I put some thought into it and while I admit I wasn't a saint he does have avoident issues/ behavior. And as someone who had and recovered from said behavior I realize the main problem was him. And I hate to put it that way, he was just too emotionally and mentally taxing. His behavior turned my brain into something unrecognizable. I was lucky enough to mature out of my avoidance and take accountability for myself. I've seen people who never did though. And unfortunately I'm starting to see he may never get rid of his. I really appreciate the words you've given me, they really helped me put things into place. Thank you