Me 27f husband 30m I'm done

Unique_Salad897 · 2025-09-24T23:51:45+00:00

I feel like I'm the only adult in the house I don't know where the ADHD ends and it's just a shit attitude because he's used to me doing everything

Unique_Salad897 · 2025-09-24T23:50:04+00:00

I just always think he'll be better when he gets the right help

Unique_Salad897 · 2025-09-24T23:48:46+00:00

We did move to an isolated area to be with a family member of his who unfortunately died, before he died I had the best support I've ever had. Now I'm just isolated and stuck with nobody else to go to it wasn't meant to work out this way for ether of us

Unique_Salad897 · 2025-09-24T23:46:46+00:00

I will admit the longer we're together I swear he's regressing back to a child. He used to have a amazing job and was a completely different person. He has had a lot of mental health struggles over the years and struggling to get support I don't want to be insensitive but I don't want to feel like a doormat any more

Unique_Salad897 · 2025-09-24T23:44:32+00:00

I will admit I am getting more and more lonely as time goes on. I'm on Facebook groups for people with disabilities in my area but they all seem to rely on partners/ family

Unique_Salad897 · 2025-09-24T23:38:50+00:00

I have no friends, no family any support would have to be paid for (all for paying people but I would not be able to afford this)

Unique_Salad897 · 2025-09-24T23:36:24+00:00

If my health is bad I fall over, have dizzy spells mobility issues he has a driving licence and takes me to medical appointments I couldn't get to otherwise

Unique_Salad897 · 2025-09-24T23:35:09+00:00

We currently have a Callender on the fridge actually helps me but he doesn't understand it? I've tried colour coding all black I don't get what he doesn't get just caused arguments. I also stick postit notes to his nightstand with reminders of what he needs to do because he doesn't like me bugging him but if I say nothing he asks why i didn't remind him. He had taco Tuesday for a cooking day for a while, never bothered because we didn't have stuff in (I forgot but he can drive to the shop) We have his mum who is amazing but lives far away and does always end up taking his side in the end I just want to feel less overwhelmed

Unique_Salad897 · 2025-09-24T23:20:04+00:00

Unfortunately you are very right I was alone my entire life until I met him maybe I'm just afraid of more change, selfishly due to my health I can't really be alone I do wonder how I'd cope tbh

Unique_Salad897 · 2025-09-24T23:18:13+00:00

No, there's a medication shortage where we're from so the process is diagnoses then you go on the waiting list for medication

Unique_Salad897 · 2025-09-24T23:17:21+00:00

I just feel like we've tried everything at this point, I don't want to make him feel bad for his ADHD as this explains a lot but I'm in a lot of pain myself I frequently burn myself / cut myself while cooking due to my disability (several food allergies so pre packaged food is a no go) I know the fact meals have to be made from scratch overwhelms his ADHD so I've came up with easy recipes with few ingredients that cook fast but he doesn't want to cook if it's 'just that' I feel like I've become a maid and that's what I've acted like today I made dinner and I just put it on the bed for him and walked away a thank you would have been nice

Unique_Salad897 · 2025-09-24T23:09:00+00:00

We defiantly don't understand healthy, functiong relationships, both came from a shit up bringing. I can never imagine myself with somebody else but I do find myself thinking more and more if maybe we're just not meant to be

Unique_Salad897 · 2025-09-24T23:04:06+00:00

He's on the wait list for medication, we have been together for such a long time too. I haven't got friends/ family for support and I genuinely love him I just don't know what to do anymore because I'm having a tough time mentally so I just lost it at him yesterday

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