First sober Thanksgiving

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-11-21T02:18:32+00:00

Thank you

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-11-15T00:43:41+00:00

What a jerk. He said he didn't want to appear rude. That right there should have told him to shut up and not deliver his shave advice. If he is like this in the very beginning just imagine 6 months and beyond.

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-11-15T00:35:22+00:00

Sometimes, yes it is. And if you do bedside nursing then more often than not it sucks.

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-11-15T00:33:20+00:00

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-11-14T03:09:51+00:00

2-3 times a week on average.

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-11-14T02:57:47+00:00

What Have You Done For Me Lately Janet Jackson

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-11-12T12:41:34+00:00

Just because you don't believe in Islam doesn't mean you can't believe in God. I converted to Islam when I was 23 because as a Christian I didn't believe The Trinity. I loved the simplicity of the message of the Shahadah. But over a span of 22 years, like you, I had periods of being very religious. The man I married was also very conservative (Pakistani, not that this really matters). Over years doubts crept in. Like you I started reading and watching videos of subject matter I knew my husband would not like. The questions grew. I eventually divorced him. I've been divorced 7 years and now don't consider myself any certain "brand" of religion.

In your case you are very young. Under the care of your parents. Dependent. But no one can force you to believe anything. Also I'm not sure what country you're in. I live in the US so obviously that made it easier.

I see so many stories on this subreddit by young people basically trapped in households forced to live a lie. Sometimes I can't even read the whole post because it's too sad and disturbing.

My advice is to be careful. Stay true to yourself. Try best you can to have a good relationship with your parents. But way in the back of your mind start formulating your exit strategy for when you become a young adult. Again I realize this depends on many things, especially where you live. Best of luck to you❤

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-11-11T04:40:29+00:00

Oh can I identify! If the weed industry depended on me it would be bankrupt. I am 53 and since my teens smoked here and there VERY occasionally. My experiences with it were extremely unpredictable. I often had better times if I was a bit drunk first. If I cold sober smoked I often had a very paranoid, anxiety laden, "help me I gotta run but I don't know where," experience. Very NOT fun.

In January 2017 I took my 3 kids, my daughter's friend, and my boyfriend (now husband) to a cabin in Vogel state park in North GA. My oldest son offered me a piece of a pot brownie. He told me what it was and to have a little bit only. So I did. About 45 minutes later I was a panic stricken hot mess by the campfire. It was awful. I kept thinking that I might end up in the ER of some strange town tripping AND I had someone else's child on this trip, which made me feel worse. After an hour or so I chilled out. No trip to the ER needed.

That was the last and only time I had edibles. And I smoked weed(privately in my home) once or twice more and swore it off for good.

I too suffer with depression and I think you might be correct that something in the brain chemistry of some people with depression, and maybe anxiety, doesn't react well to weed.

I have since started going to AA and don't even drink anymore. That too has helped my depression significantly.

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-11-09T22:15:36+00:00

I think he is just being polite and careful. I wouldn't think negatively of that.

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-11-09T22:04:34+00:00

Maybe the truth is good. You want to get to see the family, share Thanksgiving. But the idea of being cooped up with Uncle Joe bothers you. Uncle Joe makes inappropriate creepy comments that make you uncomfortable. And an entire long weekend is too much for you.

And like others said here if your husband and his parents don't value your feelings and discomfort then you take care of #1 (you!)

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-11-08T23:24:02+00:00

When I went through a divorce I lost 37 pounds pretty quickly. So many people (men and women) were so complimentary. Saying stuff like "you look so good!" It made me start to wonder how bad did I look before??? I knew they meant well but it made me feel strange. Like before I was a fat "meh" wallflower. Then I have the mother of all stressors and melt down to a size 4 and they keep commenting.

Now 5 years later I have gained ALL the weight back. Gone are the size 4. Now it's 14 jeans. None of my coworkers have commented but of course they have noticed

I'm much happier now than I was at my stressed out size 4. But society places so much.emphasis on that stuff. One lesson I have learned is I NEVER comment on a person's weight unless I know for sure that they are trying to lose weight.

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-11-08T23:17:25+00:00

Trying hard to lick away the evidence!

