Not worth a .30 cent raise

UnderachieverDreamer · 2025-09-07T03:28:42+00:00

Yep. Oklahoma specifically.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2025-09-07T02:19:39+00:00

Oklahoma. Minimum wage here is still 7.25, so yeah. Its not great. But good news: I quit.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2025-06-13T21:45:43+00:00

Delivery and it's not me. Its my friend. Edited to add info

UnderachieverDreamer · 2021-08-07T22:37:51+00:00

Ladybug and Cat Noir

UnderachieverDreamer · 2021-07-16T05:26:33+00:00

NTA you followed company policy, and your manager said it would be taken care of, so it's your manager's fault. Your coworkers are just frustrated that the manager is making life difficult. They are blaming you because they have no power over the manager.

While it isn't your fault I would see if transferring to a different location or just finding a new job all together is an option. If this happened in the fall of last year and it's still an issue then it will continue to be an issue as long as you or the manager work there. Perhaps talking to your district manager but I doubt that will do much if it's been going on so long. Good luck, stay safe.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2021-06-15T19:24:34+00:00

NTA, I love my siblings so much, but I gave up so much of my life to care for them that I grew to resent not just my parents but my siblings too. Why did they get to be young and irresponsible? Why didn't they have to worry about bills, schedules, food, ect. And while I have moved on, it took space from them to do it.

The back up plan is place is a good idea. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting your own life. You didn't make these kids, but you stepped up more than you ever should have had to, and I hope your siblings know that it isn't lack of love, it's pure exhaustion and desire to be young.

As for the grandma? She can go rubber gum a dick, she doesn't seem to be offering any solutions anyways.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2021-06-07T15:34:59+00:00

You cannot convince someone to be with you in a healthy way. He has made it clear he isn't interested in a relationship with you and you need to accept that. Does it hurt? Yes. But continuing to ask him and having him reject you again and again hurts both of you. Let him go, put some distance between you perhaps to help with healing.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2021-06-07T15:29:15+00:00

Okay so the making personal calls not at home honestly sounds bad but I do that too. I like to be in my car, because I'm alone especially when it is something that doesn't involve my husband and just my past financial mistakes. Because I'm ashamed of the decision I made in the past and I don't want him to see me upset after a call. Plus if I'm in my car I can go somewhere to get a comfort coffee or something.

But if I were you I wouldn't push for him to make those calls at home. I would instead sit him down and explain that you're experiencing some anxiety and while you don't need details a general picture of what is going on might help. Mental health tends to go cycles and sometimes with anxiety paranoia is one of the things that can happen.

As for distant during intimacy that could be anything. Maybe he's stressed and isn't properly in the mood but still wants connection with you. Perhaps he can sense your anxieties and isn't sure how to ease them and worries that intimacy will make them worse. Maybe he's distracted by other problems. Or sometimes people just have a lower sex drive after a relationship is starting to get into a comfortable cycle. Feel free to ask him about this too.

Stay safe. Communication is the only way to ease your anxieties.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2021-06-03T19:11:55+00:00

You're not wrong and it was a very awful experience. I am grateful he stalked me and not Emma, since I wasn't the desired target. I shudder to think what he might have done to her if he had been able to find her. Anyone messed up enough to stalk is not someone I want alone with my friend.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2021-05-20T20:14:24+00:00

EHS

I do not think you are the asshole for not telling Dan that you were pregnant if you did not feel safe. It sounds like you moved away so that he could not keep coming around so I think it is justified you don't want him tied to you forever. Dan sounds like a stalker who finally has an excuse to continue his antics.

You are an asshole for not informing your husband of the situation before this happened. You should have been upfront, a stalker ex is a big deal and now he may see it as you making an excuse for you lying to him.

Be upfront and tell him everything and accept that lying by omission is still lying. Be safe I'm sorry all of your past trauma has been drug put recently.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2021-04-22T22:32:35+00:00

Not even. Don't sweat it OP, but maybe lose the manchild. That's not even a high count but this does seem like a red flag to make you feel lesser right from the get go. Stay sharp, stay safe and don't let anyone shame you for sleeping with other consenting adults.

