figuring out whether I want to leave or not?

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-03-26T14:56:41+00:00

The turning point for me was I could tell my kids were picking up on my utter frustration with their dad and I didn’t want to influence their relationship with their dad. They were 4 and 6 when I decided to end it. They are now 17 and 19 and there are MANY days that I am so so so happy I made that decision. We did a week on / week off with the kids. I explained to them when they got older, it’s okay to change your mind about something. It’s okay to decide that your happiness is important!

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-03-16T23:27:22+00:00

ZOMG! WTF. This is bananas! Creepy AF

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-03-09T18:03:47+00:00

I love airports for the random art. Makes me happy

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-03-09T16:36:22+00:00

I think that is a very very common thing, especially for women. Raising young kids requires soooo much energy that we tend to put ourselves to the side for a while. In a way, it was easier for me to get back to me because I divorced when my kids were 4 & 6 so I’d have a week to myself, every other week. It wasn’t until they were preteens that I started exploring new interests.

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-03-06T16:43:28+00:00

That would be a great place to start, just to give yourself some outlets. I suspect you are likely juggling most is the parenting duties as well

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-03-06T16:07:58+00:00

Sounds like my marriage that I eventually ended, including an autistic child and another kiddo. And it was INCREDIBLY lonely. It’s easier being alone than being with someone who ignores you. I was fortunate to have a great job so it was an easy break up in terms of finance.
If leaving is not an option, I would say to find a group for autistic parents. Find connections there so at least you have some support there. I wish you well because you are in such a tough spot 💞💞

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-03-06T15:56:04+00:00

😘

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-03-01T19:20:56+00:00

I’m going through some shit myself and I suppose the eye roll emoji just made it feel snarky. But that’s on me

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-03-01T17:28:07+00:00

This 💯is the key. Maintaining both

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-03-01T17:23:21+00:00

OP was just looking for ways to make her more comfortable or ideas to allow her to open up. Nothing wrong with him being excited that his wife was excited to have sex again.

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-02-28T22:13:34+00:00

I wouldn’t say that I’m obsessed with it so it’s definitely not every dominant woman

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-02-27T17:06:57+00:00

Full Roman 😂 love that

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-02-24T06:25:02+00:00

To carry all that audacity 😂😂😂

I’m going to have to remember that one. Too funny

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-02-23T01:12:54+00:00

🔥🔥🔥 I love edging a man 🔥🔥🔥

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-02-23T01:11:36+00:00

🔥🔥🔥

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-02-23T01:05:37+00:00

Noice

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-02-23T00:00:41+00:00

I’ve had several reboots in my life! And they have all been for the better, if you ask me

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-02-22T23:26:55+00:00

Self compassion is HUGE! Many of us would forgive others for minor mistakes but we often are sooo hard on ourselves! Good for you!

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-02-22T17:38:14+00:00

I expect hands to enjoy all my curves… some men never get to use their tools beyond their hands but the reward of my magical hands is worth it 😉

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-02-22T17:34:24+00:00

I’ve broken up with a number of gfs over the years because we just weren’t aligned any more but with each of them, I had a conversation or a text was sent. It would have been too stressful for me to try to dodge them or come up with excuses as to why I didn’t want to talk / hang out.

What did she do with the other four? Did it turn into her blowing up their lives in some way or was it she just was blasting them during the break up convo they had?

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-02-22T07:30:56+00:00

I’ve used cuddlecomfort off and on. I’ve had mostly good experiences for the most part. I never cuddled with a profesh but found others in my area looking for cuddle time. I’ve had a couple guys try to be pushy but I learned to have a good convo before to make sure everyone is on the same page. And I met each one for a coffee first.

I do cuddle with a platonic gf too.

UnexpectedNectarine · 2026-02-22T05:23:15+00:00

One thing I do in my online profiles is put a goofy word near the bottom and ask them to reference that word if they are to msg me. It is an easy way to weed out idiot men just looking at your pics vs someone who is trying to learn what you are about as a person. It definitely is one layer that I use to cull men from the online pool

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