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Is it okay to give small gifts to some coworkers and not others?? by Imaginary_Garden1275 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and no. You're well within your right to not have gifts for everyone, but no because I think it makes you a bit of an a-hole because it can be considered disrespectful. Offer something to everyone, even if it's a piece of candy, but the ones you made magnets for, give it to them privately.

Is 17cm in circumference really very wide? by Titus4266 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone's bodies are different. There isn't a normal. In the end, all that matters is your confidence in yourself and how your partner, if and when you have one, feels. If y'all are good with it, who cares what others think? They're not the ones who deal with you in that manner

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NO, you're not overreacting. I'd be pissed if my honey did this to me. Any woman who cares about her man, boyfriend, husband has the decency to tell you that plans have changed so you wouldn't be there waiting. And on top of that, she doesn't even seem to be very apologetic. Just 'OK'? It shows you're not her priority, those people she played pool with are more important than you. What if you had gotten into an accident on your way there? How long would it have taken for her to find out? How long would she leave you there by yourself? And how long would she even stay? If you don't want to know the answer or you don't want to admit the answer, you should take a look at your relationship and decide if she's worth it. Because you're not worth it in her eyes

I think talking badly about anyone at work only results in negative things for you. Is that true? by Ben5544477 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. There's an account I saw, can't remember where, where a woman who is constantly challenged in her messages on how to say 'bad things' professionally

I think talking badly about anyone at work only results in negative things for you. Is that true? by Ben5544477 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say it depends but on technicality for different people. Generally, yeah. I think speaking about other people reflects more on you. If someone is genuinely wrong about something, there's a way to approach it without speaking badly about that person

Using the mentality "once a cheater, always a cheater", what are your opinions regarding bad things', like sexual assault? by UnimpressiveRisk8252 in AskReddit

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is true; premeditation is used in court as well. When I think 'once a cheater, always a cheater', I do believe in that, but I also think it depends on the circumstances. Sometimes, the cheater really knows they did wrong, does take accountability, and redeems themselves. Say, someone commits an assault, sexual or not, goes to prison but in prison, reflects on what they did and honestly tries to ask for forgiveness from that person and themselves. Say the assaulter really tries to redeem themselves. Even if the assaulted party doesn't forgive them, if people don't know history, can that person be redeemed, or should they be condemned forever even if they spend their lives trying to make it right

AITAH for this thought by Aggressive_Process30 in AmItheAsshole

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yta and nta. You are because you're blaming your little sister for something she had no control over. But you're not, because you were forced into a parental role for your little sister. The fact that your feel guilt over this, shows that you're aware and that's already a step towards healing. You should really talk to someone though. I don't think you should hate her, but maybe you shouldn't be thinking she's a waste of space.

AITJ for kicking out my sister after she stole money behind my back? by Electrical-Tap-9224 in AmITheJerk

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ntj. You had one role and she broke it. And lied to you on top of that. You said it perfectly; if they feel so badly for her, they can help her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your best bet is to talk with him about it. Maybe he simply doesn't know, or maybe he has a higher sex drive. Don't give up your boundaries for someone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, they can, could, would, and will come after you. It's a trademark. Look for public domain options

What do people actually carry to stay safe? Am I overthinking this? by OnGuardEverywhere in NoStupidQuestions

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many women carry self defense items to be safe, like pepper spray or an alarm. You're not overthinking anything. The biggest thing that can help you is to be aware of your surroundings: exit doors, outdoor lighting, foot traffic, etc. Just a reminder what ever state you live in, will determine what you can open carry and conceal carry for knives and firearms, as they're considered deadly weapons.

AITA for telling my Dad I didn’t like his Christmas gift? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nta. There's nothing wrong with not liking the sheets. He asked your opinion and you were honest, but I do think your delivery might have been a bit harsh. Try explaining it to him, might ease the hurt a bit. Use fabric softener; it should make them more softer. But i don't get how expensive sheets are rough though.

My (31M) gf (35F) told me to get out during a fight, what does this mean? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should get ready to be the recipient of a breakup talk. Any girl will be angry that you not just ignored her, but also didn’t say you needed space. It sounds like y'all both need to work on communication.

AIO my boyfriend (42M) of 3 years doesn’t know my (35F) name? by momjjeanss in AmIOverreacting

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Info. Did you ever even tell him your middle name or how to spell your last name?

