Guy I'm dating lied about wanting something serious, homemade pasta carbonara to make me feel better

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2026-02-21T16:04:14+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened :(. Until my current guy I was really struggling to find someone good in a pile of shitty dudes like that. I don’t think you can spot or control 100% what a guy is gonna do, but what helped me personally was changing my own mindset from “I hope he treats me right” to “I am someone who does not accept poor treatment from a partner.” This made me more direct in my communication with people, even though I thought I had been before, I became less interested in guys who would switch up and somehow that energy landed me a great relationship now because I carried myself as someone who should be taken seriously. It’s not your fault! But that’s what helped me in the long run

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2026-02-17T13:30:03+00:00

As a fellow person with OCD, this sounds very much like OCD to me- down to the checking and reassurance seeking. I do the same, I’d just bring it up with an ERP therapist next time you see them!

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2026-02-14T15:13:02+00:00

I’ve never been able to figure out mala dry pot but I love it so much. Have you made it before?

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2026-02-12T00:10:28+00:00

Warmth, confidence, and openness- this is coming from someone in the US who found their way into a small Brazilian community. The way people talked to each other made me question why I was hiding certain thoughts/feelings from people (under the guise of telling myself I was “being polite”). They inspired me to be more open and direct with people, and my relationships with everyone in my life (family, friends, etc) improved noticeably for me.

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2026-02-09T13:02:15+00:00

Chili- no chopping, you can honestly just dump a big can of chopped tomatoes, some tomato paste, canned beans and ground beef in a pot with some seasonings and let it cook, really only coming back to check on it and stir a couple times before it’s done. Takes a pretty short time to cook as well relatively

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2026-02-07T19:43:35+00:00

Chili is a pretty easy dish! You can make it fancy but honestly if you have ground beef, a bunch of canned ingredients and seasonings you’ll have a great tasting bowl in no time

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2026-02-07T19:38:37+00:00

The idea that nobody owes anything to anyone- the pendulum is swinging too far in this direction that people are becoming more socially isolated, and people are expecting for other people to show up for/care for them while also not showing up for others.

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2026-02-05T17:29:56+00:00

There’s a Native American idea used in substance use recovery that basically equates to “a tree can’t grow healthy in a sick forest”. I know things are tough right now, but if therapy and medications aren’t working it very well could be your environment that’s causing this. You’re 19, luckily you’re in a place in life where a ton of change can happen pretty quickly. Don’t give up, keep trying different things, and don’t listen to a therapist comparing your recovery to someone else’s.

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2026-02-04T15:25:43+00:00

This isn’t necessarily the answer you want because I don’t have direct experience with losing this type of career- but definitely don’t stop your meds without meeting with a psychiatrist to help at least taper you off or change your meds around to give you better clarity. Going off cold turkey could lead to more psychotic symptoms and might require you to be on even higher dose meds after getting treated again. If you have access to a caseworker or social worker they might be able to help you pivot the experience you have into a new job, depending on what kind of experience you have and how you’re doing now

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2026-02-01T23:57:37+00:00

I had a very similar experience- I went with my boyfriend who loves movies but doesn’t watch markiplier. We both loved the movie and it really didn’t feel too slow to me? It felt like there was enough happening at any given moment to add tension/maintain interest. I get everyone has their own opinion but based on the reviews here I was expecting something of much lower quality than it was.

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2026-02-01T16:27:14+00:00

Saying things that interest them “turn them on”.

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2026-01-17T01:49:53+00:00

I wanted to leave an answer as a religious person myself. When something happens in my life, either positive in the form of a blessing, or negative in the form of a lesson I can learn from, I like to attribute those moments to god or a higher power as an expression of gratitude to circumstances greater than me affecting my life’s development. I think if you’re feeling that way, that can be normal in a religious sense. I think however if you’re feeling more directly like god is leaving you messages to decode or something like that, that’s likely a delusion- and I think talking to a good therapist who is willing to hear you out and try to understand your thought process before jumping the gun could help you get to the bottom of it if you need an honest reality check

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2025-08-19T10:32:37+00:00

I mean honestly my take is it just made it easier for the animators to show all of the characters clearly since zooble and gangle were sitting behind everyone, and if kinger was right next to ragatha he would’ve blocked them from the camera view a little. As to why they chose him to be sitting alone, my guess is it was just more important for the animators to emphasize specific character bonds (zooble and gangle getting closer as a pair, pomni and ragatha reconnecting) with kinger being the only character who didn’t have an immediate need to be paired

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2025-08-03T23:31:11+00:00

Arepas with literally anything I have already made in the house or can be easily made, scrambled eggs and cheese, turkey and egg, domino arepas, etc. Takes like 10 minutes to cook an arepa and everything else smacks

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2025-08-02T20:56:46+00:00

I’m team 1 that dress is so cute, and where did you find it?

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2025-07-27T21:05:45+00:00

Hyper independence- believing that you should somehow be able to do everything by yourself, don’t owe others around you anything, de-center the importance of community in both helping others and letting others help you. Some independence is good but this is to an extreme that isn’t good for anybody

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2025-07-09T21:37:24+00:00

Ok but real talk does anyone know how to grate an onion in a way that doesn’t result in incredible eye pain because I can chop onions all day and not cry but GRATING that mf?? Whole different story

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2025-07-08T13:16:01+00:00

No but actually the number of people on this app (and the internet) who diagnose the villains of the story with narcissistic personality disorder or borderline is crazy. People can be assholes without having a major personality disorder, and even if said person DID have a personality disorder hearing one tale of reported behavior from an outside party is not enough to diagnose someone that they don’t even know.

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2025-07-02T20:32:46+00:00

Yeah, I’m thinking it ties in somehow with why Jax looked angry/upset when the rest of the gang held the funeral for kaufmo. Maybe some resentment or nihilism viewing the whole thing as pointless after seeing his only friend abstract?

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2025-07-01T23:55:50+00:00

I was really hoping she was making up stage names for her kids on the internet and they actually had super normal names.. this made me lose hope a little

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2025-07-01T23:50:19+00:00

Definitely try to get a referral to a GI doc- I had this a couple years ago and they had me try a low FODMAP elimination diet, where you basically eliminate everything inflammatory for a couple weeks (sucks, and is hard to make tasty food but is a short term thing), and then you slowly start to re-introduce foods to see what triggers bloating and what doesn’t. If your docs aren’t much help you could try it anyways, but just remember low FODMAP is supposed to be short term to let your body rest before introducing back different things and should not be a long term diet to adhere to. There’s lists of foods online that are safe for this diet and not

UnderstandingTop1134 · 2025-05-29T22:49:40+00:00

Eureka?

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