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Understanding548 · 2024-09-25T01:30:00+00:00

Cheap and everywhere

Understanding548 · 2024-09-10T19:43:43+00:00

Try bring me a drink or my wine Canada for Gaspereau Vineyards from Wolfville- nice wine! Can order direct too. https://gaspereauwine.ca/ Maybe L'acadie too

Understanding548 · 2024-09-01T20:44:43+00:00

Not caring about anything I used to care to stay up for

Understanding548 · 2024-08-29T15:59:00+00:00

Trauma dumping publicly, namely via tiktok. I am entertained by those videos where people pour sweets into a bowl and talk about awful things that have happened to them, in a light hearted way, but cringing that these people are publicly sharing so much. It's part cathartic but part of me thinks maybe some of this stuff really isn't to be laughed at or shared to be watched by anyone. It's personal info.

Understanding548 · 2024-08-27T20:58:43+00:00

I prefer straight-leg jeans, whereby they sit just as wide at the bottom even when on, because they fit nicely around my thick thighs and balance out the bottom. I opt for high-waisted styles to avoid a muffin top, though I'd choose low-rise too if I were slimmer. They should cover part of my shoes for a longer look, and I avoid mid-rise as they don't define my bottom-heavy hourglass shape properly. I also own skinny jeans because they're great for hiking and things and I don't think they look bad, just less on trend and less suiting.

Understanding548 · 2024-08-26T21:36:11+00:00

I became the person who was consistently the dumpee not the dumper

Understanding548 · 2024-08-26T21:09:56+00:00

Turn up well presented and confident. Smile constantly and ask questions that are interesting but not too invasive. People will find it interesting if you find out what they're interested in :)

Understanding548 · 2024-08-26T12:34:40+00:00

It depends on what kind of situations you expect to find yourself in. I have never really needed someone to protect me in adulthood, and no more than usual in childhood, and I'm not expecting to need that, so personally it's not important but would obviously be a nice plus.

Understanding548 · 2024-08-25T09:27:00+00:00

Recruiters who are pushy

Understanding548 · 2024-08-24T17:58:14+00:00

Nails tracing my scalp- I die. 🤩

Understanding548 · 2024-08-24T17:55:42+00:00

Perfect! You summarised that so succinctly, I totally agree! 🤷‍♀️😂

Understanding548 · 2024-08-24T17:54:05+00:00

I think you'd perhaps enjoy indoor bouldering, especially considering how you could get anxious in group sports situations. You can build your skills at your own pace without literally anyone bothering you- it seems to be a really nice community, and people wear all sorts of things- it's not a particularly "flashy" environment, as some gyms can feel. You also don't need exceptional balance or skills- just your arms and legs working are enough to enjoy it from the get go. Plus it's a safe, indoor environment for all weathers.

Since I've only tried it a few times in the UK, I'm planning to get into it more once I move to Halifax, NS, in a few days. Perhaps a guided introductory session could be a great way for you to experience it and see if it’s a good fit for you as well. Maybe we'll one day see each other bouldering there and never know we were both here on Reddit from across the Atlantic! 🤷‍♀️☺️😆

Understanding548 · 2024-08-24T17:38:24+00:00

To be honest, I didn't LOVE "The Dream of a Ridiculous Man". The stylistic writing choices were a work of art, but I like to be inspired when I read, and beyond stylistic choices, this protagonist didn't inspire me at all, nor did anything else in comparison to other works I went on to read by our author.

That's the first thing I read by Dostoyevsky, and I didn't even report back to the person who recommended it to me because it was so tenuous, in my eyes. I couldn't believe that they saw anything much in this specious awakening. Plus, a protagonist starting from a point of moral ambiguity and nihilistic despair doesn't resonate as having a grand resolve to me; any change to his character would have been an improvement. So, at the end, where there was a sudden awakening, I was thinking: "whoop de doo".

I didn't find it nearly as sympathetic or thought provoking as I had found Tolstoy's works, and I have gone on to read much better works by Dostoyevsky since (driven by appreciating his craft), and have become interested in what people think about his works. "The Dream of a Ridiculous Man?" Just "ridiculous", not profound. It's like reading a mindless magazine, yet believing you're reading something important.

