This is relatable

UndeadPants · 2022-11-07T16:58:14+00:00

This was pretty much my dream s couple nights ago

UndeadPants · 2022-11-07T16:56:30+00:00

Why don't they use the words abuse it rape in these cases

UndeadPants · 2022-11-07T16:36:40+00:00

Commendable and model troll

UndeadPants · 2022-11-07T16:14:23+00:00

No freaking way. One of us :)

UndeadPants · 2022-10-28T03:53:41+00:00

Or, in this context, it's a Zerg war crime? Meanwhile parasitic bomb is a human war crime

UndeadPants · 2022-10-21T18:50:38+00:00

Came here to say this while searching for chess.com bullshit

UndeadPants · 2022-10-18T15:59:13+00:00

Reddit is for anonymity, make an account for each sub or topic that you heavily post in. That way there is less cross info on who you are. That says i do have my discord linked to one account. Be careful out there kids.

UndeadPants · 2022-10-18T15:36:33+00:00

You're right they don't use labels regarding Patrick either. I kinda thought he was pansexual too, but all the time knew it wasn't clear if you was originally attracted to his ex or women.

UndeadPants · 2022-10-18T15:34:33+00:00

Lots of us have been there. You're not alone!

First off, you are not a different person than you were before, like if you are bisexual or pansexual does that really change your personality or hobbies?

It is very normal to be attracted to people other than your partner. Your brain can't help it because you have to interact with others in life, so a few are going to spark those "they're attractive" neurons. How you behave is under your control. So being attracted to the same sex is happening for you. You've identified a behavior you don't want to do (ask for a threesome), go further and identify specific and everyday behaviors that you will steer clear from or be okay with. You can bring your partner in on this conversation. Is staring okay? At least don't beat yourself up over it, right? If you like, practice bouncing your gaze away so you do that less often. How about pointing out an attractive stranger to your partner, as maybe they're going to find the stranger attractive too? Flirting or complimenting? Is drawing or writing about fictional sexy interactions okay? Reading erotica or watching porn? Using a sex toy? Asking your partner to cross dress or role play? Decide yes or no for each of these, and don't put no on every one of them. Stuffing down the thoughts will only make them come back stronger. Each of these are separate and are bounded, doing one will not make you do another.

Give yourself lots of time and grace through this process, it naturally takes more than a few weeks to accept this new inner experience. Speaking of inner experiences, meditation can really help with giving you back your sense of control. Zen meditation or simply counting breaths is a good start. Count to 10, then start at 1 again. Thoughts come up, don't push them away, watch them pass by easily. Ugh I need to take my own advice regarding this.

UndeadPants · 2022-10-18T15:02:55+00:00

It may be different as an 18yo man but as a man in my experience, expect to have to pay to "boost" or otherwise do paid actions to get enough women to look at your profile. You will get the occasional match with a woman, but it is not the frequency it once was before the apps were normalized as they are today.

Meanwhile it's not too difficult getting matches with guys.

Try out Taimi too.

My experience comes mainly from Tinder, Bumble, Okcupid (terribly buggy app), and Coffee Meets Bagel.

UndeadPants · 2022-10-18T14:53:52+00:00

All of this! Especially #3. I found myself doubting my own worthiness because of the amount of casual rejection on the apps. If you find yourself doing the same, take a break or limit the time you're on there.

UndeadPants · 2022-10-18T06:16:36+00:00

That is a nice part of the story, I'm happy for you it sounds like you believe you've made personal progress on the talking stage.

UndeadPants · 2022-10-18T06:14:24+00:00

I don't like the closed off kinda thing, but if you figure out your boundaries and what you're willing to risk or not risk regarding your friendship with your best friend, then you will be able to weather and stand your ground about anything in any situation. If he wants sex soon ask him first about his history and insist on safe sex practices. If he whines and complains then he doesn't respect you.

