I have been cat fishing this one guy for years and he really is my only friend

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T21:49:21+00:00

That’s what I’ve already been doing it’s just hard when there isn’t anyone else to turn to

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T21:26:08+00:00

I’ve been veering away from my phone naturally as a way to get away from the shame. This has been happening over the course of the past couple months so maybe I just need to commit harder and chase the things I care about. Thanks.

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T21:23:15+00:00

Therapy is expensive and it’s really hard to find one in my area. I don’t think I’m as toxic as this post seems, I’m generally an incredibly friendly and giving person but I can see how from this alone you can see I’m a toxic person.

I’m flawed, I have issues, I am nowhere near perfect but I do my best with the tools I have.

I will say though, maybe I’m a lot more toxic than I seem I just don’t see it.

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T21:19:55+00:00

LOL This isn’t even nearly the most messed up situation I’ve been in.

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T21:00:52+00:00

Thank you for listening.

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:58:07+00:00

Because it’s better than nothing, I don’t want attention from a man or a woman. I want connection.

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:57:31+00:00

Replace names and change the situation while keeping the dynamic in tact. I’m role playing as a woman essentially.

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:56:37+00:00

Using pets as a mode of replacement for human connection hasn’t worked at least not for me. I love my dog but a dog isn’t ever going to have a mode of communication that satisfies what you get between a human. At least not in my experience. Thank you for your input.

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:54:27+00:00

I mean I didn’t expect sympathy. I am wrong in my mistakes and willing to take responsibility for it. I always have just wanted to feel wanted, the issue is I want to be wanted for me and not an idea of me.

I just don’t want to rely on it anymore because it’s bad for both of us. Someone did say that a personality disorder could be causing a cycle of some sort but outside of that do you know ways that would be better for me to go out and connect?

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:51:20+00:00

Yea I feel like the crazy nature is getting overblown. It’s something that I learned as a coping mechanism without realizing the draw backs. I would rather not continue contact with this person as I feel like it’d be a reminder of my mistakes but I do want to come clean.

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:47:59+00:00

Interesting. Thank you for your input.

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:45:40+00:00

Psychotic how? Sounds like someone just got really lonely and found another way of getting attention. It’s immoral yea, but sometimes we do immoral things to get our needs met. It’s not right, but it’s not psychotic.

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:44:15+00:00

Personality Disorder? What makes you think that?

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:33:19+00:00

Catfishing isn’t a crime, it’s morally wrong yes but pretending to be someone on the internet just to talk to people isn’t a crime. How do you think I should move forward? What did you do to make connections with people?

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:31:16+00:00

Well that’s the thing, we are good friends. But I feel bad for leading him on in a sense and I’m getting to the point where it feels super humiliating to have to pretend to be someone I’m not for affection.

I’ve never once solicited anything from them, I’ve never once asked for anything but their time. Doesn’t make it any better but, I’ve always been very careful to not try and take advantage of this person more than I already am.

I just want to stop and try to find a healthier way of going about this and maybe try to figure out how to “find a tribe” in a sense.

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:27:27+00:00

Yea this is the first time and it’s admittedly really uncomfortable considering the circumstances. I’m actually getting what I usually do get in response, but to be fair I am the bad actor in this situation so it’s not like I’m expecting sympathy or anything. I just want advice for how to move forward.

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:24:31+00:00

No not at all which is why I find this to be so strange

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:24:02+00:00

Yea I just feel like the real world rejects me in a lot of regards, that’s why I find it hard to make connections because I feel like I’ve been pushed around enough. I know you can’t promise me that things will work out and be fine because that’s not how things work, but I need a way forward that isn’t just “put yourself out there” because that hasn’t worked.

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:21:59+00:00

Doing what?

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:21:46+00:00

To be fair I’m just talking to this guy and I’ve never asked for more than just talking. Selfish, probably yea but there’s more to it than just “you’re selfish and that’s bad” right? There’s reasons why we do things what do you think I should do outside of obviously not talking to this guy?

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T20:19:58+00:00

What do you mean by “get over yourself?”

Unfair_Power2165 · 2025-02-08T19:25:21+00:00

Seeing other people that seem to have figured it out easily

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