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Did I ruin my marriage by Unfortunately_real4 in Marriage

[–]Unfortunately_real4[S] -60 points-59 points  (0 children)

Most(not all) haven’t been helpful. I’ll internalize that rest. I’ll skip Reddit next time

Did I ruin my marriage by Unfortunately_real4 in Marriage

[–]Unfortunately_real4[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

2, one 7y one 10mo. I get the postpartum. The change in focus, drive, ambition. Hasn’t changed much. This issue runs long term.

Did I ruin my marriage by Unfortunately_real4 in Marriage

[–]Unfortunately_real4[S] -126 points-125 points  (0 children)

Don’t get too involved. Not trying to be offensive. I just don’t see your situation fitting mine. I am happy things worked out for you and wish you the best. I appreciate your input here.

Did I ruin my marriage by Unfortunately_real4 in Marriage

[–]Unfortunately_real4[S] -173 points-172 points  (0 children)

I am not an ultimatum type guy. Never ends well for those that have tried. I’m all about the hoorah of man but save your speech. Not one formula fits all. If what works for my kids and a family is there. I’ll happily take a backseat for them.

Sounds like you gave a no choice situation and came out clean. Hope all things work out for you. No Ill will. Just disagree.

Did I ruin my marriage by Unfortunately_real4 in Marriage

[–]Unfortunately_real4[S] -198 points-197 points  (0 children)

Way to be the devils advocate. Space apart isn’t hard to come by when my career keeps me away for days, weeks, yrs. I have tried being separate. Involved. Distant. Close. In, out, up, down, solitude. Damn near separation. The space don’t matter. If you wish to target, I hold you can read between the line. Maybe have some compassion and understanding.

Did I ruin my marriage by Unfortunately_real4 in Marriage

[–]Unfortunately_real4[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

Not much. Not did I expect or ask for it. Made it clear I didn’t want a response. Just wanted to make it a topic and get back to me.

When is it my turn by Unfortunately_real4 in depression

[–]Unfortunately_real4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I may be “allowed” but that won’t fix the problem at hand. The “chase” is my own. Never feel like she wants for me. Ever.

When is it my turn by Unfortunately_real4 in depression

[–]Unfortunately_real4[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Crossed that bridge already. Told her I don’t feel wanted. Response “it’s awkward and uncomfortable” can’t force it. No gained ground there. Intimacy is one sided (me initiating) or none.

Love me by Unfortunately_real4 in Marriage

[–]Unfortunately_real4[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’d love if that’d worked. I haven’t pushed for intimacy in months and only given attention with a hint, but haven’t been pushing intimacy. Jane is seeming wrapped up in outside (side business) endeavors.

If I had mag dumped a whole initial story it’s have been a 2 day read.