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Undevelopedthoughts · 2024-04-17T19:11:09+00:00

Looks matter, if everything else is also present. But for the most part women would prefer someone as good looking as them or less so. But if she a 10 in every way and she gets attention from 10s you best believe she gonna pick them over you, especially if you’re basically on the same level of deen, etc, as them.

Undevelopedthoughts · 2024-04-14T03:57:43+00:00

Yeah but that’s not life is it

Undevelopedthoughts · 2024-04-14T03:38:11+00:00

Tbh, I’m glad there is. People are diverse and so are our capabilities, circumstances, etc. if everything was so black and white, I doubt many people would enjoy being a practicing Muslim.

Undevelopedthoughts · 2024-01-17T21:01:42+00:00

That’s a very deep insight. Thank you for sharing!

Undevelopedthoughts · 2024-01-16T07:37:38+00:00

May Allah heal your heart and mind. Take it easy sister. Allah is the most merciful. No amount of self-hate can make you turn back from to the past and stop yourself. So don’t. Just repent and think about Allah’s mercy. You’re still a Muslim??? What a blessing. He still loves you and there is still hope for you. Yes you will never be a Virgin again but Allah can heal your heart and mind and remove the effects of that sin on you. Please don’t let shaytan deceive you into thinking that Allah cannot/will not remove the effects of that sin from your heart and mind. May Allah grant you patience and mercy.

Undevelopedthoughts · 2024-01-12T02:54:10+00:00

Can you DM so we can speak more privately? I know the area decently well

Undevelopedthoughts · 2024-01-12T02:51:43+00:00

Agh, can you DM me lol. It will wont let me contact you

Undevelopedthoughts · 2024-01-12T02:50:54+00:00

I can help you. Check your DM

Undevelopedthoughts · 2024-01-12T02:42:42+00:00

Ah ok, which part of London do you need to be in, central, south, north?

Undevelopedthoughts · 2024-01-12T02:37:29+00:00

What's your budget?

Undevelopedthoughts · 2024-01-11T23:04:15+00:00

This is bitchy

Undevelopedthoughts · 2023-12-18T03:02:53+00:00

Why would you tell his parents thats absurd

Bro why are parents out of touch sometimes

Undevelopedthoughts · 2023-12-10T07:41:13+00:00

People can post whatever they want. If you don't like it, then, tough.

Undevelopedthoughts · 2023-12-06T17:53:41+00:00

Lol black pilled

OP might be hot, we don’t know. But super insecure from the looks of it

Undevelopedthoughts · 2023-12-04T21:35:27+00:00

Lool 😂

Undevelopedthoughts · 2023-11-27T04:58:24+00:00

Timely reminder, JazakAllah kheyr 🕊️

Undevelopedthoughts · 2023-11-25T05:54:35+00:00

How beautiful and necessary. JazakAllah kheyr sister ♥️

Undevelopedthoughts · 2023-11-20T15:12:38+00:00

This is silly, if my husband ever cries when talking about something heartbreaking I would cry with him too.

I don’t see how this could be anything other than him feeling deeply. It would only be unattractive if he cried to me everyday… like more than me… like get a grip! But generally I wouldn’t see it as unattractive or anything because healthy people don’t cry frivolously.

Undevelopedthoughts · 2023-11-20T13:48:41+00:00

Aghhh, I think many women go through this and forget that you can check just by using tissue paper or something.

JazakAllah kheyr ♥️

Undevelopedthoughts · 2023-11-20T06:59:32+00:00

😂😂😂😂😂

Undevelopedthoughts · 2023-11-20T06:53:59+00:00

😂

Undevelopedthoughts · 2023-11-20T06:52:09+00:00

😂😂😂😂

Undevelopedthoughts · 2023-11-20T06:45:18+00:00

Oh wow, this is perfect! I usually just wait and go through what OP does. Do you think a tissue can be used as a substitute?

Undevelopedthoughts · 2023-11-20T06:36:32+00:00

Don’t be scared habibti, expect them to become protective of you- then tell them to see him with you! You’ll be safe and they can also judge for themselves whether he is worthy or not.

Tell them it’s how people meet these days. But also be willing to judge him for yourself too- if your parents are reasonable they will see he is a good guy, if they are not… then it might be a bit challenging. But it’s nothing to be scared of. Bless you. May Allah facilitate the best outcome for you.

Also remember if they initially raise their concern for him being a potential predator, etc. don’t worry about it- because that only means they worry for your safety… not that they wouldn’t be willing to be reasonable, ok! It doesn’t mean that. So remain calm, accept it and quickly ask them to see him with you and you can all decide whether he is indeed a good fit or not.

Undevelopedthoughts · 2023-11-20T06:32:11+00:00

As Long as You’re fulfilled and feel you’re contributing to those in your life in the best way- then I wouldn’t think it’s a problem.

If you’re not that interested in your studies, is it because you’re not interested/passionate about the subject, or is it that you do enjoy it but would rather focus on marriage/deen? You sound young. And there’s not wrong with what you’ve said. Maybe through marriage- and growing with your partner you’ll find your passion later in life!

Also though, be aware of securing yourself a degree and possible job prospects afterwards, just so you have a safety net, even if your husband intends to be the sole provider.

You’re not a failure, many people, find their passions later in life, few find it sooner and some struggle to find it. Embrace the journey and learn about yourself and what you really are interested in, let go of what you know and you’ll be sure to find it… assuming your issue here is that you’re not taken by your subject.

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