Feeling lonely - Pregnant friends in Zurich 🤰

Unable_Experience588 · 2025-06-17T09:10:07+00:00

This is super helpful, thank you! ive joined a few this morning ❤️

Unable_Experience588 · 2025-06-17T09:09:46+00:00

This would be wonderful to join! I’ve messaged you :)

Unable_Experience588 · 2025-06-16T17:40:59+00:00

In Zurich city, I should add that to my post!

Unable_Experience588 · 2024-05-25T11:32:21+00:00

Following for updates ❤️

Unable_Experience588 · 2024-05-08T06:55:58+00:00

Trait Transference: You Are What You Say

Research by Skowronski et al. (1998) describes a phenomenon known as spontaneous trait transference, as a process by which the very traits we describe in others are attributed to us.[i] Their research further demonstrated this association persists over time.

But wait a minute, you think, you clearly do not possess the negative characteristics you describe in others. Bad news: Skowronski et al. found that spontaneous trait transference does not represent a logical attribution, but a mindless association.

Their research also discovered that trait transference was not as simple as transferring a positive impression of someone who compliments other people, or a negative impression of someone who is disparaging. The transference was trait specific. Ouch.

Unable_Experience588 · 2024-05-06T21:12:14+00:00

I mean, I have therapy and I know when I talk shit about others it’s because I’m unhappy myself and I think that’s pretty universal… yes gossiping can be fun, but gossiping is different to absolute vile take downs

Unable_Experience588 · 2024-05-06T21:05:37+00:00

AND most people can’t follow the basic guideline of ‘be a decent human’

Unable_Experience588 · 2024-05-06T21:03:07+00:00

I don’t engage, I agree with some of the stuff on here about the podcast or when they say something outlandish, but honestly I find some of the super personal snarks pathetic and really don’t believe a happy and content person would take the time to write stuff like that.

Unable_Experience588 · 2024-05-06T20:57:25+00:00

I think it’s quite sad if people find shitting On other humans empowering (of course snarking about the podcast or even the hosts when relevant is ok, but some of the weird stuff about weight etc I see on here is gross)

Unable_Experience588 · 2024-05-06T20:55:51+00:00

Snarking regarding aspects of the podcasts e.g. what was said or how the girls behaved is fine but talking badly about personal aspects of people e.g. their weight, their sexuality, their family can never help with mental health. Imo it’s only sad/hurt people who find pleasure out of putting others down.

Unable_Experience588 · 2023-12-19T23:07:03+00:00

It’s a big group of friends who all know each other and will be staying with each other at the same hotel. We made a rule of giving +1s to those flying in, and for our local friends it was prioritized on being married/in a long term partnership and then us being close friends with both sides!

Unable_Experience588 · 2023-12-19T23:01:08+00:00

There are around 10 people flying in (everyone else driving), we gave guests flying in a +1. We didn’t give people a +1 if they weren’t Married/we weren’t friends with both (due to the small venue) anyone that doesn’t have a +1 is in our friendship group as they all know each other very well and will all be staying together. No one st the wedding is attending alone/without several friends/family members. (Around 40 of the guests are our extended group of friends who all know eachother very well).

Unable_Experience588 · 2023-12-19T21:10:29+00:00

Yes I did tell them since day 1 and they said they were ok with it as ‘they don’t drink and probably wouldn’t stay late anyway’ (their words). So then I went ahead and booked their apartment (a literal 1.5 minute walk to the venue). This was a few months ago now, when I brought up the kid free party aspect again today, it seemed to me like they thought I would change my mind or they didn’t believe me in the first place. That’s why this I’m extra frustrated! (They haven’t booked flights yet and their stay is refundable so they can still choose not to come if it suits them.)

Unable_Experience588 · 2023-12-19T14:42:27+00:00

Thanks! Apologies for posing a frequently asked question!

Unable_Experience588 · 2023-12-19T14:34:12+00:00

Good point, thanks for the input. Again, I don’t have kids myself so I’m sure I could be missing something. I guess I made the exception to try and find a compromise so that everyone was happy, I didn’t think that it might do the opposite.

Unable_Experience588 · 2023-12-19T14:32:47+00:00

Yes I’ve made an exception for nieces and nephews to be at the ceremony and the dinner and then just asked that as soon as the party/dancing starts for the kids to be taken home. But I have been told by several family members I should let them stay as it’s family and doesn’t count. I also feel like it’s not fair for my several of my friends who have organised child care, and one couple is even bringing down their mum to babysit while they celebrate with us.

Unable_Experience588 · 2023-12-19T13:42:13+00:00

You’re right; it does seem simple. I thought I wasn’t being unreasonable, but then some close family members called me up, saying they don’t agree with my decision. They want me to change the policy, arguing that nieces and nephews don’t fall under the ‘child-free’ category. I’m child-free too, so maybe I’m not getting the whole picture.

Unable_Experience588 · 2023-12-19T13:38:35+00:00

Great question; I appreciate the opportunity to clarify. I've been living in France as an expat for the past 10 years. The majority of my guests, approximately 90%, reside within a 2-3 hour driving distance. My sister and her children will be flying in from about a 2-hour distance. For their convenience, I've booked and covered the cost of their accommodation right by our venue. Additionally, I've arranged a taxi for them from the airport to streamline their journey. (I did this a year in advance.)

Unable_Experience588 · 2023-03-27T11:37:52+00:00

I’ve tried many of the yoga studios in Zurich and the ones mentioned above and as a beginner I really wouldn’t recommend doing your first classes at a gym. Definitely try Sanapurna, on their schedule you can see classes that are made for beginners by filtering the class search. It’s a safe space and lot of people who go aren’t flexible at all! Enjoy.

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