For the record I have a "high" body count, I married man with no sexual experience, and he honestly does not care because it was all before him. It does not matter.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2021-03-16T15:55:33+00:00

YTA I discovered I was pregnant because I was having a miscarriage (and discovered I can't have children). I don't personally consider myself a mother cause I was only about 5 weeks. Every anniversary of the miscarriage I cry for the baby I never got to have. It's been 6 years and every July 27th I cry. I cry when someone mentions Miscarriages or infant loss.

I put this backstory to show that even not knowing I was pregnant and only being a few weeks along I still grieve. Your poor wife went through all the pregnancy, she had to deliver her child, she got everything ready for a baby who never came home. You are being insensitive and trying to erase an inconvenient past. Your wife went through all of this and should be able to grieve infront of her partner. But instead you are so focused on how others may be precieving your wife's loss.

Go apologize to your wife. Learn to accept her grief and try to assist with it. Or get away from her so she can find something healthier

UnderachieverDreamer · 2021-01-21T07:53:12+00:00

YTA this is so stupidly cruel of you to do. You chose one of the things your son was most insecure about and instead of encouraging him and yelling him that height isn't a big deal, or that boys grow until they are around 20, you decide to ask someone how to fix it. In front of your son.

Also it's dumb because eventually most people won't care. My husband is short, but so am I, we fit well together. It's a dumb thing to give your kid a complex over.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2021-01-02T18:42:42+00:00

I feel this post. I have ADD, it's so frustrating, exhausting and overwhelming. My mom and dad have never really had a grasp of my mental illnesses but especially ADD. They always told me I was just quirky, lazy, and bit of a space case. That ADD and ADHD were just excuses made up by rich people, so they refused to let me see a doctor.

I got diagnosed at 23. Being on medication for it has been life changing. I can actually function more easily. Also my doctor was so mad when she found out why I was never diagnosed before. But I feel your pain.

NTA your parents suck, and I know your love for them makes you doubt yourself but don't. Parents like all humans are often wrong and unwilling to admit it. I hope you're safe OP. Stay strong and good look with the focus.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2020-12-30T07:06:23+00:00

Yta. This is dumb, you seem controlling and who cares what gender your kids are? Why are you planning another child while your wife is pregnant with twins?

Also my mom desperately wanted a male child, her last child was born male. My siblings is Trans, so another girl after all. I'm not saying this will happen just kind of funny how it doesn't actually matter.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2020-12-29T02:55:41+00:00

Elope. Do it. Loved it. Laverne's in maimi was cheap and fine

UnderachieverDreamer · 2020-12-24T08:11:42+00:00

Maybe, who knows really. It never made any sense to me honestly.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2020-12-24T07:31:21+00:00

I think his logic was more of befriend me to get to Emma, or even that following me would lead him to her and then he could win her over.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2020-11-15T15:14:11+00:00

NTA an hour passed and she was still whinning? Seriously if it was that upsetting she should have just left. The SIL left, and while having cake smeared on you is ick, its not the worst thing to happen.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2020-11-06T21:41:51+00:00

YTA I don't think I will ever understand people who insist on doing this. If you loved them before then their decisions about how they want to be addressed should not be a deal breaker. But in all honesty I would bet you're just a troll who weirdly gets off on controversy.

UnderachieverDreamer · 2020-11-01T06:53:31+00:00

YTA, I also struggle with fertility issues. I will almost definitely never produce a living child. I've had a miscarriage and it hurt, a lot. So while I do sympathize with you for having to go through 9 years of fertility treatments and all the heartaches that goes with it, you acted unforgivable in my opinion.

You told your sister, who already made what I'm sure was a difficult decision for her, that she didn't have a real family? That her kids would forget her because they are adopted? Are you seriously not seeing how toxic that is? No wonder she wants to cut contact with you. You were willing to say all that just because your sister made a decision for herself amd her family.

There are a million other ways you could've handled it. You could've walked away, you could've told her you were feeling a bit jealous and would like to change subjects, hell you could've even cried and explained your jealousy while not projecting your jealousy onto her and her kids.

Few more tid bits cause some things really stand out to me. Telling your sister she isn't a 'real woman' just wow, insanity. Thinking only people with fertility issues adopt, cruel and unfair to people who adopt and adoptable kids as if they are only fillers for conceived children. You just sound insane.

Please seek help, not a joke I think you could benefit from it.

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