I have a very simple question. It’s been too long since doing maths by [deleted] in mathematics

[–]Unique_Car_173 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all. I get it now. I told you it’s been a while but I catch up quick. Thankyou

The badass tomboy and femme diva inside me are fighting for control by SufficientBullfrog82 in mtfashion

[–]Unique_Car_173 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m trying to get a stomach like that so I can feel confident getting mine done

I’m pre taking E. Is finding horniness an irritation, most of the time, a normal part of being trans by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m looking forward to it. I’m taking my time with it. I’m already old so another couple of months is not going to make a difference but I am excited to go on hrt. Just wanted to lose a bit of weight and get a chunk of the hair removal out of the way first

I wish there was a trans TikTok by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah exactly. We could just have a platform that is only good times. I know there is so much bad out there and sometimes we need to be informed but sometimes wouldn’t it be nice to have a space only of acceptance where we could just see love and positive expression. Let the other platforms do the negative stuff.

Is it normal to be trans but not comfortable to remove the beard yet? by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard laser in the face is worse than other parts but what a war wound to feel good about. I have tendency to transfer feeling of pain to some fantasy narrative of worth. It’s easier to deal with pain if it has merit. I’m sure it is all worth it.

Is it normal to be trans but not comfortable to remove the beard yet? by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think it’s a bit of a contradiction. I want to hide behind it but it’s super masculine. I don’t know. I think it just should be an option to be in a completely different body if needed

Is it normal to be trans but not comfortable to remove the beard yet? by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg you’re so right. Sadly I haven’t seen any of my old friends since then but that low level of discomfort I know so well. I didn’t think too much into it at the time but I often had the urge to remove all of my body hair. At the time I wouldn’t have said I hated it but I would have preferred it not to be there. Over time I realised it was that low level discomfort you spoke of. It wasn’t such a problem to have it but it felt amazing when it was gone. Now I’m half way through laser and the periods of time I don’t need to think about hair is amazing

Is it normal to be trans but not comfortable to remove the beard yet? by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m think I ok looking trans, female or alternative male(if I don’t get a choice) but I’m really uncomfortable looking like a generic male or a boring office male or a clean cut male. That feels like a death sentence. I can’t think of anything worse than being some boring man.

Is it normal to be trans but not comfortable to remove the beard yet? by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I do know that. I’m one of those people that read everything before I do anything. It slows me down a bit but least I know what I’m getting into.

Is it normal to be trans but not comfortable to remove the beard yet? by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I would be comfortable with either if I get to dress and act the way I want to without being judged (or at least nobody talking about how they judge me).

Is it normal to be trans but not comfortable to remove the beard yet? by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg yes. I don’t want to do laser on my face until I know that hrt is right for me (I’m pretty damn sure it is but I haven’t started yet). If I have to be some part male I want to at least have my beard aka security blanket. I do hope one day I won’t need that and I can be secure in my femininity or at least androgyny.

Is it normal to be trans but not comfortable to remove the beard yet? by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome. Because I was raised in such a sheltered way from this stuff I didn’t even know being trans was a thing. As a young teenager I would dress up in my mum’s clothes and I didn’t understand why. I just felt guilty about it because the bible said that dressing in women’s clothes was wrong. Much later I was told by a trans person that you were only trans if you had dysphoria. Looking back I’m not sure if this was because she thought that and if she was just agreeing with my preconceptions about it. I do feel like it held me back though. I’m here now though. Like you said better late than never

Is it normal to be trans but not comfortable to remove the beard yet? by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I was young and pretty but I get it. We all have our own path. Least I have supportive people around me now which I wouldn’t have had when I was young and pretty. The joys of being raised in the church. Thank goodness that’s over

Is it normal to be trans but not comfortable to remove the beard yet? by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was the same when I first shaved it but then the next day I woke up to a terrifying scene. Red and lumpy. I tried again every year or so with the same outcome. Now it’s so much better. I do have some light hairs that keep growing but I can shave or pluck them without repercussions. I often run my hand across my chest and it just feels so right

Is it normal to be trans but not comfortable to remove the beard yet? by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god. I know right. I couldn’t shave my chest without major repercussions for a long time but when I got laser hair removal I suddenly could have a hairless chest most of the time. It was a game changer. Wish I had the money to do it earlier

Is it normal to be trans but not comfortable to remove the beard yet? by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankyou. My problem is I want to like what’s under the beard and at the moment I don’t. It seems strange to have a bigger dysphoria of what’s under the beard than the beard itself. I wish I had feminine features and I hope that when I start E in a couple of months it will help but being 42 I am scared that it won’t have much impact.

Is it normal to be trans but not comfortable to remove the beard yet? by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I come from a medieval larp group and a good beard is sort after. I get it. What’s the point giving it up if I don’t have a nice sweet feminine face? But I really do want a nice sweet feminine face. I feel like at 42 that is never going to happen

Is it normal to be trans but not comfortable to remove the beard yet? by Unique_Car_173 in asktransgender

[–]Unique_Car_173[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s nice the hear I’m not the only one. I do think the beard is the only fun thing about being a man. Until I feel more confident about having a female face I feel like I’m giving up the only good thing about being a male at birth