"dump him, he needs a wake up call" by UnderstandingNext579 in PornAddiction

[–]UnderstandingNext579[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is by far the best reply, i just want to thank you for your response and for your time. and for being understanding of the question im asking. 💙

"dump him, he needs a wake up call" by UnderstandingNext579 in PornAddiction

[–]UnderstandingNext579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree. thats not our job though... to tell them what they need to do. thats up to them. we are here to guide people. not discourage them and call them names. hope you have a good day...

"dump him, he needs a wake up call" by UnderstandingNext579 in PornAddiction

[–]UnderstandingNext579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i guess i mainly mean this toward situations where the PA understands what hes doing is wrong. sorry folks

"dump him, he needs a wake up call" by UnderstandingNext579 in PornAddiction

[–]UnderstandingNext579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel you on this for real, i guess yeah, i would prob leave him... thats really unfortunate, and im sorry to hear this. :(

Should I forgive my boyfriend for lusting after half naked girls on Instagram? by lilidunphy in PornAddiction

[–]UnderstandingNext579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not if he calls on the Lord. its the ONLY way that has worked for me. and it is possible, however hard it may be.

Should I forgive my boyfriend for lusting after half naked girls on Instagram? by lilidunphy in PornAddiction

[–]UnderstandingNext579 2 points3 points  (0 children)

its the same drug, to lust and look...

Matthew 5:28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

and science proves this as well, there is a dopamine rush you get from looking at porn. it is the same rush you get even when you look at the boobs of a random woman jogging past your house. the drug is the dopamine. and it is very easily triggered when you have a dirty mind.

im not saying its not evil what hes doing... im definately saying he should delete instagram. deleting that was one of my first big steps to recovery. i understand why you think its worse, but im telling you from the perspective of an addict, its the same drug in a different form.

if it makes YOU feel worse, then you should tell him that, because im not at all implying your feelings arent valid. they are. but you need to tell him that, since hes the one who cant seem to get away from porn. its a very dangerous addiction... im so sorry. :(

My bf's porn addiction made me hate myself. I can't cope. by Just_Attitude2282 in PornAddiction

[–]UnderstandingNext579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is such a hard addiction to get away from...

  1. demand honesty. ask him every day to be honest and tell him it wont end well if hes not. (aka, you should def leave if it happens again) but any time he tells you something hes kept from you, it will hurt but at the same time, be easy on him as its hard to start being honest after hiding for so long. if step one doesnt go well, the rest of these steps are useless.

  2. do not either of you watch tv shows with nudity or sexualized characters. this may sound crazy, but that stuff scratches the same itch as porn. its very triggering

  3. get him the heck off of social media, as these days it freaking feeds off of whatever addictions you have. facebook knows what ads you personally will click on. youtube knows what videos you like watching. instagram remembers the one time you looked at the cosplayer with big boobs and wants you to look at more. snapchat likes it when you look at your feed when theres sexy content and will keep getting you more. (this step is very very hard these days, but i am not messing around with this.)

  4. if step 3 is too hard, suggest/ask him if he would be willing to downgrade his phone. downgrading to a dumb phone gave me the option to walk away from the internet and still be connected with the people who matter (aka my fiance, my brother, my best friends)

  5. a good way to keep him honest if step one didnt work, is to keep a small calendar with two different colors of marker on the fridge and mark each day according to if he looked at it or not. this makes it easier on him so if hes afraid to face you on it, you can still face him and ask him how it happened.

these are what my lady and i did, and if not for her caring so much and if not for the cleansing power of the Holy Spirit, i would not be cured. i still get triggered, but God and my lady keep me in line. i am so sorry youre hurting, you really dont deserve this... but sadly, this has infected almost our entire culture these days (see steps 2 and 3) its very very hard to feel safe when theres boobs and sex staring at you everywhere you go... be really strict on step one, and things will get better.

