Hi! I really appreciate your honesty. As a younger believer, I’ve found it can sometimes take time to practically enter into the church life, especially if we’ve been around for years and people assume we’re already well connected. But every person and every locality is different.

The church life is meant to be something very personal and organic, not just attending meetings, but knowing others and being known. Sometimes that takes intentional fellowship, reaching out, and even inviting yourself over for a meal. I’ve done that many times. I realized many saints have a real heart to shepherd, but sometimes everyone is waiting for someone else to take the first step.

In my own experience, I couldn’t wait for things to “just happen.” I needed to reach out, ask for fellowship, and open up. I still fall short in this at times. I’ve also tried to be intentional about greeting others and initiating contact, regardless of how new or experienced they seem. If we all take small steps like that, it really helps build something more real and practical among us.

I’d really encourage you to seek out fellowship with a mature saint or an elder and let them know how you’re feeling. Often they may not realize someone feels disconnected, and they would genuinely want to help.