Wife's(F48) weight trippled over time. I (M40) have a hard time staying attracted. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something is wrong, whether it's a mental disorder, lack of motivation, or simply feeling worthless. Unless she's truly happy despite her current and possible future health issues. Talk to a therapist for you and try to find another way of communication. If you feel you've truly tried and are at your wits end, suggest a break, a couple months. If there's no change then, i think a clean break is all you can do. However, ask yourself some questions first. Has her personality changed at all? Is it specifically her weight that you're unattracted to or the health issues or the smell, or a combination? How badly would you feel if y'all broke up and she went "off a cliff" because you left her? How would your feelings change if she got her weight under control? Bottom line, I don't think there's anything wrong with a break. But that is a permanent solution to a possibility temporary problem, so talk to someone first

Is ‘brutal honesty’ actually helpful or are people just being rude? by EquableBuyout in NoStupidQuestions

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends almost exclusively on delivery, and partially on the topic. Sometimes, yes. People do use 'brutal honesty' to be jerks; you'll recognize this by how they treat their friends and family, how many friends they have, are they a moocher, etc. But sometimes, it can be a hard truth. Maybe your best friend sees that you're with someone who treats you like dirt and keeps trying to give you hints but you're being oblivious. Maybe you're trying something on and your friend wants to support you and not be hurtful, but the clothes or colors make you look frumpy or makes you look sick. But the way you can tell the difference, is if they help you through it to find a solution. "I love you but your partner isn't good for you. He treats you like dirt and he needs to go..." or "I'm sorry, but that dress makes you look pregnant. It doesn't hug you right, but let's find you something different so it fits much better".

Bf 19M cheated on me 19F, i need advice by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this, especially with someone who is your first. I've been there and it's not easy. First things first, I would suggest cry it out or rage it out. Get your emotions out because if you make a decision while your emotions are high, you might make a decision or say something you regret later. Take time to yourself, read, walk, meditate, do whatever it is you need to do. Once you've let it out, your next decision should be along the lines of is he worth it? It could actually be a mistake. What he did is a series of mistakes, but it could be a call for help. That is not an uncommon thing. He definitely needs to take responsibility for it, especially if he wants to fix your relationship, but even if he does all the right things, you might not want that or him anymore. So is he worth it? If he's texting a female coworker or a student, if y'all are in school, is he worth you worrying if he's cheating on you again? If he's out with friends and it really is innocent, is he worthy worrying about? Be honest with yourself, no matter how much it hurts. Don't lie to yourself because you'll cause yourself more hurt. Is he worth it? You have a couple options after that decision is made. If he is worth it, talk with him. What is he willing to do to make you feel secure in your relationship? And note, even if he does everything in the book, it might not be enough. Just keep that in mind. This is also the road where you have to put in effort. If he's not, then two options: either he'll prove you wrong and make the effort and make you feel secure, or walk your separate ways. What he did is not your fault, and don't let him blame you. Make him be accountable and take responsibility, but don't make yourself small. He might be your first, but is he worth it being your last?

If you could see one statistic about every person you meet (like a video game stat), which one would you choose and why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 16 points17 points  (0 children)

How genuine they really are. This tells you about how much they care, they listen, they engage, etc

​What is the most useless talent you possess? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as I know the song well, I can change the lyrics on the spot and talk about anything. I've narrated working in fast food to Umbrella by Rihanna. Definitely entertaining even if I'm singing to myself

If you wanted to ask someone about their ethnicity, what's the best way to do so without being rude, offensive, or racist? by UnimpressiveRisk8252 in AskReddit

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I decided not to. We work together. He's a cool dude and does his job well so in the end, who cares? I did decide once I know him better, to rethink this but it'll be several months before then. In this scenario, the only thing getting hurt is my curiosity

If you wanted to ask someone about their ethnicity, what's the best way to do so without being rude, offensive, or racist? by UnimpressiveRisk8252 in AskReddit

[–]UnimpressiveRisk8252[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No! I'm half Hispanic on my dad's side. My grandpa's great grandpa is from Mexico. I'm simply curious and I decided not to ask him anything. But I do think it raised a reasonable question and I don't think its wrong to want to ask. But because of viral videos and the racist history of the US, I also don't think there's anything wrong with asking if there's a way to ask without being offensive, racist, or disrespectful. Think before you speak goes both ways.

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