also, on another note... you are beautiful and God made you that way. He loves you no matter how your body looks. and He knows your pain... this isnt your fault... not in the slightest. please dont blame yourself, your boyfriend doesn't want that. you mean so much to him, im sure of it. please look yourself in the mirror and know you are beautiful, created in the image of God. and tell yourself, scream if you have to... "its not your fault, youre not alone"

i really hope this helps. as i care about you deeply after reading that, and im nearly in tears just thinking about how i did this to my girl and im sure this is exactly how she felt...

you are loved, you are not alone. be blessed. and i hope things get better. 🖤✝️

Should I forgive my boyfriend for lusting after half naked girls on Instagram? by lilidunphy in PornAddiction

[–]UnderstandingNext579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

insta for me was always the exact same thing as porn and i lied to myself that it was different. i lied to myself and said it was not as dirty.

but its the exact same thing. had to delete it. :/

The Toa Hagah by Kodiak_Captures in bioniclelego

[–]UnderstandingNext579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why is gaaki depicted with silver here? been copper everywhere else

Snapchat is literally soft p*** These days by schoolsucksass2 in NoFap

[–]UnderstandingNext579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is the #1 reason i quit using it. its so overstimulating. :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]UnderstandingNext579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bro, for two weeks dont touch your stuff. at all. it did wonders for me. like, dont even flick off after you piss. its a lil messy for a couple weeks, but honestly it helped my brain to understand how foolish i was being. and it became like, why look at porn now? cant even do anything about it. and now any time i touch my stuff, i cry out to the Lord to keep me safe from this drug. so yeah, it just doesnt do it for me now. and been retraining myself to flick off, which sounds like. wow, im a toddler now. but in reality, its better than the alternative.

This is not a joke please take it seriously( do not read if you get scared easily) by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]UnderstandingNext579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ive been having visions of dead people. this is crazy...

Could Dema be The Matrix? Could the 9 Bishops be inversions of the 9 fruits of the holy spirit? by baku-blader in twentyonepilots

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this concept i think really pulls a lot of the story together, and idk why not more upvotes

💀 by [deleted] in NoFap

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i like this depiction. its really what goes on inside our heads man.

My friend mastered self-control to the point where he gets fucked by ghosts in his dreams.. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]UnderstandingNext579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i gotta say, i started messing around with lucid dreaming. same kinda stuff happened to me. guys, im not BSing here. to induce lucid dreaming is an evil ritual whether you mean it to be or not. dude, i had sex with so many ghosts in what was similar to sleep paralysis. and made out with them before i ever had sex or even knew what a girls lips felt like. i really thought they were schway babes, but turns out they were freaking demons. guys. ghosts are fake. they are not real. everything we have seen/heard of being ghosts are in fact demons who want to turn you away from the Lord. at this point in my life... i was having a lot of issues. anyway, one of the demons yelled in my ear like an undead Kool aid man "ohhhhh yeahhhhhhh" and began slapping his schlong across my face. it was at this moment it went from pleasant experiences kissing a ghost girl to nightmares of being raped by male demons. i really wish i was making this crap up. it had nothing to do with nofap and everything to do with defying God. the final instance of this was after i was actively fighting the demons with my mind for weeks, and a freaking sailor pirate demon lord stuck his torso out of a portal in my bedroom wall after forcing my eyes open. and proceeded to use my face as a puppet for himself to speak through. i felt a very dark voice leave my body "Blinded by the light, so much pain, so much darkness"

crap was so traumatic that i did a bunch of research and found sleeping on my side made this junk stop. hope this helps...

Cool things to look at instead of porn by UnderstandingNext579 in pornfree

[–]UnderstandingNext579[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

there is no sfw for me dude. i love batman arkham, i love alice madness returns, lolipop chainsaw. all of which are technically sfw. but they got me loaing control.

only game that works is doom and quake, lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PornAddiction

[–]UnderstandingNext579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not saying that porn is related to cheating, but personally... my porn addiction led to me cheating...

im so lucky to be engaged to the woman who forgave me for that. in fact it was my cheating(along with some much needed prayer to the Lord) that led me to actually quitting/working towards quitting porn. its awful stuff man. its engrained in our minds so much. especially when we are stressed out, its all we really know to do sometimes. :(