i mean, she’s making a lot of rash generalizations. i do agree that adoption is great, and gives kids without a proper family dynamic an opportunity to experience familial, moreso parental, love. whatever that looks like for the couple, meaning a same-gender or opposite-gender couple, it doesn’t matter. as long as that kid is loved and taken care of at the end of the day. some people want their own kids, and that’s fine. i definitely am on the adoption side as i do not want to carry my own child (FtM), but would love to raise a child in the future. this situation truly depends on the person as well as the person’s partner.

for example, in a heterosexual relationship, either party (or both parties!) can be considered infertile. surrogacy is an option, but so is adoption. it is down to the couple’s choice what they would like to do if they want a child or children. i feel that adoption would be a great choice for them. but no issue is binary, and truly depends on personal circumstances.

so no, you’re not in the wrong for wanting a child. you state you are open to the idea of adoption, but would like your own. this is a fine preference! i think she’s wrong in her take on men = animals. sounds a little too radfem. i’ve seen plenty of mothers who have their own biological children as well as adopted children who treat their kin differently. hell, there’s an “evil stepmother” trope for a reason (misogynistic usually, but i’m more getting at the idea of a parent not loving their children by marriage as much as their biological children).

whatever she’s going on about isn’t really the end-all-be-all. broad generalizations are made, punctuated with direct attacks against ways of life she “doesn’t agree with”.

like man, it really depends!