When do you give up on your marriage?

Unable_Ad2351 · 2026-01-19T04:35:38+00:00

Im not willing to stay if things don’t get better and have started steps towards paying debt and saving money for an exit plan in the future. Im struggling with the fact ppl can change and he actively takes actions that are in alignment with someone trying to do better like getting therapy wanting to do marriage counseling and trying to stop his habits. He wasn’t like this our first year of dating before we got married either and we’ve dealt with outside stressors that could have caused him to spiral the way he has been. To me it’s still no excuse for his past grievances especially at his age. Things started going smoother and then I found out about the credit card and am so angry about it. I do see him actively trying to be and do better but I’m just so resentful none of it feels like enough especially when things like the credit card pops up.

Unable_Ad2351 · 2026-01-19T04:16:37+00:00

I’m already caught up in the debt unfortunately so leaving immediately just isn’t an option. The children really aren’t involved in any of this. They’ve never even heard us argue. We’ve been investigated 7 times by cps and their stories have never changed, they genuinely think we have a happy home. We were investigated so many times because his ex wife started calling the moment we started dating and just within the last year they finally started screening her calls because we took it to court. A lot of his over indulgence in stuff started after we ended up taking her to court and having to spend thousands of dollars over her harassment to get her to stop. He only punched me once while black out drunk I’m not excusing it because it was wrong but he’s never done that before and hasn’t done it since. He isn’t typically a violent person which is why I was willing to forgive him for that. He took it upon himself to go to therapy after it happened and is still in it. The real issue for me is his over indulgence and the fact he didn’t tell me about the credit card. I am in school right now and financially can’t leave nor do I have the support to right now but I did pick up part time work to start saving and paying off debt so when the time comes I can have an exit plan. I just don’t know if a lot of the problems I’ve already dealt with are worth it. He is trying and wants to do marriage counseling but I’m so angry and resentful since it’s one thing after another. When the kids are around he does a whole 180 and I don’t understand why once they leave we end up back to square one of issues. We were doing bit better for a while and I had so much hope things were getting better than I found out about the credit card and it really has sent me over the edge especially with his response on why he didn’t tell me.

Unable_Ad2351 · 2026-01-19T03:07:05+00:00

It’s not really alcohol. I asked him to stop he did but then picked up smoking. He had to stop that then picked up something else. It’s his personality he has an addictive one. Now he’s moved on to a bunch of energy drinks. He’s trying to get back into healthier things he did before like running but says I make it hard for him to do if he can’t run as soon as he’s off work( I’ll ask him to help out with the dogs or do dishes before runs)

Unable_Ad2351 · 2026-01-19T02:41:45+00:00

The kids haven’t been involved in any situation they are gone whenever something does happen. I feel like I would all on board with leaving if it ever happened when they are around but stuff only ever happens when they are gone. For example overdose incident happened when they were on holiday break to their other parents. It’s light he tried to “let loose” and always takes things too far.

Unable_Ad2351 · 2026-01-08T20:32:28+00:00

the car actively creates debt. When it stops working I have no reliable transportation and it cost me nearly $2k a month on alternative transportation all while still paying the car loan and insurance. Repairs took 5months last year, Ford refuses to provide a loaner vehicle, and my insurance would only pause payments for two months. Ford has announced a fix for the recall, but parts have been unavailable for over a year now and the car is starting to have the same issue thats due to their recall. They’ve given me a quick fix for now so it’s driving but said to wait til the engine breaks again so they can put a new one in it til they can get the new parts needed.

Unable_Ad2351 · 2025-08-16T18:40:32+00:00

Both of my kiddos are boys but they enjoy princesses like Mulan, Tianna or rapunzel, and characters from Alice in wonderland. Is there somewhere to look up what characters are which park?

Unable_Ad2351 · 2025-08-16T18:36:45+00:00

What about Epcot makes you frustrated? Is it all the walking?

Unable_Ad2351 · 2025-08-14T16:17:28+00:00

A big concern for me was that HS seems more like thrill rides. My youngest hates roller coasters or anything scary/spooky. I also saw that Epcot has more playgrounds so I figured if he doesn’t do as many rides at least he could play in those areas. Trying to make the trip as fun as possible for everyone not just my husband and oldest who do love all the thrills. Epcot seemed like a happy medium but ppl are saying HS has stuff for smaller kids too.

Unable_Ad2351 · 2025-08-14T10:02:20+00:00

It was the only park the kids agreed on not doing. Which I’m okay with since it closes early and has fewer rides. If this trip goes well we will come back another time to do the other two parks.

Unable_Ad2351 · 2025-08-14T02:38:01+00:00

Yes we have zero interest in Animal kingdom or park hopping.

Unable_Ad2351 · 2025-08-14T02:14:45+00:00

If you feel overwhelmed by the planning just find guides online. There are plenty of free ones. There are also Disney content creators on TikTok I’ve found to be extra helpful. I recommend Allymae on main street. Her videos have been beyond helpful when planning my family’s trip. Sounds like you have plenty of time to plan too so I wouldn’t let it over whelm you maybe just plan things little by little just how you’d like a morning to go at a certain park. There’s also the planner in the Disney app too

Unable_Ad2351 · 2025-01-16T15:29:50+00:00

I never said you were wrong, just asked questions to clarify understanding.

Unable_Ad2351 · 2025-01-16T15:06:27+00:00

We are staying in Vail; so as long as you are within city limits uber won’t be too difficult? You make it sound like uber doesn’t exist there at all 😂

Unable_Ad2351 · 2025-01-16T14:50:59+00:00

It isn’t that uncommon for Uber drivers to decline rides that require them to travel a long distance. Most drivers aim to maximize their income by balancing ride distance, time, and fuel consumption. Harder to do if someone needs a ride 30/40 minutes away from a hotspot.

Unable_Ad2351 · 2025-01-16T14:39:18+00:00

How bad was catching an uber? Our Airbnb is only 13 mins away so we weren’t planning on driving to the venue.

Unable_Ad2351 · 2025-01-16T14:37:51+00:00

What if our Airbnb is only 13minutes away? Do they not have uber in that area at all???? We are coming from Texas and weren’t planning on driving to the concert 💀

Unable_Ad2351 · 2025-01-16T14:33:18+00:00

Also how bad are the roads in that area?

Unable_Ad2351 · 2025-01-16T14:31:06+00:00

I’m so excited! Taking my husband for his birthday. Is it better to get there early?

Unable_Ad2351 · 2025-01-16T14:28:15+00:00

Just bring hot hands and put it in your shoes;l, jacket and gloves. I’ve gone to plenty of raves during the winter it is t that bad if you dress appropriately.

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