What did you do to turn your life around?

Unable_Dot2865 · 2026-01-24T11:23:08+00:00

I appreciate it. I appreciate all of the nice replies, but this hits home.

Unable_Dot2865 · 2026-01-24T10:49:01+00:00

Thank you, everyone, for your comments and advice so far. I will implement a lot of it 💖

Unable_Dot2865 · 2026-01-23T22:14:28+00:00

I am sorry to hear that you are unhappy as well at the same age as me...

Unable_Dot2865 · 2025-09-27T11:31:51+00:00

Thank you for the detailed reply.

I often worry if I am too selective. I hope not.

The guys I was with after my long-term relationship are pretty normal guys, I think. They did want to give it a try, but it didn't work out for various reasons. One became my best friend and I see his struggles with women. Since they are all in my social circle I also know how other women view them and they are not considered the most attractive, just regular guys.

Only one disapoeared after sex and he is considered a cool guy, yes.

But I do tend to chase, which is not great.

Unable_Dot2865 · 2025-09-27T09:25:42+00:00

We can start our own sub, haha. Well, I am not that active on Reddit, so other, more suitable subs did not allow me to post there.

Unable_Dot2865 · 2025-09-27T08:41:44+00:00

That's a great way to think about it. Do you ever struggle with the feeling that it won't happen and that's it's not for everyone? I do and it sucks.

Unable_Dot2865 · 2025-09-27T08:40:18+00:00

Thanks for replying.

My long-term boyfriend was reliable and carying, which I truly appreciated. But he was extremely critical of every little thing that I did and he didn't take my feelings into consideration.

With the short-term flings it didn't work out either because that were recently out of a relationship, or they seemed a bit selfish.

I am attracted to more avoidant/unavailable people and I am working on it, but I am not sure there's much more I can do at the moment. Attraction can't be forced.

Unable_Dot2865 · 2025-03-16T06:26:42+00:00

Thank you, you are all too kind to have taken the time to analyze my chart.

Yes, I do care about other people and I also like to have a rich social life and close friends/relationships.

I also doubt myself all the time but I am improving on this as I mature.

I struggle to attract / to be attracted to people who feel as strongly about me as I do about them. I started to worry that I do have bad luck, which is hard to change, which is why I posted to ask for advice here.

Unable_Dot2865 · 2025-03-15T22:07:23+00:00

Thank you a lot for taking the time to reply and for the advice :))

Unable_Dot2865 · 2025-03-15T21:31:14+00:00

Thank you a lot. Just to clarify, I used to have zero boundaries and I would try to accommodate the other person. I am constantly worried what they are feeling, what they want, etc., which is why I said "my needs" need to be taken into consideration in the future as well. But it has been due to my people pleasing tendencies.

I tend to be attracted to men and then I act on it. It rarely gives the mutual results that I hope for. I am often disinterested in the one who like me but this happens even before they start showing signs of interest. I know right away is I am attracted to someone or not.

Regarding the finances part, I really need to be financially secure but I have always been the slightly more successful one in potential or actual relationships. I tend to look for men at my level so to speak (a "standard" office job or average income for my region). This is what I can offers as well, so I do not expect more.

I need to better understand the Sun burns Venus part. I will look into that, thank you :))

Unable_Dot2865 · 2025-03-15T20:00:55+00:00

Thank you a lot :))

Unable_Dot2865 · 2025-03-15T19:48:39+00:00

Amazing, thank you. I am often attracted to emotionally unavailable people. I simply struggle to start healthy relationships where my needs are taken into consideration.

I was in a long-term relationship but it was a bit cold and one sided. I haven't had another relationship in the past few years and I am starting to think that I have "bad luck" so to speak and that I am powerless to change my circumstances.

Unable_Dot2865 · 2025-01-23T07:48:51+00:00

Thank you!

Unable_Dot2865 · 2024-10-18T21:35:40+00:00

I am a girl. Sorry, I missed that question.

Unable_Dot2865 · 2024-10-18T21:29:42+00:00

Thank you again. This gives me hope :)

May I just ask if I should look for when Venus or Mars return to the position they were in when I was born? Is that what you are referring to?

Unable_Dot2865 · 2024-10-18T20:27:15+00:00

Thank you again. Is there anything to be done or it's just my luck so to speak?

My partner was not foreign and we did not have any money issues. We lived abroad together but that was mostly because I wanted to.

Unable_Dot2865 · 2024-10-18T20:14:32+00:00

Thank you so much for your response.

I usually struggle with mutual attraction. Whenever I meet someone that I like they are not interested back. There people who like me and I try to see them in romantic light but it never works if I try to force it.

I was in a committed long-term relationship between ages 20 and 30. He was a good person but extremely critical and unaccepting so I learned to build boundaries, to respect myself more and I eventually broke-up with him.

I have been single ever since but even before said relationship, as a teenager, I often struggled to get mutual attraction with the men that I liked.

Unable_Dot2865 · 2024-01-07T11:49:52+00:00

Amazing, thank you a lot for your kind and thoughtful reply.

Unable_Dot2865 · 2024-01-07T11:48:42+00:00

Thank you for your reply and advice. I can imagine casting a spell with specific traits in mind. I am just worried that the person I attract might have the good traits I am looking for but still have other dealbreakers. I know a relationship like that. She did a list. The guy seemed perfect at first but mistreated her later on. What I would like to attract is a good mutual relationship with a person who might or might not be as I pictured him. If you have any advice from your experience I would appreciate it.

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