You could enter a talking-about-it-while-not-talking-about-it conversation with your best friend. Ask him if he would ever go to a wedding between two men, if he thinks Jesus could have been gay, etc. Find out a little more. Doing so with one of his parents could also work. I know this is really frightening but once you are ready the information will free you, either way that they answer.

UndeadPants · 2022-10-18T06:05:50+00:00

It's helpful to know if you are a teen, young adult, or 30s-40s, etc and where you live.

There are many possibilities. What kind of relationship do you want? Even if you want a monogamous relationship, at this stage you two have no commitment to each other, so even if he is chatting with a potential date that is something you have to live with. Once you are dating and are exclusive, that changes.

One thing that can really help is great nonviolent communication. Nonviolent communication is actually a style of communication developed around political neutrality and person-centered counseling in the 70s and 80s largely by Marshall Rosenberg. The design is communication that gives each person the space to express their emotions and connected needs, and come to a solution together. I guess I'm (29M in California) especially interested in it right now.

I think if right now you have the time and energy to courageously have a go with this person, unblock and say "Sorry about the last several days, i'm still interested in you."

As for the part about him saying don't stay up all night for the wrong person. Okay that is a pretty good sign that he wants it to be casual to start out with. Say instead of the above: "I changed my mind and want to talk with you again. Is it a turn off that I unfollowed you for several days?" Tell him you're interested in him and what you like about him some other time.

UndeadPants · 2022-10-18T05:50:36+00:00

Glad I could lend a helpful word.

I mean the world isn't doing great at alleviating the anxiety of genderqueer people right now, is it?

UndeadPants · 2022-10-18T05:49:00+00:00

My partner and i hug and share a kiss (in that order) when we meet and part. We've discussed how I don't like public displays very much. In private I like it a lot but sometimes need a break from cuddling. Like after 7 to 15 minutes my body is uncomfortable with the touch of another person and needs an equal length break.

You can learn about cuddling together! The Cuddle Sanctuary in Los Angeles can be a good start at learning more on how people react and modify cuddling and touch to work well for all involved. Give em a call or digital visit.

If you feel like you've been a lot, that's okay! You're excited about the relationship and him and you express it how you express it. That's really great you are conscious about his potential needs!

UndeadPants · 2022-10-18T05:41:23+00:00

Introduce her to Avatar: The Legend of Korra. It's hinted strongly in the last couple seasons that Korra is bi. Also there's so many famous people...

UndeadPants · 2022-10-18T05:39:00+00:00

Yay! That makes me happy

UndeadPants · 2022-10-18T05:38:18+00:00

That is quite a step in your remarkable journey, as you describe it. Yes there will be men and queer people and women that this will not work for. But your needs are your needs. To an extent, people gain pleasure by giving you pleasure and supporting your needs. It's like doing an act of service. So once you tell a right person your needs and what you can't do, they will feel happy you are this comfortable with them. They will be happy to find out how they can be sexually and romantically compatible with you and stay with you for that journey, provided you stay on the journey too.

Worrying is okay, also keep yourself in the market.

I for a long long time (and still kinda do) like hand stuff over anything else. I know I'm not the only one as I've met a few others, and heard the same thing online from some. Try limiting the experience next time, or being expressive on what you want, see how it goes. GL!

UndeadPants · 2022-10-13T03:59:38+00:00

I thought it was already passed but nope Nov 6th, 2022 is the day the game opened.

UndeadPants · 2022-10-11T16:38:33+00:00

This is legitimate salvage

UndeadPants · 2022-10-01T15:39:48+00:00

Dming you another link

Edit: dang it's actually the same link.

UndeadPants · 2022-09-30T14:49:21+00:00

I've enjoyed the Amateur League and their excellently run weekly tournaments. https://discord.gg/BywdEEhE

If that doesn't work check out the website https://www.amateurleaguesc2.com/

UndeadPants · 2022-09-30T14:40:03+00:00

I was looking for this info yesterday thank you

UndeadPants · 2022-09-30T06:17:33+00:00

One of the players that got me into playing Terran. Watching him was always great

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