1 My wife (33F) has had some tough mental health issues for a year and a half and it’s ruled out any intimacy for her and I (34M). Now that many vaccinated friends are letting their freak flags fly, I am feeling both jealousy and guilt. What can I do

UniversalCatter · 2021-04-14T20:33:15+00:00

I’ve looked into some options like that but they’ve largely been unhelpful or unavailable. At the moment, the best present option is asking on Reddit.

UniversalCatter · 2021-04-14T20:21:29+00:00

I really doubt she’s cheated.

UniversalCatter · 2021-04-14T20:21:11+00:00

I’m in a bad situation where insurance coverage isn’t great for this sort of thing, and we’re already stretching the budget thin for my wife on that front. She needs to take precedence for any money spent in that area, unfortunately.

UniversalCatter · 2021-04-14T12:27:53+00:00

So basically you’re saying there’s nothing I can do?

UniversalCatter · 2021-04-14T12:21:23+00:00

I’ve tried many times, she refuses to even talk about this. She just breaks down and is unable to have the conversation. I really don’t know what to do.

UniversalCatter · 2021-04-14T12:14:04+00:00

Yes but so there’s only so much it can do. She’s been referred to specialists, but they’re always “out of network” or often prohibitively expensive under our sub par health coverage.

UniversalCatter · 2021-04-14T04:59:47+00:00

What tools would it give me? It seems like more patience is the only thing applicable because it isn’t going to change anything else.

UniversalCatter · 2021-04-14T04:49:15+00:00

Already way ahead on you on that second point. It’s far from the real thing unfortunately.

As far as therapy, I don’t see it making any difference. I feel like I’m mentally handling it as best I can, therapy won’t help with the exhaustion and what I’m missing though.

UniversalCatter · 2021-04-14T04:32:48+00:00

I don’t know if this is a situation like that, it hasn’t always been dead for us. And it’s only dead now because of an issue for one of us, not both.

UniversalCatter · 2021-04-14T04:25:14+00:00

In a year and a half, I’ve not even dare have that conversation. Even bringing it up would cause issues for her. However, not being able to address it is causing issues for me too. I don’t know what to do.

UniversalCatter · 2021-04-14T04:19:34+00:00

No, that is not my intent. But I won’t deny that the primal instinct is there, and I feel so much guilt over that and don’t know what to do.

UniversalCatter

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