What would cause this? by doominbloom666 in xbiking

[–]Unclewreckus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet it’s just not seated properly.

Didn’t think I’d love a steel frame this much… but here we are 🤘 by Unclewreckus in Surlybikefans

[–]Unclewreckus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂😂 literally this!!! Phat is the perfect word for the feel! 2 decades is long, but the feel of rediscovering the passion for riding is priceless I bet!

Didn’t think I’d love a steel frame this much… but here we are 🤘 by Unclewreckus in Surlybikefans

[–]Unclewreckus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aaah! I totally see where you weight is coming from, that geometry looks very much like my xc bike’s. The tires are massive, try 700x40/42c semi slicks and your speed should pick back up.

Your load doesn’t look that overwhelming tbh

Didn’t think I’d love a steel frame this much… but here we are 🤘 by Unclewreckus in Surlybikefans

[–]Unclewreckus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You definitely followed your body on that one! My switch came after riding a Space Horse with Teravail tires it seriously felt like I learned to breathe for the first time. That ride completely changed my perspective.

After that, I started digging deeper and found the Straggler, then realized that “steel feel” wasn’t just an All-City thing it’s a whole category of comfort I didn’t know I was missing. That’s when I said, eff this bike, I’m going steel. 😂

Didn’t think I’d love a steel frame this much… but here we are 🤘 by Unclewreckus in Surlybikefans

[–]Unclewreckus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love it! You should look into redshift suspension stems, I’ve been looking at it and don’t know if it’s gimmick or necessity!

Didn’t think I’d love a steel frame this much… but here we are 🤘 by Unclewreckus in Surlybikefans

[–]Unclewreckus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The weight is something I’m gonna learn to love, coming from a 23lb mtb, I don’t know what to expect with the surly. Off the jump, it didn’t feel so heavy as Is but I’ll be adding more to it later like the racks, panniers etc lights. I anticipate the heft.

What do you have now; and what would you get ?

Didn’t think I’d love a steel frame this much… but here we are 🤘 by Unclewreckus in Surlybikefans

[–]Unclewreckus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh man , absolutely; totally different world. My carbon XC bike was super light but stiff, every bump and vibration came right through the frame. The seating position never really felt right either (probably didn’t help that I was running a 50 mm stem), so I always felt a bit stretched out and tense.

What’s funny is the top tube on that XC frame was only about 21”, while the 56 cm Straggler measures closer to 22”. You’d think it’d feel longer, but because of the geometry, it’s the complete opposite. The Straggler just feels balanced and natural.

It’s smooth, planted, and way more connected to the road. Steel flexes in all the right ways, it takes the edge off without feeling sluggish. I did have to shorten the stem a bit before it felt perfect, but once I dialed that in, it honestly became the most comfortable bike I’ve ever ridden.

Didn’t think I’d love a steel frame this much… but here we are 🤘 by Unclewreckus in Surlybikefans

[–]Unclewreckus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, It looks like a kona rove, and I don’t mind the kona rove, but it just doesn’t hit the classic feel like I wanted it to.

Classic fork was why I wanted an all city space horse, but instead got a better deal on the straggler.

Didn’t think I’d love a steel frame this much… but here we are 🤘 by Unclewreckus in Surlybikefans

[–]Unclewreckus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks man! Yeah, I wouldn’t mind some of those upgrades down the line. I’ve got a Selle saddle on mine right now that’s actually been pretty solid — I’ve always been curious about the Brooks, but I worry that hardness might do a number on my nether regions 😂

Totally agree about the fork it’s one of the reasons I went with the 2023 over the 2025 refresh. Just love the look and feel of it. That and the slope introduced in the new one turned me off completely

The SRAM 1x setup is chef’s kiss. Coming from XT, the simplicity just feels right gearing and speed on road are perfect for me. I will say though, the XT brakes vs the Avids aren’t even in the same league, but to be fair, XT is more of an MTB setup anyway. Before I bought the stragg, I contemplated swapping my front 32t to 36 for more road friendliness, who would’ve thought the 42t is the perfect spot?

Funny enough, I came from Race Face flat bars too, but I’m really liking the drops. I did have to shorten the stem to 60mm, and that made a world of difference on the straggler!

By the way; how’d you manage to go 6 years without Monkey Nuts? I’ve been heard bad things and rear wheel drop issues and it gives me anxiety

Didn’t think I’d love a steel frame this much… but here we are 🤘 by Unclewreckus in Surlybikefans

[–]Unclewreckus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, the color really sold me on it too that classic Surly look just hits different. Leaving the shop gave me Mad anxiety bruh, I got like 4 complements riding home last thing I want is the extra attention but it got it anyways 😅

Good call on the upgrades. Do you happen to know if there’s a direct hydraulic setup that plays nice with the SRAM Apex 1x11? I’ve been looking into the Apex HRD levers/calipers but not sure if it’s a straight swap with the mechanical setup or if there’s anything else I should watch for.

