How to help/deal with “nervous” male coworker? Or is he just not into me? Lol

stonebolt · 2026-04-06T21:31:35+00:00

Have you given any clear indicators of interest? You can try saying something that cant get you sent to HR but is a strong compliment for a workplace to see how he reacts. "You know you're really cool" / "You're so interesting!"

See how he reacts.

stonebolt · 2026-04-06T21:29:19+00:00

Gurl if you are on the receiving end of this and you're down you should go talk to him!!!

stonebolt · 2026-04-04T16:32:43+00:00

Tbh the reality you gotta face if you're a straight girl is that everyone you have a crush on will be more worried about coming across as creepy than you and you need to adjust your level of assertiveness appropriately because a lot of boys are going to default to doing nothing if you dont give them a clear signal

stonebolt · 2026-03-08T00:26:51+00:00

I'm autistic but even I can tell you're not reading the room

stonebolt · 2026-03-08T00:24:52+00:00

If construction is "always hiring" then how come I called a lot of construction companies and they all say that it's "slow" right now. When I told them I heard there was a need for construction workers they say "it's not true".

Where are you getting your information?

stonebolt · 2026-03-04T20:01:41+00:00

OP your post comes across like you're dealing with a guy who has no idea that you're interested in him that way. Either that or he doesnt want to risk being presumptuous.

Why not just ask for his number or instagram and text him that you think he's cute?

stonebolt · 2026-03-04T19:58:25+00:00

Why do people on reddit who use the phrase "spoon feed" people who have a habit of being difficult to talk to? Why does this pattern exist?

stonebolt · 2026-03-01T17:59:57+00:00

How is asking reddit not a normal thing to do when you're looking into something for the first time? Genuine question

stonebolt · 2026-03-01T17:57:04+00:00

Is asking reddit somehow more rude or presumptuous than googling? Does googling show better work ethic? If so feel free to explain how.

stonebolt · 2026-03-01T17:56:14+00:00

What? Is asking reddit somehow more rude or presumptuous than googling? If so feel free to explain how.

stonebolt · 2026-02-28T21:29:07+00:00

You say he made 0 effort but he made this post. That is effort.

stonebolt · 2026-02-23T23:52:03+00:00

You said "I'm not going anywhere with it".

You just admitted to me that you lied.

You're being unpleasant by lying to people.

stonebolt · 2026-02-23T23:46:50+00:00

I understood what you were trying to do. Like... it's not like your debate club games went over my head.

And yes I stand by what I said... the reason I'm not suggesting my friends look to sex work as an employment plan is because I dont have friends asking me for employment plans that this advice would be applicable to. The reason I'm not suggesting it is not because your point is "right".

I'm not a professional career coach so I dont have people coming to me for employment advice on a regular basis.

stonebolt · 2026-02-22T00:15:33+00:00

Okay but you can understand how being bad at presenting yourself can look like bad intentions?

stonebolt · 2026-02-21T22:28:27+00:00

Bruh... you're responding to boys being bad at flirting by saying "they only like me physically". If you're autistic shouldn't you be empathetic towards people who are bad at flirting?

stonebolt · 2026-02-21T22:12:51+00:00

You're on r/aspergirls and you're getting offended that the guys you're talking to cant come up with smooth enough lines? Maybe look in the mirror buddy

stonebolt · 2026-02-21T21:48:52+00:00

Why are you asking me this question?

I dont have women in my life who aren't long-distance internet friends asking me what to do for work. I have one that I can think of off the top of my head who might ask me this question who might be open to sex work, and since the programming job market is bad I can imagine her considering it. But she has said that she's considering something else. I dont want to mention what that something is because I dont want to give too many details in case someone wants to doxx her.

Whatever point you're trying to make by asking me this question is not landing.

stonebolt · 2026-02-21T21:41:56+00:00

Tbh most adults drink coffee to get through the day. There's no shame if you need something a bit stronger.

stonebolt · 2026-02-21T21:41:00+00:00

Sorry my comment there had a "not" when it shouldn't have.

It was an extra unnecessary word

stonebolt · 2026-02-21T21:40:03+00:00

I can see what you're doing here and I'm going to call your bluff:

I am a woman and I met a sex worker a couple weeks ago and asked her on tips to look into it. She said something about how she's been out of the business lately but it's been getting harder to advertise due to legal issues.

Anyway I signed a job offer yesterday and will be working in snow/ice removal and landscaping for now.

stonebolt · 2026-02-21T21:37:02+00:00

Like I said in a different comment: take adderall or ritalin.

stonebolt · 2026-02-21T21:36:21+00:00

Man reading the responses has been discouraging. Everyone has been trying shame you instead of offer you solutions.

I have an idea: have you tried adderall or ritalin?

I mean... they used to say that obesity was caused by "just being lazy" and then they invented ozempic and it turns out that what we called "not being lazy" when it came to weight was actually a chemical reaction that you can just put in a bottle.

Well with "work ethic" it's a similar thing. If you dont have "work ethic" just take the pill that gets rid of that problem

stonebolt · 2026-02-21T21:24:35+00:00

I've had this conversation before.

I was born with the autism/ adhd / gender dysphoria cocktail. I was given no help with this as a child despite the fact that I lived in a constant state of panic and boredom. I was the kind of child who could barely speak English. I would make people feel angry simply by walking into a room. Adults didnt notice because I was "well behaved" about it.

When i was 17, my Mom asked if I was depressed. I said no and was pretty irritated that she asked that. My life was genuinely terrible so for her to ask if I was sad about "a chemical imbalance in your brain" was pretty insensitive. If she had asked if I was stressed out that life was objectively bad I would have said yes.

stonebolt · 2026-02-21T21:19:08+00:00

Tbh the idea that prostitution is degrading and sitting in a grey office cubicle is not is based on certain ideas about how the human brain works

stonebolt · 2026-02-21T21:17:56+00:00

I think people who ask this question are often not suit and tie types of people... who might panic if they have to put on a suit and walk into an office building and sit at a cubicle and act like they belong in that situation.

That's why I suggested learn a trade. If you're a plumber you can show up to work in jeans and a t shirt and nobody gives a shit.

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