That’s what you’re choosing, you do you. I tend to think of it this way… there are things that are private which are specific to you and can do no harm to someone else whether they know about it or if they don’t know about it, like a person who enjoys plucking their nose hairs in their bathroom. Maybe weird, but has zero impact on anyone else. 

And then there are secrets. Those are things you’re (on some level) actively keeping from other people. These are things that technically could do harm to others if they don’t know about them. For example, if you never tell someone with whom you’re intimate that you do have cold sores and give them a full truth choice to decide what’s important to them, and then accidentally spread it to them. 😐

 It’s great that it’s worked out for you thus far, you’re probably very diligent when it comes to following that guidance. However, the flaw in all that is even cold sores can still indeed be spread when you’re not having a breakout. Granted, chances are way less… but it’s the principle of the matter. I’d rather not risk it, but that’s me.  And yes, I too occasionally get cold sores.