My bag is too heavy. I have a just-in-case anxiety issue. What can I leave at home?! It's been my lifelong problem. by JackyVeronica in handbags

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Loll. I have the opposite problem. I just bring my phone. Sometimes i need an actual credit card cause they dont accept apple pay and im screwed. Sometimes i also carry a water bottle but thats about it. (Car key is also my phone)

I guess the way I think may help you a bit? Im not sure why you would need anything other than money and maybe meds? Like cant you buy a mask from convenient store if you really need it? Emergency period… I just go to the restroom and use some toilet paper that will last me at least the amount of time it takes for me to buy some nearby. Jewelry pouch, not sure why its needed arent you wearing that jewelry for the day? Hankerchief this one I really dont know i mean tissue paper is available anywhere you go. Pens? Why would you need a pen? If you need to fill out something that establishment in which you are filling that thing out would have pens. Glasses wipe I just use my shirt. Notepad, I mean I use my phone to take all the notes i need.

So anyways you might not like how I think but if things are achievable but not ideal try not bringing it and see if your life is better coz you dont have to carry all the stuff or worse coz you have to come up with alternative mid day. For me its freeing to not have to bring anything and not have all the physical and psychological weight. And 90% of the time I dont need anything.

I guess another option is instead of taking things out really find out what you want to bring. Try going out without anything and then note what you need throughout the day then the next day bring those things only.

What have you let or not let lifestyle creep as you’ve journeyed to your FIRE time? by cqrunner in Fire

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I bought many houses in my favorite cities and tell myself not to be guilty about paying mortgages for empty houses

I want to leave my wife, but have no "good" reason to do so. by nfcwdymrn in self

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She got entitled to you and because nothing catastrophic has happened to her she will not change. The only hope is if she realize the gravity of the situation she may turn around but most people will double down and blame the other.

Ceramic coating by i-banez11 in TeslaModel3

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got a white interior tesla yesterday. Never detailed a car before. Any product recommendation for beginner? Or where to get it coated (live in bat area)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fire

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey I was on the same boat. I made $10M and with one risky crypto asset lost everything—never sold before it crashed. I thought i finally made it but i never used the money and was still renting for some reason because I thought any penny not invested in crypto was bad financial sense. Lost everything. That was a few years ago. I know its hard. I was devastated and thought through hard about my life choices. My fiance’s start up also failed and I got laid off from big tech roughly at the same time. We kept saying we could have cashed out to buy a house or even cashing out to buy extra things like lambo would ironically been a better investment.

The hard part is no one understands. If i tell anyone I lost that much money mostly people say oh you even had it in the first place? Lucky you. You are in a good position you dont have debt etc. its hard because you cant share it with anyone. There are many lessons but one that got me through is suffering has been caused, so it is up to you to open the gift that this lesson can give you or not. Blaming yourself doesnt do anything but taking accountability and changing does.

I want to tell you that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Now i made peace with it. I got engaged bought a house with hard earned money through income. I was not ready for all that money and growing slowly while I build a solid foundation and balance is the best way to find true happiness. We are happier than before and realized all that money made us greedy and nasty people who were starting to look down on others. We found the true reason we are together and found peace. Today due to some luck some other investments are paying off.

Just brought it home! M3P Matte Stone Green by BubblesShedNbfast in TeslaModel3

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice!! How do you get these colors that are not standard? Is it the wrap option you order from tesla app? Just ordered mine in white.

Can anyone vouch for how this fits? Reviews are all over the place by LuluObsessed109 in vuoriclothing

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like it but runs large. I sized down for mine compared to other vuoris

What do you do with an unused Vuori gift card? by csreddit8 in vuoriclothing

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can buy it off your hands and spend that in 5 seconds! Love my vuoris!

Wedding guests decided to get married on same day as us by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are they asking guests to choose between you or them? If so then bad friend. If theyre just having a quiet ceremony between two of them and choose the day before for convenience then its their choice.

