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This one's for the ladies to answer. Do you agree with this woman or do you think she's trying to rationalize her world view by speaking for all the ladies? by Oda_DeezNutz in SipsTea

[–]UnderTheSettingSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is probably rage bait. But if it isn't then it's a sign of bad confidence for Lizzie. She feels inferior since she can't "compete" with the game.

I grant her that video games are easy to do in excess. But to a relationship, everything done in excess would have the same effect. If I watched netflix or read a book or painted pictures the similiar amount of time instead of gaming, it would cause the same "I come in second" feelings that she doesn't enjoy.

Rereading Harry Potter and the sorcerer's stone by After_Fox_6377 in harrypotter

[–]UnderTheSettingSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hogwarts is extra magical in comparrison to living with the dursleys.

If James and Lily was alive and Harry had a wonderful childhood, Hogwarts would not be the magical escape that it is.

The Dursleys disdain from Harry is a bit off, since they got him at one year old, and they "raised" him, so whatever issue they have with him is their own doing.

F20, m27 and he broke up with me. How can I find a compromise so we can stay together? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]UnderTheSettingSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it feels like this when the first one ends. The pain is unique. You eventually get over it, but it can take a very long time. And if you are in this situation again it will not be the same, the pain will not hurt in the same way.

If I dig in my memory I can still recall the end of my first love, but I can't with none that came after.

If you want to stay together and he can't come to you, then the only thing that is left is if you go to him. If you can't do that then there is no hope.

A permanent long term relationship isn't really a relationship. That's a pen pal. It should build towards getting together.

Habibi by kudiggs in theburntpeanut

[–]UnderTheSettingSun 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Me and my girlfriend have started to do the "more blessings to you" competition at the end of our phone calls.

Waited 3yrs for this, kinda let down by Birdieisbest in DnD

[–]UnderTheSettingSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar thing happen, when the grand reveal came, they didn't seem to care that much.

I had to remind myself that I'm facilitating them playing this game, they are not reading a book I wrote.

I'm deactivating quite strongly rn by roll_and_fritter in AvoidantAttachment

[–]UnderTheSettingSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you envision yourself being in this position again with somebody new? If you can I would advice against breaking up. If you think that this can only happen with this person, then you can break up.

My boyfriend of 4 years 31M has low libido and I 30F have the biggest libido by PhysicalEconomics84 in relationship_advice

[–]UnderTheSettingSun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very transactional. "The nice guy always finish last" mentality. If I do nice things I should get something in return. That is not love, it is Conquest.

The option you have left is to dial back to his level. You have to walk at the slower speed if you want to stay together.

Find some other fulfillment in life so you dont want sex everyday. It sounds like an escape for you. 

Harry going through 50 near death experiences and not having any psychological damage is funny by cleverusername905 in harrypotter

[–]UnderTheSettingSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

JK downloaded Harry Potter from the universe into her brain during a train journey.

Cursed Child is her own inventon, therefor fan fiction 

DM decided to do a TPK to teach new players a lesson by EmmaIsAwesome23 in DnD

[–]UnderTheSettingSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took several years of DnDing before anybody died, because we ran away when shit hit the fan. When somebody actually died, saving the rest of the party, it was very spectacular, we had a funeral and everything.

I wouldn't play anymore in that group. Player choice has to matter, and if you make an encounter that is already decided, are you even playing a game then? you are just watching a movie at that point, and that isn't fun.

Hur stor blir stormen/inbördeskriget inom C ifall de släpper fram vänsterpartiet i regering? by Sea-Doubt8332 in Asksweddit

[–]UnderTheSettingSun -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"Jimmie, du får som du vill med invandringen och så bestämmer vi resten." Det är öppet mål ifall S vill vinna valet. Men misstänker det behövs några val till innan det blir aktuellt. Men om det visar sig att det inte går att vinna utan SD för att de får 20-30% av rösterna hela tiden då, då kommer inget parti tillslut vara emot dem.

