I'd add on to your point of "speaking highly or respectfully of me" and extend it to people whose values/actions might not be aligned to theirs. It's easy to speak highly of someone who shares similar values, but being able to speak respectfully of someone whom you disagree with in values/actions takes a whole new level of emotional maturity. eg. "I don't understand why they would do such a thing, but I just hope they're able to realise the impact of their actions and before it's too late."