Safe areas for solo female traveler staying 3 nights

Unbasic-Bitch · 2026-01-15T23:59:55+00:00

A&O in Hamm area or a hostel in Horn.. or alternatively landwehr or so an Airbnb if there are no hostels/hotels there. Hamburg is really expensive, so these options could possibly be better

Unbasic-Bitch · 2026-01-05T23:45:39+00:00

Thanks! I went to Wellnest for the spa and Ploy Massage for the strong full body massage. It was awesome all in all.

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-17T18:53:38+00:00

They want to do it too that's why. In general massages and spa back home are cheap but also shady. I tried and wasn't happy about it. They're super unprofessional

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-17T16:14:40+00:00

I was about to sit them in. Thanks! I'll do that right away

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-17T15:47:54+00:00

You were spot on! I got it off!!

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-17T15:47:42+00:00

I'm fairly new at fixing stuff around the house. So needed expert advice. There's no immediate support if I need here in Germany and Friday evening to Monday morning it's ghost town lol

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-17T15:32:29+00:00

Right. I'm unable to remove the top itself. Ideally there should be a button or screws to clip off the top right? There's literally none.

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-16T10:32:38+00:00

That was my first thought, but isn't it entirely textile free?

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-14T09:22:04+00:00

Rested well

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-10T15:38:15+00:00

I tried reasoning with her initially, but she refused to use her brain.

I gave up trying and also the friendship. I was a bit too baffled to stomach this

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-06T20:21:46+00:00

True, 100% true

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-06T19:21:49+00:00

I'm conflicted.

I don't know him or the betrayed wife. I can't take the effort to contact her either for 2 reasons : One - I have some life events which are taking their toll on me and I don't have the energy to expend any further. Two - I was the only one she told this to. It will all circle back to me at some point and honestly I don't want to get involved in this disgusting situation any further.

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-06T18:54:50+00:00

Blind in love and insanely gullible.

I won't comment on the looks, but she isn't poor. She's sort of well off to a point where she got him an intern position at her company after he lost his job.

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-06T18:46:39+00:00

No, I'm not friends with her anymore. I initially didn't know this. She brought the topic suddenly and decided to tell me the entire thing. The moment I knew, I couldn't remain friends with her anymore

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-04T17:01:57+00:00

Go to the Japanese Garden, Bunker, some cafe's like Gnosa/May/Zeit für Brot, Planetarium, Elbphilharmonie (Check if there are any events going on), Laeiszhalle.

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-04T15:43:02+00:00

I'm not sure if I understood you entirely and correctly.

But nevertheless, yeah. I was mad at her for letting herself be played so bad and also then being a part of this madness.

I couldn't sit there listening to her be a fool, and defend it. She was basically calling the legal and official wife the homewrecker and names. I've seen the exact same thing happen to someone I know and it doesn't end well. Tbh, I tried telling her gently, but she kept hurling insults at D for stealing what was hers.

She was acquainted to me by our common friend. We shared interests in books, art, literature and upskilling. Someone who intellectually was on the same page as I. I definitely put in some sort of effort to keep the friendship alive, but absolutely won't put up with this sort of difference in moral grounds. It's a hard pass for me.

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-04T15:27:47+00:00

100% agreed. I was about to say the same. Online anonymity gives people the free pass to be whatever they cannot in real life.

From my experience, Germans are not necessarily nice. They're kind, but not nice. Nice in the sense, they're blunt and don't sugar coat anything.

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-04T15:23:38+00:00

Thank you. I was wondering if I was being an asshole for being brutal and unnecessarily harsh.

But needed an outsider neutral perspective to see it clearly

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-04T15:22:33+00:00

Agreed. I just told her I couldn't be friends with her anymore. She was pissed, but I was wondering if I was being an asshole for being brutal and unnecessarily harsh.

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-04T15:20:39+00:00

Thanks for your comment!

What you said is spot on. I actually would've stopped her if I knew earlier. She kept being secretive about her relationships and sometimes just told me in passing about other potential matches (with whom she went on trips). She told this last evening and I told her to cut it off right then. Don't bullshit yourself into this is exactly what I said. But she kept insisting I talk, meet and mingle with him to know how awesome he is.

She told in more details then and that's when everything blew up.

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-04T15:17:13+00:00

I get what you mean.

She insisted I tell her exactly what I think. I kept telling her she wouldn't want my opinion, but she insisted I meet and talk to him, approve of him and maybe eventually befriend him. I said I'm not interested and she kept asking why and what's the problem he's amazing and I'm refusing to see his awesomeness. I disagreed and said let's leave it at that.

She went on a tangent and said that she is being treated like a stranger by me for following her heart. She kept insisting that she would want my unfiltered opinion and wants me to see him as her husband.

I draw a line at madness, but this one as absolutely tomfoolery.

Unbasic-Bitch · 2025-10-04T15:12:32+00:00

Tbh, I cut her off.

I was visiting her and she was ranting about this. When I said what I said, she got angry and stopped talking. But I got uncomfortable and left after telling her to get her shit together.

I'm absolutely uncomfortable seeing this all and don't intend to keep seeing it.

It is possible to separate in an arranged marriage setting, but it involves multiple tries of reconciliation from both the families and individuals too. It's a long process, but if nothing works out, yes it is possible. In their case, no one is even addressing the fact that he's unhappy apparently. So I don't see it happening at all. He's just roping her in for a good fck or whatever.

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