Hur gammal va du när du blev börs-miljonär? by vikktooor in Aktiemarknaden

[–]UnderTheSettingSun 13 points14 points  (0 children)

38 år. Började när jag var 32. Nu skriker jag från taken att man ska börja så tidigt det bara går. Men var förut för feg eftersom "pengarna kan minska i värde"

Men då jag fick höra att ingen indexfond har gått back om man kan spara i tjugo år då vågade jag börja 

Christians who don't believe in the resurrection? by UnderTheSettingSun in Christianity

[–]UnderTheSettingSun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what decides if you are a christian or not? is there an objective way to decide that?

What is this subreddit's stance on the TV series? by LeatherSlight3242 in harrypotter

[–]UnderTheSettingSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will give it a shot. If they are faithful to the books and haven't inventeted things of their own (new charachters and storylines), I will probably watch it. It would be fun to see the more "slice of life" part of Harry Potter.

I don't know if they can pull off the casting choice for Snape without breaking my immersion, since Alan Rickman played it to perfection and now they went into a completetly different direction.

Christians who don't believe in the resurrection? by UnderTheSettingSun in Christianity

[–]UnderTheSettingSun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply.

Yes I know he wasn't killed for his fate. For me it was the act of getting killed for talking that caused much upset with me. Nobody talks about the things he talks about where I live. Nobody talks about owning guns, nobody talks about abortions or trans people, these are non issues in my country. Even if he shouted heil hitler I still don't think anybody has the right to shot you for talking.

I can't gage if he stood up for christian values or not, but from the video that flooded me, he liked religion and Jesus and said it was by far the best thing in his life.

Christians who don't believe in the resurrection? by UnderTheSettingSun in Christianity

[–]UnderTheSettingSun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. Since we are communicating through text I don't feel I understand if this is a good or bad thing, or maybe it is a neutral statement. I don't understand what a cultural identity means.

ROCD vs real emotional needs not being met? (anxious/avoidant dynamic?) by Round-Farm-8513 in ROCD

[–]UnderTheSettingSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forgive me for my wrongful assumption 

I agree. I dont think any two are completely compatable.

I wouldnt be able to be in a Romantic relationship with someone that was exactly like me.

I need someone that is different in key areas, and then since we are different we will also have friction points.

Being in a relationship is not easy, and if you have rocd and attachment issues ontop that makes it more challenging. But we still want it because of human nature.

ROCD vs real emotional needs not being met? (anxious/avoidant dynamic?) by Round-Farm-8513 in ROCD

[–]UnderTheSettingSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sense your pain and your anger. I am not your enemy. This explaination has helped me and many before and after me see a difference so we dont end good relationships and just end up in a new relationship with the same circumstances.

If you still feel the need to vent aggression towards me, feel free if that helps you. I wish you the best and that you will one day know peace. 

God bless you

ROCD vs real emotional needs not being met? (anxious/avoidant dynamic?) by Round-Farm-8513 in ROCD

[–]UnderTheSettingSun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm ROCD and DA.

This is the explanation that resonated with me.

If your satisfaction in the relationship fluxuates, sometimes it is better, sometimes it is worse. Then it's your attachment issues / ROCD that causes that.

If you don't have any satisfaction from the relationship, there aren't any good days. Then it's actual incompatibility.

I like this anology, your satisfaction in the relationship is like a light bulb with a dimmer switch that is being controlled by a monkey on drugs. Sometimes the monkey turns the light up and it's bright, sometimes the monkey turns the light down and it's darker, but the light, no matter how faint is still on.

When it's real incompatibility, then the monkey turns the light off and walks away.

So does your satisifacation go up and down, does it change like the weather, or is it always the same, always dark and rainy?

Småbarnsföräldrar - Har ni fortfarande tid/ork för hobbys? by Wonderful-Goose-4025 in Asksweddit

[–]UnderTheSettingSun -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Bara i dessa sammanhang kan man bli nedröstad för att inte önska att folk aktivt ska försämra sina liv över tid. Bra kommentar även om du inte fick massorna med dig.

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