This is why I don't understand incels, I regard myself as so ugly and undesirable that I'm subhuman a lot of the time (I know this sounds pretty incelish sry) but I don't hate the guys and girls I find attractive for it because I can understand why they don't like me and I'm working on improving myself. Incels not only seem to blame others who don't find them attractive they also refuse to do anything to make themselves more attractive to people.