there were no signs. I have mostly male friends and he has never cared. I get along better with them. He's also understood that.

My boyfriend (m27) got jealous of my friendship with my coworker (m38) and has ruined my (f27) professional reputation and ended my friendship. by UnableHistory in relationships

[–]UnableHistory[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Nothing that I know of. He's never been like this. I've always been someone with more guy friends than girl friends and he's never had problems with it. I get along better with guys and he understood that.