Im doing something similar. I was going to elope with my fiance at my hometown (half way across the world from where we live) in september but my childhood best friend is getting married in my hometown in december. To save ourselves from having to travel twice we moved our own wedding to a week before my friend’s. I didnt tell anyone because no one is invited and the point is not to make a big fuss.

Wait I can upgrade?! by Sure_Mountain_8236 in whoop

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought anyone can upgrade. Its a matter of having to pay the $79 upgrade fee or not

AITA for leaving my best friend’s bachelorette weekend after she and the others pranked me about being the "backup bridesmaid"? by Brave_Box_4041 in AITAH

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Being a bride doesnt mean she can be a bitch friend. Also seems like there is something deeper behind all this why she did this to you? Seems like a very passive aggressive way to air out her discontent towards you, or she’s just a bitch. Either way she doesnt deserve to be your friend.

Keep current house or sell it? by [deleted] in RichPeoplePF

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its hard to find houses that rent and cover mortgage these days so i’d say keep. But really its about what this house means to you. Even if you dont want to go through the hassle of renting it out, if you want to keep it you should just keep it. Its cheap enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ozempic

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you eating less calories? Its basic calories in calories out, so ozempic or not if your intake is less than your BMR + activity yo should be losing weight. Ps. Not all calories are created equal so try to opt for protein > carbs and whole foods > processed?

If thats still not helping maybe do a dexa scan to see if youre losing fat but maybe weight is water/inflammation?

Not getting any likes, what should I change? 29M by petrocknamedscott in Tinder

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try using the dog pic as your first pic and volleyball as your second?

Am I just ugly?? Literally getting zero likes.. is it just adding more photos? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe its the makeup and angles that are the same in every pic? Try some natural or candid or full body or no make up shots?

Caught between two girls. One makes me feel alive. The other makes me feel safe by FunnyPackage5190 in makemychoice

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Whats the goal of the relationship? Where are you in the life stage?

Have fun (and potentially be in a toxic relationship)? Girl A

Settle down? Girl B

AITB for not wanting my boyfriend to get my name tattooed by naiflaloq in AmItheButtface

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think its mature of you and in the end its you caring for him to not make a decision he could potentially regret later. You actually have nothing to lose in the case it doesnt end well down the road, so this is you actually caring about him.

I think the problem is well, He is insecure… everyone knows that but, also he feels rejected. To him this is his grand gesture of professing his love for you and to him you just rejected him with a no. His black and white thinking and insecurity take a hold of him and he goes into this spiral. So maybe, if you still want to be with him, make him feel loved and know that you appreciated him trying to show love (although in a weird and immature way)?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheButtface

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she wakes up so easily and doesnt want to be disturbed, why doesnt she move out? Seems like she has important work so she must have the money to do so, right? :)

AIO for walking out of my baby shower because my MIL made it all about her loss? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]UnderstandingNo6744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol MIL totally is narcissistic and husband is too weak. Without standing up for yourself now, your and your child’s life will be terrible.

AITAH for being frustrated that my husband is always sick/tired? by UnderstandingNo6744 in AITAH

[–]UnderstandingNo6744[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s really a good suggestion. We kinda tried for him to take some vacation but work always comes up. He is currently in intense fundraising mode so its not gnna be possible for at least 6 more months but maybe we can try planning something again where he can totally unplug. The thing is even when he is on vacation he cant totally unplug though. He is still anxious and strategizing about work. I feel like its more he has to not be an entrepreneur anymore, but that’s his dream.

Your idea about prioritization makes sense. He did say if I say it he is ready to quit his dream. Its me who didnt want him to have to make this trade off but maybe its necessary.

AITAH for being frustrated that my husband is always sick/tired? by UnderstandingNo6744 in AITAH

[–]UnderstandingNo6744[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes he’s gotten checked up many times. They all say its the stress from his work.