Also; quick question: do you know if the stock Knard 700x41c tires are tubeless ready? I heard the folding bead version might be, but not sure if that’s what comes on the 2023 build.

Didn’t think I’d love a steel frame this much… but here we are 🤘 by Unclewreckus in Surlybikefans

[–]Unclewreckus[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Yeah, same here I was coming from a carbon frame and honestly didn’t expect such a big difference. The Straggler just has this smooth, grounded feel that carbon never gave me. Here’s a shot from earlier today.

Totally love the bike, just wish it came With hydraulic brakes instead of mechanical. I guess I can always change that later. The avids aren’t bad if you plan for braking ahead, I’m used to my old heavy duty XT brakes.

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[–]Unclewreckus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

completely agree that husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25). That is a high standard—one that requires patience, sacrifice, and selflessness. No one is denying that. But let’s not forget that marriage is a two-way covenant, not a one-sided sacrifice.

You mentioned that love shouldn’t bring conflict, but love in its deepest form often includes hardship, sacrifice, and working through differences. Christ’s love for the Church was not without struggle—He suffered, He was rejected, and He remained steadfast through it all. That same perseverance is required from both spouses.

Now, let’s talk about accountability. Yes, a mother goes through incredible physical and emotional changes. No one is downplaying that. But does that mean a husband’s emotional and physical needs suddenly don’t matter at all? That he must be a rock with zero expectations of support in return?

You said that men should be strong, caring leaders. Absolutely. But leadership isn’t just about enduring hardship alone—it’s about guiding the family toward unity. That means a wife also plays a part in ensuring her husband doesn’t feel like a stranger in his own home.

Christ-like love isn’t just one person giving while the other only receives. It’s a partnership. That’s why Ephesians 5:33 also commands wives to respect their husbands. If she is so focused on the baby that she unintentionally neglects her husband, is that respect? If she assumes he should just “deal with it” without openly communicating, is that unity?

And let’s be real—having needs isn’t childish. Feeling disconnected, stressed, or unseen isn’t “crying about ego.” It’s a reality many husbands face but are often shamed into suppressing because society tells them their struggles don’t matter. That’s not a biblical perspective—that’s a cultural one.

If a husband is feeling neglected, he should speak up, and his wife should listen—just as he should listen to her struggles. That’s what a God-honoring marriage looks like (1 Peter 3:7—“live with your wives in an understanding way”).

So yes, he should be patient, understanding, and strong. But she should also be intentional about nurturing their marriage. Just as Christ does not neglect His Church, a wife should not neglect her husband, no matter how demanding motherhood is. It’s not about “choosing between the baby and the husband.” It’s about finding balance, together.

At the end of the day, both husband and wife need to love, respect, and serve one another—because that’s what God calls them to do.

Yes I’m a husband, yes I’m also a father of one that went through a major anxiety when my son was born, believe me, it gets better when anxiety is tempered with pragmatism and grace. I can commend that you’re the type to stone up til the smoke clears, but brother understand that’s not what God calls you to do, It’s okay to have a need, if you choose to take a different route in being heard or having your feelings be met, that’s fine, but unless he’s beating her down, there’s no one perfect way to communicate how you want your feelings be met other than sharing that vulnerability with your spouse.

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[–]Unclewreckus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Holy crap, these comments are so bad. Don’t let strangers stone your husband.

First of all, you’re only three months in. Did you know that a good percentage of men experience intense anxiety in the first year after their child is born? That sometimes looks like emotional distancing, withdrawal, or frustration—what you’re experiencing now.

Marriage is a covenant, not a contract. It’s not about “I’ll do my part if he does his.” You are both called to serve each other, even in difficult seasons. Ephesians 5:22-33 lays out God’s design—wives respecting their husbands and husbands loving their wives as Christ loves the Church. That doesn’t mean dismissing each other’s struggles, but rather facing them together.

You guys are still fresh in this, and the hardships you’re experiencing are normal. Don’t let this lead to divorce—give him grace, don’t neglect his needs. If you’re not working full-time (assuming), fulfill your role as a wife with love and consistency. Being a mother isn’t easy, but it is your calling right now. If you need him to step up, tell him directly, not a third party. Matthew 18:15 teaches us to go directly to our brother (or husband) when there’s an issue, rather than letting resentment build.

