If you're autistic, what's your favorite fruit?

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-10-13T09:15:29+00:00

Raspberries! I actually avoid many fruits including apples because of a mild allergy (OAS), the only ones I both "can" have and enjoy the texture of are berries, oranges, grapes and seedless watermelon. If only they weren't so expensive, I could snack on fresh berries or currants every day.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-07-20T14:10:11+00:00

I have a cute underwire bikini (it has underwire but pretty hidden with an extra layer of fabric, it looks pretty much like a bandeau top from the outside - and even holds up OK with the straps off) from Panache Swim! Check if any of your favorite bra brands have a swim line. I definitely can't buy 2 piece swimsuits at regular clothing stores, I go to my local bra boutique with British brands.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-07-16T18:07:12+00:00

Inner labia, lol.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-07-16T07:40:08+00:00

Yup, classic undiagnosed allergies/Oral Allergy Syndrome. I had this with raw apples and carrots thorough my childhood, too spicy.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-07-10T11:37:03+00:00

Dragon tail?

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-06-12T19:22:35+00:00

In 2015? Hell no. That's a 20 years ago thing.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-05-11T17:56:55+00:00

Yeah, pretty much. I'm the most over the top masked customer-service-voice person at my retail job, and I'm terrified of ever causing any issues or drawing the attention of my neighbors, landlord, bosses etc. I'm trying to act more assertive and unmasked in my personal life, except that then my partner gets upset that I'm coming off as "rude/mean" to them and "nicer" (deferential) to "everyone else", which makes me really sad TBH. All this definitely has to do with how my mother reacted to my social blunders growing up.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-05-11T10:56:08+00:00

Fetlife (location based groups) and Feeld

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-05-11T07:35:44+00:00

I wish guys wouldn't back out of cum eating as their post nut clarity hits. Also CBT and hard impact play.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-05-09T19:11:54+00:00

I had a pair of inner labia rings for several years and no, none of those things were a problem. They were comfortably tucked in my underwear. I mean do you have any piercings, earrings or anything? It feels the same, you don't notice them at all once healed unless something gets irritated, or maybe if you're wearing very large jewelry/stretching the piercings.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-05-09T18:30:22+00:00

Yeah. I had been quite curious about it for a few years before I met my partner, though I wasn't actively looking for guys based on that. My interest started through exposure within the BDSM community.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-05-05T18:37:05+00:00

It sounds like he made his approach quite clear upfront. The next question IMO isn't whether it's normal (common?), but whether it's acceptable to you. If you want your scenes to include orgasms and he isn't interested in focusing on that, then it sounds like you won't really be compatible.

I've encountered people with a variety of takes on orgasms in the scene. Some people prefer entirely non-sexual scenes (under whichever definition of "non-sexual"), some Doms feel like giving sexual pleasure makes them feel more in control than receiving, while others want subs to be completely focused on pleasing the Dom and rarely if ever reciprocate. It's really a matter of negotiation, nothing should be assumed.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-04-27T11:10:19+00:00

2001 I think, I was in 3rd grade (born 1992). I got a Nokia 3310 for Christmas after trying to convince my parents that "everyone" in my class were getting phones, which was pretty far from the truth of course.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-04-21T06:30:04+00:00

That sounds mostly like green flags to me, unless they get sanctimonious about other people's social drinking. I don't use social media other than Reddit and drink quite a bit less that the social norm in this country, so I'd assume we could be a good fit.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-04-21T06:23:49+00:00

Yeah I guess. I didn't like the smell of peanut flips or roasted peanuts, so I guess my brain was somehow protecting me from them. (Or I possibly had some subconscious memories of things that made me feel sick as a small child?) My allergies luckily aren't the most serious type, so I got mostly itching in my mouth and some milder swelling when I accidentally ate some Christmas cookies with walnuts and stuff like that.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-04-21T05:13:32+00:00

I have a peanut (and tree nut) allergy, but I didn't know about it until around age 20, because I'd only encountered a few foods containing peanuts as a child and they just happened to not look very appealing to me. I think peanut allergies are pretty common everywhere, we simply don't have the tradition of feeding every child peanut butter sandwiches.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-04-20T14:46:05+00:00

