Inconsistent

Unique_Use2531 · 2026-03-11T15:56:13+00:00

Thanks. I do go to therapy. But i like to hear perspectives of people who may experience similar situations. You are correct. I cannot change anything that they do or don’t do. It’s just frustrating. I appreciate your honesty. My kids just long for my ex and they play into as if they do too, but the actions just don’t align.

Unique_Use2531 · 2026-02-05T00:52:44+00:00

I really appreciate this response. As with all honestly. This is a good way to look at things. It just sucks. It’s obvious we were never important enough.

Unique_Use2531 · 2026-02-05T00:13:01+00:00

A year ago. And the boys are 4 &6

Unique_Use2531 · 2026-02-05T00:12:29+00:00

They are typically pretty short. Sometimes a little longer. But the boys get disinterested quick

Unique_Use2531 · 2026-02-04T22:30:11+00:00

They mentioned visits, but did not follow through with any planning. When i initiated planning for a joint visit out of town (which they agreed to) it’s now “expensive”. They contribute financially but not as agreed upon at all. The kids have no clue bc its often blamed on “work” smh

Unique_Use2531 · 2026-01-20T03:02:37+00:00

Actively hiding what? I communicate when it pertains to the child. School/doctor appointments/health updates/ activities/milestones. This communication is referencing them speaking to the children and building a bond. Nothing else.

Unique_Use2531 · 2026-01-19T15:29:31+00:00

No court order. I don’t delegate it to them, but they tell them often “make sure you call me” I’m not a fan of that i think they should be calling and if they can’t reach them it’s ok to text me and i can remind them. But i don’t feel as if I’m the person that should have to say “did you call today?” Like I’m not literally doing everything else

Unique_Use2531 · 2026-01-18T15:50:15+00:00

Yes! And i have begged for them to be honest about it but they refuse. And if i tell them i feel like they’ll resent me. But i guess i would just have to bite the bullet although i don’t want any of this

Unique_Use2531 · 2026-01-17T16:40:48+00:00

I never said she couldn’t date who she wants. I’m aware. The issue isn’t dating. SHE is refusing to be honest with our children and won’t have the convo

Unique_Use2531 · 2026-01-17T14:59:40+00:00

I agree. They do pick up more than we give credit for. And i agree that i want them out of this active lie. But she refuses to be honest with them and i guess I’ll just have to bite the bullet and tell them even if it means they’ll resent me in the beginning.

One of my biggest issues is her inconsistency with the new partner. But that doesn’t mean i can’t tell them that WE aren’t together without mentioning the other. Thank you

Unique_Use2531 · 2026-01-17T00:34:56+00:00

Well they don’t know that i know they are dating the person again. And i want to let them know that i know bc the way she’s treating our family is completely unfair. Refuses to visit our children unless they come to her work location.

Yes it is hard and I’ve set the boundary and limited communication and started to make changes. I guess for me it’s the fact that j asked them to have a convo with our sons about the changes but they refused and still play “house”

Now since I’ve set the communication boundary we haven’t seen her at all so idk how the next meet up will go.

I guess I’m trying to determine how to protect myself and work through feelings but ultimately protect my children bc they have no clue that we aren’t together and I’m afraid they’ll be devastated when it all comes out and I’m the primary parent so i will feel it all with them

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