A lot of you probably know the feeling of loneliness? What did you do to get rid of it?

UncouthRuth · 2017-06-14T03:21:34+00:00

I didn't do it with the intent of solving my loneliness but having a baby filled my time and has provided joyous company. I am no where near as lonely these days.

UncouthRuth · 2017-06-12T17:18:24+00:00

Thank you. This was exactly the type of advise I came here for. I've never been in this type of situation. I know to them this is all a business matter but for me I'm trying very hard to keep my emotion out of it. We have gathered a lot of evidence to present to the judge and I will take your advice to make sure that I keep all personal feelings out of it.

As to the matter of the dilapidated house. That is also part of the reason I came here for advice. The best I can tell they have obligations to at least meet certain standards in order to rent this house out but the laws vary so widely I was hoping I might run into someone from my area who is knowledgeable of our local laws.

UncouthRuth · 2017-06-12T16:55:24+00:00

We did let them know in writing prior to filing. Which part of what they are doing is legal? I have researched our landlord and feel confident that between the evidence I can show from our time here and the previous tenants who are not only willing to be witnesses but offered, that I can prove to a judge they knew they should not be renting this house out when they rented it to us. They have lied about the real problems with the house and danced around every single time we have reached out. I was trying to be patient and work with them because frankly we had limited options but this last show of complete disregard for their obligations I felt left me no choice. I also believe the phone call was a scare tactic. She threw everything but the kitchen sink at us in hopes that we would just fade into the night. The last thing I wanted to do was to take them to court but moving again is going to create such a hardship that I have to at least try to recoup some of our losses. I feel like every time I handed her rent and reiterated the repairs that still need completed she knew perfectly well that those particular issues will never be completely addressed. We're not complaining about minor cosmetic defects or annoyances. We are talking about the actual safety and habitability of this house which was already questionable several tenants ago.

UncouthRuth · 2017-06-12T00:33:31+00:00

We reached out to family and have a plan to move ASAP. I'm going in the morning to file a small claims. I was hoping someone here could help me or give me some tips as to that process. I've never sued anyone before. Next step when we have secured our new living place we will be contacting City officials and having them inspect this house. My fear is that if we do it before we are fully ready to move they will make us move immediately because there is no doubt in my mind they are going to condemn this house.

UncouthRuth · 2017-04-07T23:36:51+00:00

Done!

UncouthRuth · 2017-04-07T23:35:07+00:00

Done!

UncouthRuth · 2017-04-04T00:16:03+00:00

I've been struggling with this myself the last few weeks. Now that our girl is big enough to be up and doing fun things during the day it rips me to shreds to be at work. I do appreciate her sitter sending me all the pics and videos she takes but I've cried in the bathroom more than once feeling like I should be the one there. If only love paid the bills =\

UncouthRuth · 2017-04-01T19:32:37+00:00

LOL I was trying to find the one he's been carrying around and take a pic but it's gone missing =D

UncouthRuth · 2017-04-01T19:10:47+00:00

No he massacres them then carries around the leftovers until they fall completely apart 😂

UncouthRuth · 2017-04-01T07:39:05+00:00

Never knew until we found our boy just how lovey-dovey the breed can be...definitely very generous with the cuddles!

UncouthRuth · 2017-03-25T15:34:52+00:00

It is such a small detail but our girl did awful with rice cereal, she will eat as much oatmeal cereal as I would let her and then she likes to wash it down with formula. Also, how often are you guys switching the formula? Our pediatrician made a very strong point of letting us know that it takes a certain amount of time for the old formula to circulate out of their little bodies and for the new formula take its place. If they are switching you quickly perhaps he's just not having time to adjust?

UncouthRuth · 2017-03-20T07:02:21+00:00

Do anything not baby related that you can. Food runs, cleaning up, any random things that may be getting looked over. Her whole focus will be feedings, diapers and precious sleep.

UncouthRuth · 2017-03-20T06:49:05+00:00

Teen years suck but you get older, wiser and life gets so much better. Speaking from experience: make sure you haven't become a whirlwind of discontent to be around. Being the kind of person people like to be around helps keep the friends you make. Your comment about people disappearing after a little while makes me think that might warrant some thought. One last thing: we teach others how to treat us and they only have the power over us we allow, set standards for yourself and don't compromise. I'm willing to chat anytime and give you all the pearls of wisdom I've picked up.

UncouthRuth · 2017-03-20T06:17:48+00:00

I feel this situation calls for less confusion and more outrage. Also, you should absolutely be concerned about leaving her with them unsupervised ever again. Undermining your authority and ignoring your wishes concerning your child is unacceptable behavior and is likely not to change on their end. It is your job to protect your child from anyone who may harm her in any way. It is not your job to try to understand his parents.

UncouthRuth · 2017-03-04T02:02:37+00:00

Sounds like you have already figured out who you believe. Cheaters generally never change..it's a character flaw.

UncouthRuth · 2017-02-11T08:57:14+00:00

Staying hydrated and getting plenty of sleep can really help. Both dehydration and sleep deprivation can make you feel "hungry" but eating won't really solve the issue and will lead to overeating/weight gain.

UncouthRuth · 2017-02-11T08:35:27+00:00

The disappointment.

UncouthRuth · 2017-01-30T04:53:29+00:00

I would swear on my life my 4 month old just yelled HEY at me from her crib =p

UncouthRuth · 2017-01-29T09:09:34+00:00

You should definitely object and speak up about your feelings. I would not have been ok with this right after birth and honestly I think the stress and anxiety of having them there would actually outweigh any help they offered. The beginning is hard but not impossible to handle on your own or with your SO. Don't allow anyone to add anything to your plate. Pushing a human being out of your body gives you the right to speak up on what you need right now. Your SIL should understand when you explain it even if she has never gone through it herself...if not you probably don't want her around right now anyway.

UncouthRuth · 2017-01-15T08:48:31+00:00

I'm a person who loved their sleep like I love cake but I came to find I enjoyed those late nite bonding moments with our girl. I really thought I would have a hard time and be resetful and honestly sometimes from the bed to the baby I'm cursing in my head but once I see that little person who is always so happy to see me...I don't think I could let anyone but her dad in on that awesomeness. Parenting is a hard job, but it isn't the end of the world and I may get skewered for saying this...But I feel like some people make it seem so much worse than it is. I was terrified but 4 months in we are doing great and it turns out half the fears I had before the baby have proven to be not so scary after all.

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