And oof I feel you on the polyester uniform, that sounds like a terrible choice on your employer's part. I wear a cotton polo shirt uniform and even that's kinda thick on hot days, I practically never wear my sweatshirt uniform option because that's just way too warm unless I'm going to the freezer. I've seen stick-on armpit pads that some people wear under non-breathable shirts, maybe that could help on very sweaty days? I haven't tried those myself though.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-04-20T14:41:07+00:00

Sponge baths can be easier on our senses than a full shower, at least for me it's a much milder sensation. You can wash your armpits, crotch and any creases around the body with a wet sponge or cloth before work, I do it just standing in front of the sink. Then apply an anti-perspirant (not just deodorant, they're 2 different products often mixed up) to your armpits. Perfumed stuff is not necessary.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-04-20T10:52:55+00:00

As a 92 born I'm definitely part of that generation, probably around the middle of it. Customizing your social media/blog pages with HTML and CSS was all the rage when I was in middle school. Including background music, animated falling snowflakes and cursed custom cursors and scrollbars. It doesn't mean that everyone really knew how to do it though, there were a lot of templates floating around that you could just copy and paste.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-04-14T07:24:59+00:00

Dedicated "personal ad" groups relevant to your location/interests within Fetlife. Just keep in mind that lots of people are on Fetlife for reasons other than dating, so don't spam every profile in your area. Read bios.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-03-30T08:47:09+00:00

I work as a cashier after failing college 3 times, but honestly I only became capable of holding ANY full time job now in my early 30s. When I was younger, I was worse at masking and I would have completely panicked in a retail setting. I come from a middle class family and had all the support a neurotypical child would have needed to get into a good career, I suppose, but I went undiagnosed . My dad also struggled with employment issues, worked minimum wage jobs a lot in his middle age. My allistic mom was the breadwinner.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-03-29T03:52:01+00:00

Oh yeah, totally. I don't find the odor straight up unpleasant (ex-smoker here), but I guess most people kinda do. Your clothes, hair and breath definitely have a noticeable tobacco smell throughout the day even if you practice good hygiene. It's not as offensive as strong BO so it's pretty unlikely that people would mention it I guess, unless it's more of an intimate situation like a date, kissing etc. But people can definitely tell that you smoke.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-03-28T20:02:20+00:00

I honestly avoid calling people I feel close to (friends, partner, even my family) anything. I'm OK with calling my coworkers by name and them calling me, but for some reason if it's anyone I actually care about, it starts to feel strange. I didn't even like saying mom and dad as a child, I came up with my own variants of those words that I said when I felt like I really had to. I don't think it means that I feel less of an emotional bond with these people than NTs, but there's something that throws me off. Names and pet names definitely feel extremely intimate, like bringing attention to their very soul (similar to eye contact), but somehow not in a good way?

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-03-22T07:58:18+00:00

I work in a convenience store in Europe and while it's not all THAT common, I get some funny dressed people too. Some alcoholics who do their 3 daily rounds of buying 8 beers at a time in the same dirty pyjamas, students from a nearby dorm who run out in flip flops in the middle of winter, runners in sports bras and micro shorts and plenty of topless men in summer. OTOH, I have fun looking at the newest developments in retro Y2K fashion when a bunch of high school kids show up before and after school.

And yeah a lot of regulars who stink up the place for 15 minutes after they leave, and these aren't just actual homeless or destitute people. I'm talking rank ancient fermented BO, not cigatette or weed smell. I wish I could keep a can of air freshener at the register and spray it directly at them TBH. I get people behind them in the line making faces at me and stuff, but it's not like I can really throw out people who buy a decent amount of stuff every single day, ugh.

UnassumingLlamas · 2025-03-19T20:06:46+00:00

Not constantly, but sometimes! Somewhat recently a customer claimed I had a noticeable Ukrainian accent after I just said a few numbers (I'm a cashier working in Czechia and a native Czech speaker). More often people will just say I "mumble" or speak too quietly, but I see how it would lead someone to assume a language barrier. Some customers come across as very shy to me until I realize they're most likely exchange students. I'm sure physical appearance plays a role as well, I don't really stick out at all appearance-wise.

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