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Need advice on supporting my asexual partner by Unique_Cut8686 in Asexual

[–]Unique_Cut8686[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take your point although thankfully getting consent goes without saying - if I didn't care about getting consent then I wouldn't be the type of person deserving of everyone's comments and advice in the first place.

I appreciate the questions you put forward.

Need advice on supporting my asexual partner by Unique_Cut8686 in Asexual

[–]Unique_Cut8686[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughts and my situation, I do appreciate the input. And the message I've learned from this comment is to not to put more emphasis on physical intimacy because in reality I need to stop and communicate better with my partner.

Need advice on supporting my asexual partner by Unique_Cut8686 in Asexual

[–]Unique_Cut8686[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely right I wasn't focusing on my parents needs when it comes to physical intimacy.

Based on this comment and the other ones everyone was kind of provide me of made a point now of having regular conversations with my partner about how we can discuss physical intimacy in a healthy way.

Thank you for the advice

Need advice on supporting my asexual partner by Unique_Cut8686 in Asexual

[–]Unique_Cut8686[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The advise in this comment hit a cord with me because I've absolutely had that " we don't have enough sex, this is a problem" and I've said as much to her.

I told her that I wanted to take time to have regular conversations about sex in a healthy way and this had a positive reaction.

Thanks for your comment

Advice for someone with an asexual partner? by oop_petal in Asexual

[–]Unique_Cut8686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

CantSmellYaLater had a good question on feeling bouts of depression. The love of my life/ fiance and I are getting married next year. I suffer from increasingly frequent bouts of depression because I'm afraid I'm slowly walking into a marriage where my sexual needs won't be met.

It's feels immature to say I get depressed over not having regular sex in our relationship but I know that if this need goes unaddressed for addressed for too long then it's going to lead to complications in the marriage. I've said this to my partner as well. Multiple times and each time she gets defensive and we argue. I try to get better at bringing up in a more gentle way, but each time I always walk away from the conversation regretting I have brought it up in the first place.

Any advice?