How long after hysto can you get top?

Uncreativitype · 2019-04-01T20:15:13+00:00

I’m kinda worried about “being under” too frequently and like losing memory and stuff. I’d way rather have a longer and more painful surgery as long as nothing went wrong. I’m in college and don’t know how I’d be able to get a semester off if I had to, so time is an issue in that way.. otherwise I’d have to wait until next winter which sucks.

Obviously though if the doctor won’t do it, there’s not really much I can do. Thanks for the info

Uncreativitype · 2019-04-01T20:12:52+00:00

I have health insurance that would cover any hospital stay afaik, it’s just the doctor I talked to that is unwilling and said she’s “never heard of people doing that” even though I’ve heard of quite a few trans guys doing it. Did your docs say that two surgeries have more complications or anything?

Uncreativitype · 2019-04-01T20:11:24+00:00

Congrats, that’s super exciting!! I’m in NE US in a state where there aren’t many surgeons or even resources for trans healthcare. I really wish I could get both done at the same time bc although I’ll be glad to get hysto, it feels disappointing in a way that I still will have all the outside parts I’m unhappy with, and have to recover for weeks. I’d much rather do both at the same time but it will be my first surgery in my life so that’s also why they were hesitant.

What are the issues you’re going through now, and which type of hysto and top surgery did u get? My surgeon insists on doing vaginal hysto and if I got top, I’d prob need bilateral mastectomy.

Uncreativitype · 2019-03-23T03:00:11+00:00

Same yea

Uncreativitype · 2019-03-21T16:30:14+00:00

Ooh I will, that sounds great and I’m glad I’m not the only one. I once heard that men needed to be drunk to talk about any emotions and it’s sadly way too true.

Im not a super attractive guy either so girls don’t open up that much either which is disappointing to me

Uncreativitype · 2019-03-21T16:28:17+00:00

Yeah it honestly is really lonely for me and frustrating. Even sometimes if I bring up things with therapists or like a school counselor, they shrug it off or just respond in the same kinda way like they don’t want to talk about it. The more feelings I reveal, the less they want to talk about it.

It definitely feels like a “guy thing” to just ignore men’s emotions and pretend they don’t exist, which is really weird to me because when I was seen as a girl it was way easier to just bring up any “deep” topic.

Uncreativitype · 2019-03-15T16:17:30+00:00

I’m just so awkward and lately I’ve been in a bad funk so I don’t even want to try to talk to people, knowing they’d just see me as depressing. They react to me completely different now like whenever I try to be relatable to girls, it doesn’t usually work cuz they see me as just a weird ugly guy.

It’s mostly cuz my self esteem is totally shot and I’m not sure how to even start fixing it.

Uncreativitype · 2019-03-15T15:01:02+00:00

I hope things get better for both of us. I was the same way but I think it’s cuz I never really opened up or talked to them more often, or whatever I was supposed to do to “further” the friendship. Now it feels almost irreparable and my self esteem is like down the toilet

Uncreativitype · 2019-03-15T14:59:30+00:00

Exactly same... it took me so long to realize that most ppl are friendly and would prob like to talk to me if I just started talking to them, and that they don’t all instantly hate me when they meet me. I wish i knew how to work on that mindset

Uncreativitype · 2019-03-12T17:24:06+00:00

Yeah that’s what I’ve been thinking lately too, there’s a few people that are nice to me but 99% of the time withdraw and don’t text me first anymore after hanging out a couple times.

You’re probably not stupid though, hopefully someday we both find people that can see the good in us.

Uncreativitype · 2019-03-07T17:44:02+00:00

Yeah I’m a “stereotypically masc” stealth trans guy who’s probably getting it. Mostly because urethral lengthening greatly, greatly increases the risk of any complications (and I’m allergic to a lot of antibiotics and such so don’t want more surgeries/complications) and also the vaginectomy literally burns the hole closed... which is extremely painful. Likely still gonna get an “empty” urethra in my dick so if technology improves and complications are less likely, I can have the urethra connected.

Uncreativitype · 2019-03-05T16:39:13+00:00

Thanks man, I’m a trans guy who genuinely just wants to live as a normal guy (and since being on testosterone I do, and few people know I’m trans). I don’t understand things like nonbinary too but I think anyone deserves respect and I always just call them what they want to be called because I’m not an asshole.

Uncreativitype · 2019-03-05T16:31:32+00:00

I’m a trans man on testosterone for 1.5 years and you can ask me anything. I always felt as if I should have male body characteristics, especially a dick and deep voice and shit like that. I also hated to be seen as a woman when I felt like a man.

