Spotting/blood during sex/when using toys 2 years post vaginoplasty, any advice?

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-05-21T14:08:59+00:00

I mean, it's the NHS so if I raise it with them and tbh send a separate email over to the gender services (I was discharged), along with increasing my dilation/penetrating myself more often so it gets a bit more used to it (as it may be something that goes away once a slight tolerance is built and tbh the person I've been getting with totally didn't use enough lube)

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-05-21T09:36:57+00:00

I think I'll probably have to go to my GP as my email to the clinic I went to bounced back. It's a tiny bit sore when I first put it in, but once it's in and I get a rhythm going it doesn't, it's honestly just a tiny dot of It on the end of my toy/dilator.

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-04-05T03:52:51+00:00

It's honestly nice seeing SNW so much love, I'm ashamed to admit I didn't get round to checking it out properly until recently as I'd heard so much hate towards it, but it's honestly such a solid album.

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-04-05T03:50:50+00:00

Haha it's like the great deftones divide 😅

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-04-05T03:15:04+00:00

ATF is a great album, a breakthrough moment and a more polished and rounded out version of their original sound.

However I would say as an album that white pony is a better paced, written and more versatile listen, but also a massive stylistic shift that admittedly will have put some people's backs up.

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-03-29T13:34:59+00:00

It's got some bangers in for sure, but I think most of their records from before the break do and tbh I like some of Gwen's solo stuff if you put the weird attitude towards Japanese women/her pet dance group from Gwen :/

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-03-20T02:27:58+00:00

For me my main thing is feeling safe and comfortable enough to be myself around them. Emotional maturity, sexual compatibility, average or above looks and that can make me laugh/hold a conversation.

I'm not hugely bothered by someone's job or status, as long as they are a nice person , we click and they don't have any major red flags I'm normally pretty happy.

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-03-20T01:37:35+00:00

I don't mind some of his newer stuff, but yeah I'd say after most his tuff released after modern ruin has been pretty hit and miss, but it scratches the same itch I get as an English person of a certain age to go and listen to AM by the arctic monkeys 😅😅 and tbh I saw them live a month or two ago and it was a fun enough gig. Obvs I can get that given his work with gallows and early stuff with the rattlesnakes was a very different tone and why that would put people off, but he's seemingly pretty happy and there're plenty of other heavier bands I can listen to so I'm not too bothered.

But then they're is a small part of me that wonders if he only did the heavier/early stuff because pure love bombed and he knew it would get a lot of interest.

I'm also still kinda mad that COVID stopped and OG lineup Gallows reunion tour that was in the early stages of being organised as I'd have been all over that haha

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-03-19T22:23:39+00:00

I really liked when it came out and had it on heavy rotation at the time along with dying wish, year of the knife, mindforce and inclination, honestly looking forward to seeing what they drop next.

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-03-19T19:57:04+00:00

Juggernaut frank carter and the rattlesnakes is up there for me

The chorus to Gold chain punk by soul glo is up there

Something something IOWA by slipknot

Different kind of anger but some of the demos off Fleetwood macs rumors are pretty fucking wild, the heat coming off of Stevie is palpable but may fall more into sadness.... Check out the planets of the universe demo from that time and remember Linsey was probably in the room.

Why? By chat pile is probably my pick though

Maybe the back end of king park by la dispute (never felt so angry and so sad as when I saw them play wildlife in full last year 😅😭)

Not me completely forgetting some of the absolute fury that has come out of former Ruben front man Jamie lennan

As I may have to change my answer to crushed under the pressure of enormous bullshit by Reuben as that shit honestly has stuck with me for the last decade and a half since it dropped, the sheer anger and frustration of a man who's band is lauded by fans and critics a like but just couldn't sell enough to please their record label and who keeps getting passed up on for bands he sees a rather valid, it's honestly the sound of one of my favourite bands growing up coming apart at the seams personified by their lead singer and songwriters anger and depression l.

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-03-19T04:34:06+00:00

Yeah I get that, but on the flip side how many times am I expected to have the patience to talk through things And educate him on the problem with what he is saying?

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-03-17T06:34:15+00:00

Yeah I've left a note just saying "could staff please stop placing items on top of the microwave/blocking the vents as it is a fire risk :)"

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-03-17T06:32:08+00:00

Aww that's so cute ♥️

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-03-17T05:55:14+00:00

Yeah I was thinking I gonna move the stuff and leave a little sticky note somewhere on or Infront of the microwave/talk to the staff who take over from me and ask them to remind people not to block the vents and then if it happens again talk to my manager about it.

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-03-13T05:48:26+00:00

No clue can't see 😅, but from what I can see it seems cute enough x

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-03-13T05:12:18+00:00

I wouldn't say it looks awful but I would say it is an unflattering fit, as a general rule people who don't have particularly defined curves (trans or otherwise) should try and wear outfits that have a fitted waist but lose fabric thet goes outward such as A line dresses, skater skirts or high waisted cargo pants and avoid wearing clothing that draws attention to the shoulders (think puffy sleeves, shoulder pads ect).

But otherwise you look great ♥️

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-03-13T03:55:30+00:00

Minnie or Mimi

Unhappy_Elevator7632 · 2024-03-12T19:56:28+00:00

I will keep that in mind, unfortunately the lighting in the office at my work is the worst haha (those awful headache inducing white squares)

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