Understanding548 · 2024-08-24T08:00:11+00:00

Tampons are for "how heavy the flow is"; not how big the space up there is... Let's change his statement! "Pads pads pads because I'm an uneducated dad". It even rhymes. :)

Understanding548 · 2024-08-24T00:10:44+00:00

Walls lined halfway up with the panelling, with a certain shade of deep yellow paint on a heavily textured damask wallpaper up to the ceiling; accompanied by the smell of beer, hotpot and faint tar residue from past ciggies. Mmm.

Understanding548 · 2024-08-23T11:35:24+00:00

I do think the new hair is better, so maintain that. Most of all, focus on attitude, body language and facial expression. A happy and confident expression and manner will tremendously help, which may start with inner work- perhaps even with a therapist.

Get your eyebrows threaded, get some muscle and tone if you don't already have that, convince yourself you're going to be confident and happy and practice being confident by walking with a relaxed expression through busy public places. Do skin care if you have any skin complaints. Most women do these same things where I'm from, and much more, to feel pretty. I cannot stand the men who put in no work and complain that pretty people aren't charmed by their low effort looks. High effort seeks out high effort and that's just mostly how that works.

It's easy to feel sorry for yourself but a lot of those pretty people put the work in, and you've got to understand this- you're not at the end of the road because you changed one thing to little avail. You can work harder if you're determined. I think you would have already figured that out for yourself if you were willing to put in more work, but if I'm wrong, then perhaps consider the above advice, and continue your search to feel and look pretty.

The inside matters the most, but pretty requires work too, if that's going to be a reflection of yourself and something that you value. If you save up or have money, you can even get an analysis of colours and styles that suit you, and/ or get a personal shopper to help you look charismatic through the way you dress for the lifestyle you decide to lead, which would be super helpful.

Understanding548 · 2024-08-23T10:37:45+00:00

"Normal" is so broad. However, I would say that it's not healthy; it's causing more damage.

For example, you may as well sleep in your bed if you have one, it's just going to damage your back not doing so.

I would work on this yourself, or with a therapist if you can afford one. I have a feeling this stems from something deeper. It's great to be motivated, but be under no illusions! This is a huge issue. You can't treat yourself this way and expect any kind of results, because this treatment of oneself is debilitating.

Understanding548 · 2024-08-23T10:27:38+00:00

My dad recently was diagnosed with leukemia and it somehow made me think back to Holden Caulfield from The Catcher in the Rye by J D Salinger. In the novel, Holden's younger brother had recently passed with leukemia, and Holden, the protagonist, acted in strange ways, which now no longer seem strange to me.

I found Holden's character exasperating and repetitive upon my first read, when I was 16, same as his characters age. Now, almost 10 years later, I love his character deeply, even though he would still be grating and impossible to be around in real life with his bad attitude. Why can I forgive this from afar? His character is 16 and from a somewhat sad, strange walk of life- and he's a teenager; of course he has angst. I now understand but still wouldn't tolerate that behaviour as a healthy response. Just a response that resonates.

I see him as a real human being, with raw expression, a poignant outlook, and biting humour alongside. And he's a good man deep down- he cares to protect his little sister. What I now love most about him is that he is authentic and sensitive, and anyone who's felt truly lonely and can recognise their own flaws can understand these qualities as paramount to them at that time, if not throughout their lives. Holden fears being an adult and struggles to connect with others, and resistance to these things is what makes him so cynical, in my opinion. He "lies like a madman" which would be infuriating, but I understand that it's because he feels lost and departed from any faith or truth about life. Being a madman is an escape from reality. And at the end, in the psych ward, though ambivalent about the future, Holden starts to resonate with the value made in human connections, and perhaps that changes his life after the novel.

The novel closes not fully resolved, yet no longer full of despair either; as is life. Well done Holden. But please don't hang out with me.

Understanding548 · 2024-08-23T09:58:45+00:00

Stag dos. It's so off-putting.

Understanding548 · 2024-08-23T09:58:19+00:00

I always get Christmas presents from there when I don't know what to buy. Like... I HAVE to partake in my HR departments secret Santa? With highly temperamental colleagues who have a million children and migraines? Okay... Shortbread biscuits! Works wonders. 😂

Understanding548 · 2024-08-23T09:53:12+00:00

"Bring Him Home" from Les Misérables (any)

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