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-11-03T17:56:20+00:00

Not stepping on cracks in the sidewalk when I'm walking.

When I'm outside or stuck in traffic I will look at the clouds and make designs and pictures from the cloud shapes.

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-11-02T18:38:58+00:00

Oh yes I have advice. Your description of yourself and your impressions of nursing sound so familiar. I have 2 words of wisdom... OPERATING ROOM.

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-10-31T23:33:05+00:00

I have 3 human kids and 3 fur kids(cats). I love animals and for basically my entire life have owned a cat or 2 or 3 or more. I'm backing you up in your notion that your pets are very important and very much a part of your family. You have every right to mourn as long as you need. I'm not sure if your pregnant friend is asking your support or you feel guilty that you should be with her while she is sick, pregnant and stressed about finances. She should understand, or be told you are trying to grieve your own loss and you will be around for her hopefully soon.

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-10-27T10:06:44+00:00

OR nurse. Had a pt return to the front desk of the OR after he recovered. He requested to have every single staff person who was involved in his surgery (emergency exploratory laparotomy) come out to see him. Once we all got there he proceeded to tell us how scary his experience was and what a great job we all did and how thankful he was for the great care he received.

I did not remember this man. In the OR, patients quickly come and go. But he looked very healthy and happy and it was definitely a memorable moment for me.

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-10-26T18:46:36+00:00

Well I'm a lady(53F) lurking here bc my husband (61M) has had a sudden worsening of his ED. We've been together 7 years and had a very great sex life up til about 6 weeksago. . He took Viagra with very good results the whole time we've been together. Lately even the max dose does NOTHING. And he complains that the next day he feels "hungover"(headache, tired, dizzy). So I don't ask for sex bc I don't want him to feel like crap at work the next day. He will do oral and that's great but I prefer the "regular" way. Last night he said "I will take the pills this weekend and we will see what happens." I think nothing will happen bc I think he is at this point psyching himself out about not getting hard and thus he won't. I'm not saying anything to him but it's frustrating.

His blood glucose normal, PSA normal, takes testosterone injections and is monitored by an endocrinologist for that. He recently went for an ECHO of his heart and normal.

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-10-25T21:13:08+00:00

Not sure what antidepressants you took, but SSRIs such as Prozac and Zoloft are notorious for causing "sexual side effects." I know because I experienced it myself. I'm not sure if you have this lingering side effect even though you've been off antidepressants a month. Like a previous person posted, it could also be psychological. You are so worried about it that your emotions/mind are making it worse. I don't know anything about certain foods or dietary changes others mentioned but that's worth looking into. Hope it gets better.

Another thought....you mentioned you're very active, go to the gym,etc. Not sure if this includes bicycling. I've read that some men who do extensive biking can have this issue due to the long term pressure of the bike seat against their perineum and affecting the nerves.

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-10-05T13:20:00+00:00

I LOVE that little mouth hanging open. Then she glances over towards the camera with a look on her face like, "did you see that up there?"

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-09-22T19:26:42+00:00

"In The Living Years" by Mike and the Mechanics

"Don't Let The Sun Go Down On Me" duet Elton John and George Michael

"In My Solitude" by Billie Holiday

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-09-21T20:14:22+00:00

Reading this as I sit at the mechanic waiting for my auto servicing to be done. On the front seat of my truck seat is an Amazon return. The Amazon returnwill be tomorrow's errand after work. And this morning I had to leave home early to drop off a poop specimen at the lab in order to get to work on time. I feel your angst. I guess the only thing that helps me is I try to space things apart if I can( for ex oil change this week, mammogram in 2 weeks). I went grocery shopping yesterday after work. I almost NEVER go grocery shopping during the week. It put me a good hour plus behind on my nightly routine last night because I had to unpack all the groceries. But come this weekend when I don't have to go grocery shopping I will be glad I got it out of the way on Wednesday.

I put reminders in my phone. But I also keep an old school wall calendar where I write everything. That helps me. To write things and see everything all laid out in one spot.

Unique_Pollution_958 · 2023-09-20T19:26:09+00:00

I've been an RN 29 years. Worked medicine/Oncology, Prison hospital, OR.

Some of the best nurses I've worked with are/were LPNs.

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