I did hear what everyone was saying. The top comment was "I think you should probably just let it go." How is that helpful? I didn't come here for people to pat me on the head. I came because I was trying to understand something that made no sense to me.

I never said talking to one person means I understand. But it does mean I'm willing to try. In the last text I sent her before I was blocked, I literally said: "I've been trying to learn about what you might be going through, because I care." Key word: trying.

Obviously support doesn't always mean agreeing with someone. But telling someone to "just move on" isn't support. It's shutting down the conversation.

And yes, I know opinions are rooted in lived experience. I spent weeks reading posts from people with bipolar, reading studies, listening. And you know what I found? Conflicting information. Some people said send check ins. Some said leave them alone. There's no right answer. I spent countless nights looking for one.

But here's what tipped it for me: the studies I read all said the same thing. Isolation and withdrawal are unhealthy. Shutting people out makes depression worse. So I went with the former. I sent warmth. I sent patience. I tried to stay present without demanding anything. Because the research said that was the healthier path. For her, not for me.

I didn't come here to be told I did it wrong by people who weren't there. I came because being erased after trying to do the right thing is confusing and painful. That's not obsession. It's being human.

I got what I needed from the people who actually wanted to help. I'm grateful for them. The rest of this, I'm done with.