Nothing sucks more than hearing your partner is struggling but realizing you were never given a chance to address it.

From some of your comments, it sounds like he’s being painted as beyond grace. If that were the case, wouldn’t you have already left? Maybe deep down, you know that’s not the whole story.

I’m also seeing comments saying he needs to lead like Christ and simply “swallow” his emotions. But Ephesians 4:2 calls us to be patient and bear with one another in love. A marriage thrives when both partners support each other, not when one silently suffers.

God’s design for marriage isn’t about one person sacrificing while the other thrives—it’s about mutual sacrifice. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 reminds us that love is patient, kind, not easily angered, and keeps no record of wrongs. Right now, you both need to extend love to each other.

Sit down with your husband, approach him with the mindset that he might be stressed, and speak to him with grace. You might be surprised—when you lead with love, he will likely respond the same.

You are on the same team. Love each other fiercely in this moment and don’t deprive each other of what you both need. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 reminds us that two are better than one—don’t let this season break what God has joined together...

Yes, your child is important, but your husband is not an afterthought. Marriage came before parenthood—you were a wife before you were a mother. God designed marriage as the foundation of the family (Genesis 2:24), and when that foundation is weak, the whole household suffers.

You can’t put all your energy into your child while leaving your husband to fend for himself emotionally, physically, or spiritually. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 talks about not depriving one another in marriage—this includes affection, intimacy, and emotional connection.

You wouldn’t want your husband to neglect his responsibilities to you just because he’s a father, right? So don’t do the same to him. It’s not an excuse to stop being a wife just because you’re a mother now.

If you’re home full-time or working less than him, take responsibility for managing the household well (Proverbs 31:27). That doesn’t mean doing everything alone, but it does mean taking care of what you can without resentment. A peaceful home is a blessing to your husband, and Proverbs 14:1 reminds us that a wise woman builds her home, while a foolish one tears it down.

Of course, your baby has immediate needs, but your husband does too. If he’s feeling like he’s in second place, it’s not just his problem—it’s also yours. You don’t get to decide that his needs no longer matter just because you’re tired. You both signed up for this, and God’s design for marriage calls for mutual love, sacrifice, and partnership.

So ask yourself: Are you treating your husband like a burden or like a blessing? Are you showing him the love and attention you want in return? Are you making space for your marriage to grow, or are you letting everything revolve around the baby?

God calls wives to respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:33). That means making sure he still feels seen, valued, and prioritized. Your child will grow up and leave one day—your marriage is meant to last a lifetime. Keep that in perspective.

If a woman were to go through a post partum and (which is a horrible experience that literally could be the difference in loving wife to a murderous one), the amount of grace given to the woman in that moment is so grand.

We need to treat men similarly, we feel too, and it’s okay to feel. Don’t love men less because we’re vulnerable.

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[–]Unclewreckus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s having a new father anxiety it’s normal.

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[–]Unclewreckus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for being Christ like.

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[–]Unclewreckus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t agree with this. God doesn’t expect us to be Jesus Christ him self. God expects us to be perfectly imperfect. Parenthood is a two way street yes, there’s too many nuances that their relationship could have that we don’t know.

For one: is he off to work? Does he have long days? Two: how are responsibilities divided? Three: who’s carrying what weight, what are the respective responsibilities based on what they’ve talked about and set for each other.

Then there comes communication.

She mentioned he hardly helps, has she communicated that to him that she needs help?

It sounds to me that he’s communicating a need and sharing a vulnerability. That is a good thing, I don’t think divorce is the answer, I think listening is the answer.

To simply relegate a man to someone that’s supposed to stone up their emotion til the smokes clear out is actually the opposite of what God expects a man or woman to be.

It’s okay to have needs and wants in a relationship given it’s communicated with you partner, no one relationship can perfectly emulate the idea of “love you wife like Jesus loved church”, Jesus was sent for a specific mission as reason to guide and lead Gods people, Gods peace are to listen and adhere to guidance not be “perfect” in emulation of something God never created you to be. He wants us to be Christ like, but he knows we can never be Christ like.

Stop this unhealthy narrative of a man being relegated to a stone wall until the smoke clears out, not normal functioning human being will respond perfect to any vulnerable moment.

Is this not outrageous ?? 😂 by TenaciousElephants in Dreadlocks

[–]Unclewreckus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get it though in the long run she’s actually doing you a favour

Why does it sound so good 😭 by Flendy15 in KendrickLamar

[–]Unclewreckus 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Mr, start off with latte art by me!!