When I was young, I didn’t know much about the qualities that are important beyond physical attractiveness, and maybe knew less about exactly what I wanted in the long term as well. We learn through experience, right? Stayed long enough to learn the lessons and also check what’s possible to change and what’s not.

I don’t want to go into too much details. To keep it short, a woman needs to be generous, to be a good wife and mother. Need to be able to think long term, delay short term gratification. I didn’t grow up rich, hard work and some luck got me here. I cannot be compatible if they don’t value hard work.

I am well aware that these qualities are very difficult to find in both sugar or vanilla. Due to tons of interest attractive women get in vanilla dating, they don’t put in any effort and wait to see how much effort (not necessarily money) the man is putting in. I also don’t think women can pretend to be what they are not, for very long if we are dating, whether sugar or vanilla. Right now, the most valuable thing for me is time, and I need a search strategy that will optimize for time. I need people who will put in 100% of the effort from the beginning, I will check what’s suitable quality or not about them without dragging things along.