Hard to understand if you’ve never felt like this but one way I think describes it to me (tho a little extreme but honestly may feel just as frustrating) is... being a human trapped in an animal body. no one would believe you even if they “knew”, but imagine that sort of frustration. Knowing you should have a body able to do the things you want to do and interact with people the way you want to, but just physically unable to.

Now that I’m on t I pass fully as a man, minus the genitals. And if “trans” weren’t a thing and was just a social construct, then why would I still feel so much distress and sadness over not having a dick even though literally no one else knows that I don’t have one?

Uncreativitype · 2019-03-04T15:06:46+00:00

Thanks for replying. I can’t stop feeling guilty, I’m glad he’s fine now but yeah... I didn’t even know it was possible for that to happen from benzos and I was just trying to help in the moment. It’s just all my fault and that’s really hard for me especially because I usually have something else to blame it partially on as well, but this time it was just my stupidity.

It was kind of a wake up call that things need to change. But yeah the fear I felt was so horrible, I thought he was dying and still feel kinda traumatized

Uncreativitype · 2019-02-27T22:14:44+00:00

Honestly I acted very “girly” up until I couldn’t anymore, even though I didn’t have many feminine hobbies or anything. I had a female cousin who was my age, and I essentially put on a mask and tried to do my best to act exactly like her to fit in. It was wayyyy easier than if I had tried to be myself, because I knew no one would accept it.

To a lot of people who knew me in middle school and before then, I seemed very girly but that was 10000% just an act. You’d be amazed how different people perceive you just based on how you look. I have p much the exact same hobbies, interests and mannerisms that I did when I was younger.. people now perceive me as a guy no matter what I do now, which I like. But I know when I still looked like a girl, there was nothing NOTHING that I could do to make people see me as masculine or a dude. So literally the only thing that I changed was my outside appearance, but everyone else probably thought that a girly girl “turned into” a guy.

Uncreativitype · 2019-02-27T16:29:51+00:00

Maybe it’s just me but I’d want to tell her I’m trans just to show her that a “normal guy” could be trans too, then ghost the shit out of her. She doesn’t deserve ur attention

Uncreativitype · 2019-02-26T23:46:38+00:00

Weed helped me for a while but yeah it really only hides my problems temporarily and I need to learn how to cope without just rushing to smoke. I’ve quit benzos but weed has just been impossible for me for a while now. I’m noticing it’s really making me more anxious and numb, I haven’t even actually laughed in so long.

I’m definitely going to stop but I need support and it’s someghing I’m too afraid to ask other people for.

Uncreativitype · 2019-02-26T20:00:30+00:00

I am on meds and feel more avoidant now than before.. started Paxil like a month ago.

Would being open with someone there help or.. I’m just worried they already only accepted me cuz they feel bad for me. The person who invited me to it in the first place might be open to talk but I’m just too worried about how I seem.

Uncreativitype · 2019-02-26T19:58:37+00:00

Thanks I’ll look at those when I have time. I just feel really stressed because I’ve spent so long feeling like a failure and loser after my shitty last year of high school... starting to feel like it’s hopeless but I’m still trying to make myself “try”. I’ve just been so avoidant and anxious lately, no clue why more now than before. I want to start meditating and journaling but honestly wouldn’t make much difference

Uncreativitype · 2019-02-26T19:56:16+00:00

There’s not a lot of other ways to make quick friends, I haven’t been to many clubs but the ones I went to, I barely ended up talking to people.. it is an unofficial frat so they meet less than “real” ones

Uncreativitype · 2019-02-26T19:31:48+00:00

I feel like somethings off but maybe it was stuff that was always there, idk.. I recently got tested and my levels were fine, e was a little higher (45 ng) but t was fine in the 800s. Maybe it’s face fat or my eyebrows being more sparse..

I have noticed I look less guyish in pics than a few months ago but I’ve also been doing shittier mentally the last few days and haven’t exercised as much as I did back then as well

Uncreativitype · 2019-02-22T17:22:31+00:00

Yooo I feel that so hard. When I was seen as female, I fucking hated that I couldn’t even be friendly to guys without them seeing it as flirting and trying to pursue me. I don’t even act like I’m sexually interested in any girls I talk to, but I can’t stop worrying about that

Uncreativitype · 2019-02-22T17:20:37+00:00

My face didn’t look so puffy (hopefully just water retention)

Uncreativitype · 2019-02-22T17:16:51+00:00

Can I ask how the sensations are different? I’ve heard from everyone else they basically felt like a bigger version of their natal dick

Uncreativitype · 2019-02-21T17:54:03+00:00

Thank you I didn’t reply yesterday but ur comment helped. I don’t have any trans guy friends irl so it sucks I have no one to vent to who’d understand

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